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User currently offlineTbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7013 posts, RR: 26
Posted (11 years 4 weeks 13 hours ago) and read 1629 times:

How long did you wait before you asked your girlfriend or "significant other" to marry you while you were dating?


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User currently offlineSebolino From France, joined May 2001, 3681 posts, RR: 4
Reply 1, posted (11 years 4 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 1609 times:

Hmmmm ...
I'm with her for 12 years, we have 2 kids, and still not married ...  Big grin


User currently offlineMxCtrlr From United States of America, joined Nov 2001, 2485 posts, RR: 35
Reply 2, posted (11 years 4 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 1604 times:

She's been waiting 11 years (Monday) for me to ask her! It went the other way around (she asked me) and we had been together for 5 years (on and off) before she did!

MxCtrlr  Smile/happy/getting dizzy
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DAMN! This SUCKS! I just had to go to the next higher age bracket in my profile! :-(
User currently offlineJAL From Canada, joined Apr 2000, 5083 posts, RR: 8
Reply 3, posted (11 years 4 weeks 8 hours ago) and read 1591 times:

Not yet married but will be on July 19. My fiancee and I dated for 4 years before I propose.


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User currently offlineGoingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 17
Reply 4, posted (11 years 4 weeks 6 hours ago) and read 1577 times:

Which one? My first wife and I were young (too young) and we didn't wait that long at all. My current wife (married 15 years this July) I dated for about a year before I asked her, and waited another year after that to actually get married.

User currently offlineStretch 8 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 2568 posts, RR: 17
Reply 5, posted (11 years 4 weeks 5 hours ago) and read 1557 times:

It was a little over two years for me and my girl. Best decision I ever made. And BTW, be ready for major league horizontal action the evening you do pop the question!


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User currently offlineKeesje From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (11 years 4 weeks 5 hours ago) and read 1554 times:

5 yrs , look for good a location, it sticks ...


User currently offlineKROC From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (11 years 4 weeks 5 hours ago) and read 1548 times:

Even though I'm divorced, I knew my ex-wife for a year and a half or so before we got married. May not have been the worst decision I have ever made, but I can't share Stretch's enthusiasm.  Big grin

User currently offlineTom in NO From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 7194 posts, RR: 33
Reply 8, posted (11 years 4 weeks ago) and read 1513 times:

We dated 9 months before I proposed to her (Woldenberg Park on the riverfront for the locals). We've been married a little over 9 years, and have two great daughters (4 1/2 and almost 2)!!!

Tom in NO (at MSY)



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User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Reply 9, posted (11 years 3 weeks 6 days 21 hours ago) and read 1495 times:
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4 years, 362 days (Seriously).....now the 'fianceeship' is lasting about 1.5 years.

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User currently offlineMarcus From Mexico, joined Apr 2001, 1777 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (11 years 3 weeks 6 days 20 hours ago) and read 1485 times:

We celebrated our 5 year aniversary this past February.....out of those 5 years this next August will be our 3rd aniversary of living toghether...........not married and with no kids.....and no plans for neither in the short medium term.




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User currently offlineB747Skipper From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 11, posted (11 years 3 weeks 5 days ago) and read 1428 times:

11 months...
She was a single mother, her son called me "papi"...
So... I asked her "would you like to be my wife...?"
(s) Skipper


User currently offlineThumper From United States of America, joined Nov 2001, 550 posts, RR: 0
Reply 12, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 1408 times:

We went together 5 months and she asked me! They said it would never last. 46 years,3 kids, and 10 grandchildren later we are still together. I guess it doesn't matter how long you date you just have to be lucky and get the right one!

User currently offlineB747ca From Canada, joined Aug 2001, 677 posts, RR: 2
Reply 13, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 1389 times:

3yrs.
2yrs engaged
5 yrs married with 2 kids. 2 cars, and a mortgage....



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User currently offlineAA61hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 14, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 1388 times:

B747ca- "5 years married with 2 kids. 2 cars, and a mortgage...
it seems like you would say and a partridge in a pear tree after that sentence!  Smile/happy/getting dizzy



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User currently offlineMandala499 From Indonesia, joined Aug 2001, 6760 posts, RR: 76
Reply 15, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 1373 times:

1 year, decided to live together,
3 years after, she was p1ssed off I haven't asked her, so I did...
9 months before the wedding, she thought she can go and do some last minute male shopping before the wedding! 1yr after fianceeship... I threw her out of my house! *literally*

Guess she didn't know me well enough !

