Jaspike From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2008, 1 posts, RR: 2 Posted (11 years 1 month 2 weeks 1 day 5 hours ago) and read 2071 times:
Here's the situation.
I've liked flying for ages, when I said to my mum 'I want to work on a plane when I'm older', she said all male cabin crew are gay. She doesn't like gay people very much. I'm not gay, but she might think I am. And I'm currently single, so that's another bad point! So that put me off the idea of working as part of the cabin crew at that age. About a year ago I realised I still didn't know what to do for a career, so I thought about being a pilot.
That's just too expensive, there's no way I can get the money for the training, then there's no guarantee of a job. I've been thinking recently that the only option is to work as part of the cabin crew... I'd get to travel, which I love, fly, which I love, and meet & work with people, which, believe it or not, I also love.
The only problems I can see is the pay.. which from what I know isn't good, (does anyone know what airlines in the UK pay?), and my parents.
Without sounding big headed, I've always been brainy and they always expect the best in everything, but this job wouldn't please them at all. I know I should do what I want to do, but they just wouldn't approve.
So what should I say? You're probably thinking why don't I just tell them - you don't know them, that's why!
Any help would be great, thanks
Edit: I'm not planning on applying for training anytime soon, I just need to tackle the parent issue first of all.
Goingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 16
Reply 1, posted (11 years 1 month 2 weeks 1 day 5 hours ago) and read 2048 times:
Why not shoot for climbing the corporate ladder into Management? If your're not in college, go, and take a job with an airline where you can start "at the bottom" (gate agent, ramper, etc) but demonstrate a desire to learn more on the job and move up the ladder towards station manager and then on up into corporate management.
SKYSERVICE_330 From Canada, joined Sep 2000, 1412 posts, RR: 5
Reply 2, posted (11 years 1 month 2 weeks 1 day 5 hours ago) and read 2045 times:
You need to do what makes you happy. It is nice to please your parents, but in the long run you are the one that has to live your life, not them. Do what makes you happy, I am sure your parents won't disown you for it and believe it or they probably will get over it.
Seb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 11534 posts, RR: 15
Reply 7, posted (11 years 1 month 2 weeks 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 2005 times:
There are several things you can do within the airlines that don't involve cabin crew. I am gay and would NEVER be cabin crew. I deal with too many people at my job as it is. To be stuck with them for 2 hours or more, I would go nuts. Since I was 3, I have wanted to be a ramper. I did it a few years ago at SEA and would love to do it again.
Why not look into something in the admin sector of an airline? I would suggest the reservation line, but there are even more gays there than in the air! lol But seriously, you say you are brainy, so why not go for mechanic or ATC?
EmiratesA345 From Canada, joined Jun 2003, 2123 posts, RR: 9
Reply 8, posted (11 years 1 month 2 weeks 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 1992 times:
I told my parents right from the start. I said I will try my hardest to become an airline pilot. I also told them, that "in the event" (LOL) of my not being able to fly the airplanes, I will work as a flight attendant. I really don't care what people think. You could just make up a lie. Tell your mother you are going for your class 1 medical to become an airline pilot... Pretend like you went there one day, come back and tell her you could not obtain a class 1 and you are only able to work as a cabin crew member.
RNOcommctr From United States of America, joined Jan 2001, 827 posts, RR: 3
Reply 9, posted (11 years 1 month 2 weeks 22 hours ago) and read 1950 times:
I will just echo what others have said: do what you want, and don't try to please anyone else, including your parents. You are the one living your life. Being a flight attendant is an honorable career, gay or straight. There is nothing to apologize for. If on the other hand, you try to please others, like your parents, you will be headed for a lifetime of resentments and disappointments. Follow your heart and good luck!