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Telling Parents What I Want To Do For My Career...  
User currently offlineJaspike From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2008, 1 posts, RR: 2
Posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3198 times:

Here's the situation.

I've liked flying for ages, when I said to my mum 'I want to work on a plane when I'm older', she said all male cabin crew are gay. She doesn't like gay people very much. I'm not gay, but she might think I am. And I'm currently single, so that's another bad point! So that put me off the idea of working as part of the cabin crew at that age. About a year ago I realised I still didn't know what to do for a career, so I thought about being a pilot.
That's just too expensive, there's no way I can get the money for the training, then there's no guarantee of a job. I've been thinking recently that the only option is to work as part of the cabin crew... I'd get to travel, which I love, fly, which I love, and meet & work with people, which, believe it or not, I also love.
The only problems I can see is the pay.. which from what I know isn't good, (does anyone know what airlines in the UK pay?), and my parents.
Without sounding big headed, I've always been brainy and they always expect the best in everything, but this job wouldn't please them at all. I know I should do what I want to do, but they just wouldn't approve.

So what should I say? You're probably thinking why don't I just tell them - you don't know them, that's why!

Any help would be great, thanks Big thumbs up


Edit: I'm not planning on applying for training anytime soon, I just need to tackle the parent issue first of all.

[Edited 2003-06-19 20:24:46]

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User currently offlineGoingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 15
Reply 1, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3175 times:

Why not shoot for climbing the corporate ladder into Management? If your're not in college, go, and take a job with an airline where you can start "at the bottom" (gate agent, ramper, etc) but demonstrate a desire to learn more on the job and move up the ladder towards station manager and then on up into corporate management.

User currently offlineSKYSERVICE_330 From Canada, joined Sep 2000, 1467 posts, RR: 5
Reply 2, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3172 times:

You need to do what makes you happy. It is nice to please your parents, but in the long run you are the one that has to live your life, not them. Do what makes you happy, I am sure your parents won't disown you for it and believe it or they probably will get over it.

Just my 2cents.


User currently offlineJwenting From Netherlands, joined Apr 2001, 10213 posts, RR: 17
Reply 3, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 3151 times:

You're old enough that you should be able to make such decisions without the consent of your parents...

If they don't like it, that's their problem.
If they love you they'll burry those dislikes and support you.

I wish I were flying
User currently offlineTurbolet From Cape Verde, joined Nov 2007, 0 posts, RR: 1
Reply 4, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 3154 times:

LOL! And can you imagine what my homophobic mum will say when I tell her that I want to be cabin crew and am, in fact, gay?!?!?

Good luck anyways,

User currently offlineCanyonBlue From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 3135 times:

Do what makes ya happy. My parents thing I'm a loon for going into the airline industry. When your mum gets to fly for free, I don't think she'll really care one way or the other.

User currently offlineLHR340 From United Kingdom, joined Apr 2003, 877 posts, RR: 1
Reply 6, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 3129 times:

Typical stereotype, that's all it is - just tell her you want to be an F/A and you are straight. And do what you enjoy (flying!)


A340 LoVeR! EC-GQK - LHR The Bussiest International Airport & 3rd Bussiest In The World!
User currently offlineSeb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 14160 posts, RR: 14
Reply 7, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 3132 times:

There are several things you can do within the airlines that don't involve cabin crew. I am gay and would NEVER be cabin crew. I deal with too many people at my job as it is. To be stuck with them for 2 hours or more, I would go nuts. Since I was 3, I have wanted to be a ramper. I did it a few years ago at SEA and would love to do it again.

Why not look into something in the admin sector of an airline? I would suggest the reservation line, but there are even more gays there than in the air! lol But seriously, you say you are brainy, so why not go for mechanic or ATC?


Life in the wall is a drag.
User currently offlineEmiratesA345 From Canada, joined Jun 2003, 2123 posts, RR: 7
Reply 8, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 3119 times:

I told my parents right from the start. I said I will try my hardest to become an airline pilot. I also told them, that "in the event" (LOL) of my not being able to fly the airplanes, I will work as a flight attendant. I really don't care what people think. You could just make up a lie. Tell your mother you are going for your class 1 medical to become an airline pilot... Pretend like you went there one day, come back and tell her you could not obtain a class 1 and you are only able to work as a cabin crew member.

EmiratesA345  Smile/happy/getting dizzy

You and I were meant to fly, Air Canada!
User currently offlineRNOcommctr From United States of America, joined Jan 2001, 834 posts, RR: 3
Reply 9, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 3077 times:

I will just echo what others have said: do what you want, and don't try to please anyone else, including your parents. You are the one living your life. Being a flight attendant is an honorable career, gay or straight. There is nothing to apologize for. If on the other hand, you try to please others, like your parents, you will be headed for a lifetime of resentments and disappointments. Follow your heart and good luck!

Active loading only, ma'am, keep it moving!
User currently offlineJaspike From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2008, 1 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (12 years 11 months 2 weeks 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 3010 times:

Thanks guys Big thumbs up

I think when an opportunity comes up to try and get a job, I'll just take it. Then just tell them some crazy story  Big grin

Thanks again Smile/happy/getting dizzy


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