Sophiemaltese From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 2064 posts, RR: 3 Reply 1, posted (11 years 2 months 2 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 3907 times:
It's not about who you are yourself but who you want to be with. Damn just the other day a guy asked me if I knew how gay dudes figure out who is on top or bottom or whatever. I'm like well, when you have sex how do you decide that?
AC320 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 2, posted (11 years 2 months 2 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 3902 times:
I am what I was born as
You just answered your own question, they are born as homosexuals or with the tendencies to become so. Better minds than you have tried to figured out exactly why gay people are, well "gay", and no one has been able to answer the question 100%. Personally I think it has something to do with just how the brain develops. Leave it at that; they are what they are just as you are what they are.
Barcode From Switzerland, joined Dec 2001, 678 posts, RR: 12 Reply 23, posted (11 years 2 months 2 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 3740 times:
Ok, as the resident dyke I'll try and answer JC17 seriously.
When I was 13 I fell in love with a girl at school. Well, maybe not " love " since you don't really have a notion of what that is at that age ... but whatever it was, it was nothing *physical.* In fact, in all my relationships (well, don't assume I'm a fountain of experience here as I've only ever been in love twice and in three relationships) - it's been an *emotional* thing. Granted, it helps if they look like Jodie Foster, but that's not the point. Nothing is ever going to happen unless I can make the emotional/mental/intellectual connection first. And I've just never ever experienced that with a male.
I've had boyfriends. When I was sixteen I had a six month relationship with a guy who was twenty something. I knew there was something strange when I was paying more attention to his girlie calendars on the wall whenever we were in bed together. No matter what he did ... I just couldn't well you know .... respond. I've never had one erotic feeling for a man beyond the fact I can appreciate a member of the species who I think is good looking.
As for the physical side: Believe it or not I'm not really into sex. I'd rather snuggle up to a partner and watch an afternoon of Star Trek. I do feel more *comfortable* with a woman - they know what I want, they're more tactile, and they can last more then ten minutes before falling asleep.
Maybe I'll meet a man who can offer me everything I need ... it is just highly unlikely. I don't have an answer for the precise cause - it's just something that's always been there. Yes, I suppose I had a dysfunctional background, but don't seize upon that - my siblings are straight. At the age of thirteen I didn't even know what being gay was; in fact it didn't cross my mind that there was anything wrong with desiring my best friend.
And there you have it. I won't be " converted " by sleeping with a man (probably reaffirm my lesbian status more than anything) and I don't need psychobabble thrown at me. I prefer women, and this fact happens to be about as relevant as my toothpaste choice in the morning :-]
OzarkD9S From United States of America, joined Oct 2001, 4783 posts, RR: 22 Reply 24, posted (11 years 2 months 2 weeks 1 day 14 hours ago) and read 3724 times:
How does it work? Much the same as straight sex, only with different options. Not all lesbians use vibrators or dildos. For every top or bottom gay man there are men like myself who are versatile. Why limit yourself? Why do some people (straight or gay) enjoy urinating or defecating on each other? To me that is far more disgusting....(no offense to any toilet tramps on the forum). Personally, I'ld rather have sex with a woman than have a really hot guy take a dump on me.
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25 KROC: You could cut the homophobia on this thread with a knife.... The new intolerant Nutsy makes an appearance. Just because someone asks a question, they
26 Racko: Let everybody do whatever they want, as long as they don't harm others. Really, I can't even imagine having fun with a man, but as long as the Gays do
27 Go Canada!: u have to take an exam before they let you practise it.
28 Mx5_boy: Kroc says: ""The new intolerant Nutsy makes an appearance. Just because someone asks a question, they feel is legitimate, because they don't understan
29 KROC: And give Nusty a break mate, both you and I know he's a smart cookie who is vastly intelligent and knowledgeable than half the people that frequent th
30 Mx5_boy: Kroc says, """Dudes profile has NOTHING to do with his understanding of the "gay way". Just because it has been explained however many times, and you
31 KROC: mb I challange the status quo as much as anyone, but when an issue like sexuality comes up, I think all questions that at least are not presented in a
32 Hartsfieldboy: Mx5_boy-How will people understand different lifestyles and cultures without asking questions? Sure, it may be annoying if people ask you to same stuf
33 D-AIGW: Let me tell you a few facts. 1. I am gay. Purely gay. 2. I like to look at guys and admire the beauty of their body. 3. My lover is a boy whom I have
34 Saintsman: I agree with Hartsfieldboy. Gays are crying out to be accepted but unfortunately a lot of people still don't understand. Gays have come a long way in
35 DeanBNE: Give this link a go: http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/facts.html God bless Evelyn Hooker. RIP
36 Chepos: By no means do I want to be a female, and I think females are beautiful- look at Shakira or Ely Guerra (hispanic women are the prettiest of them all)
37 Leftypilot79: You know...he made it sound like he was curious, and want to understand why people are gay. Well....you can answer that question, by asking yourself w
38 Mx5_boy: """Im not saying Im mr butch.....but Im certainly not breathing fire either. """ Liar! mb [insert - has thrown tantrum and sits back down again.] clow
39 Jcxp15: Yo, i don't have a problem with gay people, but why do some have to act so flagrant all the time? If they choose to be gay, it's ok, but they don't ha
40 KROC: Yo, i don't have a problem with gay people, but why do some have to act so flagrant all the time? If they choose to be gay, it's ok, but they don't ha
41 SKYSERVICE_330: How does it work. Well, you have to fill out and application and if they like your application then they will bring you in for an interview. If you ar
42 Greg: Okay....there are only so many 'tabs'...and so many 'slots.' I bet you can figure out the mechanics of it.
43 Rai: I think Darryl is asking some pretty honest and legitimate questions that even I would ask. I'm a straight male. I don't have any gay or lesbian frien
44 CPDC10-30: If I follow the same path in my life, it's most likely that I'll never have any friends of that orientation Rai, it is an interesting comment but I t
45 KROC: In terms of the attraction thing, I don't buy it when straight guys claim that they can't even detect the beauty or attractivness of another man. I ha
46 Hepkat: From reading some of the arguments on this thread, I wonder how some of us would find living in Europe. In these countries people aren't so hung up on
47 Flyguydsl: It works great. I am with the guy from Europe. (ha! no pun intended) At least here, in Vancouver, people generally don't care. My parents consider my
48 Jcxp15: Found a funny article on gay people at theonion.com http://www.theonion.com/onion3837/newly_out_gay_man.html
49 Jaysit: Rai - you hit the nail on the head !! Ditto for me, but in my case its always been men. I see the muscles and planes and curves on a man's body and i
50 Rai: I never said I never knew someone who was gay. I said that I never had a gay or lesbian friend before. I have met people who were homosexual and even
51 AM744: In 100% seriousness now (I am totally serious); why are there lesbians? Why would you favor something plastic instead of the real thing? This question
52 JamesAg96: If I were born a woman rest assured I would be a lesbian......Seriously, can you blame any woman that thinks another woman is attractive? J