:D



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User currently offlineBoeing757/767 From United States of America, joined Jun 1999, 2282 posts, RR: 1
Reply 16, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 5 hours ago) and read 1358 times:

We dated 10 months before I proposed, and then got married 10 months later. We've been married 8 years tomorrow with a 1-year-old boy.


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User currently offlineTbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7013 posts, RR: 26
Reply 17, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 3 hours ago) and read 1348 times:

Thanks for the responses guys. I guess I can put this all here because the lady doesn't even know this website exists, so I can ask for your advice about this here. Well, here goes.

Ok, we've been together since last November, but I honestly felt I've hit a true gem. I've actually known her since I was 12 years old, and we've always been friends. One part of me wants to go ahead with this, but another part of me is saying "Are you sure this is a good idea?" I'm only 20 and still in school. In August, I'll be going back to school in IL and she'll be in CA. Lastly, as much as I want it, its quite an unnerving thought, if that's a good word for it.

Any advice?



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User currently offlineKROC From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 3 hours ago) and read 1339 times:

Long distance relationships are VERY hard, but are very doable. The fact you have known her for so long, and have been at least friends works well into your favor. As for being only 20, and still in school, you need to make sure that finishing school is your top priority, no matter what you and her decide. Unnerving thought......welcome to the world of a serious relationship going to the top level. Do yourself a favor, and try and talk to your girl about this as well. At least hint around and get her to talk about such things and try and guage her stance on things as well. That might help you out in deciding what is right for you.

User currently offlineJean Leloup From Canada, joined Apr 2001, 2116 posts, RR: 19
Reply 19, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 1329 times:

Hi Tbar
If she's up for it, go for it man.
I'm so sick of hearing people say "too young, too young", as though you have to be like 40 before you can get married. Isa yif you're rellay sure you want this, and she'll want it too, then the younger the better. It just gives you more time to spend together, and if you have kids, then they'll have younger, healthier parents for a longer time. And you will have the principal source of anxiety for men in our age group taken care of for good.  Smile



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User currently offlineGoingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 17
Reply 20, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 1323 times:

One caveat - if you haven't got the "party" out of you by 20, then don't get married. I was about 22 when I first got married, my wife was 20. It was too young. I wouldn't recommend getting married until you are more established in life - financially (oh how important this is) and emotionally. Getting married at 20, having kids, and getting divorced at 25 only means that your kids will be able to shuttle back and forth between a young couple and stepparents. A marriage takes two people...and getting married at 20 may take care of the principal source of anxiety for men in your age group, but ask anyone in their 30's and 40's how stressful things like "alimony" and "child support" compare.

User currently offlineKROC From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (11 years 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 1318 times:

Goingboeing brings up a good point. I was married at 18 my wife at 19. I was set, she didn't have the "party" out. At 26 I finally divorced her. Something there you really need to be sure about.

But like Leloup....I do not buy for one second "too young this...to young that".


User currently offlineAA61hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 22, posted (11 years 3 weeks 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 1304 times:

I am in a long distance relationship during the school year. I am in Ohio and my gf is in DFW. It can work. You need a lot of trust, and a lot of phone calls. If you love her enough and she loves you enough it can work. I did it for 1 year already, and it went by suprsingly fast. Don't listen to the doubters.


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User currently offlineTbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7013 posts, RR: 26
Reply 23, posted (11 years 3 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1288 times:

Yea, we already did the long distance relationship for some five months, so we know what that's like. Also, I'm not really a big "partier" myself, if I'm on the same wavelength as you guys. The hardest thing for me to figure out, how do I bring this up with her, how can I hint at it? I want to gauge what she thinks about it without being too obvious. Any ideas?

As for school, I would definitely finish school first and get a job before I were to get married.

Thanks for all the responses.



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User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Reply 24, posted (11 years 3 weeks 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 1285 times:
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Mandala499-excellent! I am so gald you kiclked her to the curb! No one should stand for that crap! Rock on.

Boeing757/767- congrats and happy anniversary!

Tbar, good idea to finish school. But definitely sow your wild oats before you latch onto the one. Otherwise, you'll be unhappy with your BMW everytime you see a new Mercedes leave the lot. Get my drift?



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25 Mandala499 : Maybe I should write in the "beware of the arse licking woman" thread ! Hehehehe But yes, finish school ! Sometimes, relationships can go sour once bo
26 Tbar220 : I definitely intend to finish school before I get married, but is it still appropriate for me to ask her? And also, how can I bring it up with her wit
27 QANTASFOREVER : I knew my wife since we were about 5 years old. We started dating when we were both about 16 and maintained a very long distance relationship for year
28 SN-A330 : I knew my wife 5 years before we got married. Plenty of time to decide in my opinion. Regards, SN-A330
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