Barcode From Switzerland, joined Dec 2001, 678 posts, RR: 11 Posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 927 times:
Does anyone really see age differences as a big deal? I ask this as I seem to be going through a phase where although I'm meeting a few people ... they are all ten or more years older. They seem to have a bigger issue with things than I do. Yet I don't consider people my age to be datable in general ... too immature ... not enough going on mentally .... which is I expect the perception many thirty somethings have of me. Catch 22.
Thoughts? I don't want to stay celibate for the next ten years.
Trickijedi From United States of America, joined May 2001, 3266 posts, RR: 4
Reply 4, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 18 hours ago) and read 897 times:
As much as I agree with everyone else - being that age doesn't really make a difference - I have to say that in some cases, age does make a difference. I mean, let's face it generally speaking, the older you are the more experience you have with the many things life throws at you. Although some people do mature faster than others.
Its better to be on the ground wishing you were in the air than be in the air wishing you were on the ground. Fly safe!
Notar520AC From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 1606 posts, RR: 4
Reply 8, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 14 hours ago) and read 831 times:
I have trouble, because I'm a hell of a lot more mature than everyone else in my school. It's really funny though- when I have friends over or they have me over I spend the majority of the time talking to the parents. That's just me. I'm more concerned with world news and stocks than playing football for 5 hours.
B747skipper From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 14 hours ago) and read 829 times:
I will be 59 end of the month...
When I was teenager, I liked older - mature people, they were educated, had life experience (kids my age then, did not know anything)...
I learned with them adults, and their advice, I followed their example.
Now I have the reverse situation...
Many teenagers tell me "bug off, you old fart..."
Just my kids adore me, my boy is 13 and girl is 12...
Their friends like me... but not teenagers who do not know me...
Even my wife, she is 25 years younger than me...
I say "why did you marry me, I am much older..."
She says "people my age were stupid..."
So, it is either love or hate relations...
I dont judge people by age...
Just by education and attitude...
There are great people of 20 of age, and idiots at 70...
Bravo45 From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 2165 posts, RR: 11
Reply 10, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 13 hours ago) and read 812 times:
Age may or maynot make a difference. But to me its not JUST the age that makes the difference, its a factor that plays its role according to the situation that one might be in. For example in terms of aviation, I can enjoy the company of any knowledgeable person unconcerned with the age. But its not that age doesn't makes any difference. Thats my two cents.
AWspicious From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 12 hours ago) and read 793 times:
I suppose it's all relative, ain't it... If you can relate to someone who's older or younger than you... even by a decade or more, then, that sets the stage for how close you can become with that person or group of people. Also, I suppose there's something to be said for the age range, also. Someone who's 20 might not have a good enough relationship with a 40 year old as someone who is 30 might have with a 50 year old. Then again, who's to say both of these scenarios won't be happiness and contentment.
I believe people get along when there's a common bond. That bond can and will depend on what's relevant to the individuals involved. I may have a great romantic relationship with a female 5 years my junior or senior because we both can relate to things like the 70s, global social issues, etc. Whereas, I may have just as good a relationship with a female 15 (or so) years my junior because the relevant factors in our relationship are only current issues which pertain to us, exclusively... Like dinners, movies, and sex.... and whatever other items which are a result of our relationship.
I would caution you on assuming it's just a phase you're going through. Rather, think of it as just whom you've met in the past little while. Who knows, maybe tomorrow... or, next week you'll meet someone your age who might really impress you. After all, the possibility does exist that the intrigue you have for tall dark and handsome older gents just might eventually wear off, you know.
B747skipper From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 13, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 12 hours ago) and read 797 times:
but in school, my teachers were, say 20 - 30 years my senior
in airplanes, my instructors were same 10 - 20 years older too
my friends of my age when I was teenager hardly knew anything about life
interesting discussion here - curious to see what opinions are...
oh yes, we have different tastes, music preferences, activities
I dont have any animosity agains teens, but many hate "older" people... why...
in these days of internet, I sometimes "chat" with young ones...
nice ones - some others not so nice...
their first question "how old are you...?"
well - if you can have an educated conversation, does it matter...?
we are primarily here because we like airplanes...
I dont ask - what is your age...? - it does not matter, you like airplanes...
I look at profile so I can tailor my answer - i.e. technical questions...
many ask me for career advice - when I was a kid, I did same...
you come to visit the cockpit and ask questions about planes and pilots...
you dont ask my age when you ask "is it difficult to fly...?"
or should I say "get out", you are too young...?
