Goingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 19 Reply 4, posted (9 years 11 months 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 1148 times:
Which one? My first wife and I were young (too young) and we didn't wait that long at all. My current wife (married 15 years this July) I dated for about a year before I asked her, and waited another year after that to actually get married.
Marcus From Mexico, joined Apr 2001, 1721 posts, RR: 2 Reply 10, posted (9 years 11 months 1 day 8 hours ago) and read 1056 times:
We celebrated our 5 year aniversary this past February.....out of those 5 years this next August will be our 3rd aniversary of living toghether...........not married and with no kids.....and no plans for neither in the short medium term.
Kids!....we are going to the happiest place on earth...TIJUANA! signed: Krusty the Clown
Thumper From United States of America, joined Nov 2001, 550 posts, RR: 1 Reply 12, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 979 times:
We went together 5 months and she asked me! They said it would never last. 46 years,3 kids, and 10 grandchildren later we are still together. I guess it doesn't matter how long you date you just have to be lucky and get the right one!
Mandala499 From Indonesia, joined Aug 2001, 6180 posts, RR: 74 Reply 15, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 21 hours ago) and read 944 times:
1 year, decided to live together,
3 years after, she was p1ssed off I haven't asked her, so I did...
9 months before the wedding, she thought she can go and do some last minute male shopping before the wedding! 1yr after fianceeship... I threw her out of my house! *literally*
Guess she didn't know me well enough !
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Tbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7011 posts, RR: 28 Reply 17, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 15 hours ago) and read 919 times:
Thanks for the responses guys. I guess I can put this all here because the lady doesn't even know this website exists, so I can ask for your advice about this here. Well, here goes.
Ok, we've been together since last November, but I honestly felt I've hit a true gem. I've actually known her since I was 12 years old, and we've always been friends. One part of me wants to go ahead with this, but another part of me is saying "Are you sure this is a good idea?" I'm only 20 and still in school. In August, I'll be going back to school in IL and she'll be in CA. Lastly, as much as I want it, its quite an unnerving thought, if that's a good word for it.
KROC From United States of America, joined May 2000, 19737 posts, RR: 76 Reply 18, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 15 hours ago) and read 910 times:
Long distance relationships are VERY hard, but are very doable. The fact you have known her for so long, and have been at least friends works well into your favor. As for being only 20, and still in school, you need to make sure that finishing school is your top priority, no matter what you and her decide. Unnerving thought......welcome to the world of a serious relationship going to the top level. Do yourself a favor, and try and talk to your girl about this as well. At least hint around and get her to talk about such things and try and guage her stance on things as well. That might help you out in deciding what is right for you.
"Never tell anybody outside the family what you're thinking again"
Jean Leloup From Canada, joined Apr 2001, 2106 posts, RR: 23 Reply 19, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 14 hours ago) and read 900 times:
If she's up for it, go for it man.
I'm so sick of hearing people say "too young, too young", as though you have to be like 40 before you can get married. Isa yif you're rellay sure you want this, and she'll want it too, then the younger the better. It just gives you more time to spend together, and if you have kids, then they'll have younger, healthier parents for a longer time. And you will have the principal source of anxiety for men in our age group taken care of for good.
Goingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 19 Reply 20, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 14 hours ago) and read 894 times:
One caveat - if you haven't got the "party" out of you by 20, then don't get married. I was about 22 when I first got married, my wife was 20. It was too young. I wouldn't recommend getting married until you are more established in life - financially (oh how important this is) and emotionally. Getting married at 20, having kids, and getting divorced at 25 only means that your kids will be able to shuttle back and forth between a young couple and stepparents. A marriage takes two people...and getting married at 20 may take care of the principal source of anxiety for men in your age group, but ask anyone in their 30's and 40's how stressful things like "alimony" and "child support" compare.
AA61hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13975 posts, RR: 59 Reply 22, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 10 hours ago) and read 875 times:
I am in a long distance relationship during the school year. I am in Ohio and my gf is in DFW. It can work. You need a lot of trust, and a lot of phone calls. If you love her enough and she loves you enough it can work. I did it for 1 year already, and it went by suprsingly fast. Don't listen to the doubters.
Tbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7011 posts, RR: 28 Reply 23, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 6 hours ago) and read 859 times:
Yea, we already did the long distance relationship for some five months, so we know what that's like. Also, I'm not really a big "partier" myself, if I'm on the same wavelength as you guys. The hardest thing for me to figure out, how do I bring this up with her, how can I hint at it? I want to gauge what she thinks about it without being too obvious. Any ideas?
As for school, I would definitely finish school first and get a job before I were to get married.
Mirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7419 posts, RR: 65 Reply 24, posted (9 years 10 months 4 weeks 5 hours ago) and read 856 times:
Mandala499-excellent! I am so gald you kiclked her to the curb! No one should stand for that crap! Rock on.
Boeing757/767- congrats and happy anniversary!
Tbar, good idea to finish school. But definitely sow your wild oats before you latch onto the one. Otherwise, you'll be unhappy with your BMW everytime you see a new Mercedes leave the lot. Get my drift?
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25 Mandala499: Maybe I should write in the "beware of the arse licking woman" thread ! Hehehehe But yes, finish school ! Sometimes, relationships can go sour once bo
26 Tbar220: I definitely intend to finish school before I get married, but is it still appropriate for me to ask her? And also, how can I bring it up with her wit
27 QANTASFOREVER: I knew my wife since we were about 5 years old. We started dating when we were both about 16 and maintained a very long distance relationship for year
28 SN-A330: I knew my wife 5 years before we got married. Plenty of time to decide in my opinion. Regards, SN-A330