AZO From United States of America, joined Jun 2002, 770 posts, RR: 1
Reply 14, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 791 times:
Well they don't have to know anything about life, its how you develop yourself, and same for them. Plenty of people grow into healthy adults that way, without having friends who are older. And I personally think its healthier that way. I do have a few friends who are as much as 12 years older than me, but my primary group, who I grow with, are my age and at the same stage in life. And I think that is what is important, people at the same place in life.
Mx5_boy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 781 times:
"""Barcode: That was an interesting topic you raised. I am 40 and gay and have this very dear male friend who is 75 and straight!!! I know heaps of people in their 50s. Does not bother me in the least."""
Ha Ha Kaytee, that cause you can *only* pull em' in when they are in walking frames... lol
Problems with women *yet again*? Date an older woman and see what happens. Older people sometimes are not interested in younger people (in the gay community) because they do not want to be seen as *sugar daddy's* or *sugar mommas* or simply don't want to deal with the immaturity of it all.
I don't have a problem with it but certainly draw the line at driving around Sydney with a toyboy in the convertible, eeewww, it has to be someone my age or a little older perhaps.
[insert - *yay* Botox injections... only kidding...]
EGGD From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2001, 12443 posts, RR: 34
Reply 16, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 5 hours ago) and read 753 times:
I can talk to people of all ages, however I prefer talking to the intelligent and of course, older people. I quite often correspond with my uncles and great uncles just to talk and find out more about them and their past and stuff .
Doesn't matter much to me, my mom is 5 years older than my dad, and when they met each other my dad was only 19. So, doesn't matter I don't think, unless the age gap is huge, as sometimes other motives are involved in the relationship. However, my great uncle was 50 when he started dating his 23 year old girlfriend (who was hot, I might add) and their relationship lasted a looong time, I don't know what happened in the end but they didn't get married .
Rickster From Austria, joined Dec 2000, 653 posts, RR: 4
Reply 17, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 5 hours ago) and read 746 times:
mmmmhhh. with my 38 years now....i am dealing with friends from 56 down to 23, age is just a number not a life style. All the couples i know, my relationship included, do have age differences ranging from 6 to 12 years. And that seem to work out very good.
SilverAngel From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 736 times:
Like many things in life, age is what you make of it. I am currently 30-something, but people at work think I am 45 (and have kids for some reason), my friends think I am 25 (I know that how one dresses & carries on makes a huge difference), & my mother will always think I am seven.
As for relationships, it's not age that crucifies me everytime, but rather as soon as she finds out there are men in my past (I am as straight as a bag of snakes!), the whole thing comes down like a house of cards. Go figure.
As for age, maybe it's just different here in America. I've had girlfriends 10 years younger and as much as 12 older, & other than personal things, there wasn't too much of a difference (especially past 23 or so ...one of my best friends is 27 now...), so I wouldn't sweat it much sweetie. Hang in there & best of luck to you.
DesertJets From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7811 posts, RR: 16
Reply 19, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 725 times:
I feel that age, as you get older, becomes less and less of a factor in determining your relationships. More and more I find that people that I become friends with generally tend to share common interests and experiences. Being that I am still in college, most of my friends are 20 somethings. But a couple are now 30+. But on the other hand I cannot see myself having a great friendship with a 15 year old that I could with a 30 year old. The dynamic would be completely different there. In that case I'd feel more like a mentor than a friend.
Stop drop and roll will not save you in hell. --- seen on a church marque in rural Virginia
Yojo87 From United States of America, joined Mar 2001, 78 posts, RR: 0
Reply 20, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 2 hours ago) and read 726 times:
I'm not ganna say much, but I know a girl who's married to a guy who's 11 years older. There's nothing wrong with them. They are some of the coolest people I know. I don't think there's anything wrong with age difference.
AZO From United States of America, joined Jun 2002, 770 posts, RR: 1
Reply 21, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 6 days 2 hours ago) and read 726 times:
Maybe nothing wrong as you are older, but I think up to probably about 22 or 24 if your only friends are older then it does inhibit your development. Being with people at the same place in life is essential.
Seb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 11803 posts, RR: 15
Reply 22, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 704 times:
Age does not matter. I have friends who are younger than me but date people 10+ years older than me. My first serious relationship, I was 20 years younger. Don't worry about it. You like what you like.
Life is a smorgasbord and some people are starving to death (did I get that right?)
Fpdonald From United States of America, joined Aug 2002, 430 posts, RR: 0
Reply 23, posted (12 years 1 month 1 week 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 699 times:
Dating age difference . . . no problem!
Relationship age difference . . . no problem!
Long term commitment . . . it's how 'you' age "together" that is important!
Any relationship is a work in progress, for what you gain you lose a little, for what you lose, you gain a little. [Opportunity Cost, Economics 101] Commitment is just that, hard work but its yields are bountiful.