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What To Do About Stalkers?  
User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1760 times:

Let's say, oh, I don't know, there was an ex-girlfriend of mine that would follow me in my internet activity and email any "objections" she had about anything I did which doesn't even pertain to her?

What if she would call me at ungodly hours and not let me get off the phone and just threaten to call right back if I hung up?

Is this psychotic, or is it just me? Could there be ANY excuse possible for this kind of behavior? While she might say it has to do with love, I think it's SERIOUSLY crossed the line of asking to take her back, wouldn't you say?

-Phil


Phil Derner Jr.
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User currently offlineBoeing4ever From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1717 times:

Two words:

Restraining Order

Or...

Hire Arnold and have her Terminated...before she Terminates you!  Big thumbs up

B4e-Forever New Frontiers


User currently offlineVafi88 From United States of America, joined Apr 2001, 3116 posts, RR: 17
Reply 2, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1713 times:

Well, you better call the police and get a restraining order, or, go butcher her with a steak knife


I'd like to elect a president that has a Higher IQ than a retarted ant.
User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Reply 3, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1712 times:

I am posting this because I know she's going to read it (while she stalks), and I want her to see nuetral third parties' views.

Do any of you think there can be ANY excuse whatsoever for this kind of behavior?

I was tolerant of it for a long time, but now I've had enough.

I'll let her email me, and with her permission, I'll post in here ANYTHING she wants me to paste in if she wants to say something about this.

I'm at the point where I fear she may hurt herself or me. It's very scary.



Phil Derner Jr.
User currently offlineAWspicious From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1705 times:

Were you her first? I've noticed some girls in that kind of situation can become a bit... uh... clingy.
Try to ignore her and see what happens. Although, if she is in fact reading these posts, then, anything we suggest can be undermined by her. But, I'll say this much, she needs to move on and live her life instead of being all hung-up on some dude (No offence, of course  Laugh out loud).
By the way, have you seen Fatal Attraction with Michael Douglas and Glen Close? You don't have any pets, do you? (heh heh heh)

signed
anonymous (in case she starts stalking me)  Laugh out loud


User currently offlineQb001 From Canada, joined Apr 2000, 2053 posts, RR: 4
Reply 5, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 1699 times:

Is she cute? Cause, you know, being near 40 and having been with the same wife for nearly 10 years now, I think I could take some harassment from a pretty young girl  Wink/being sarcastic

Come on now, fix this the good'ol American way: kill her. Or better: have her killed. Or even better: try to get her convinced of a murder (there are like 1000 murders a day in the US, it should be easy to find one that she could be blamed for) and have her sent to death row  Acting devilish

But I guess I'm just letting my violent side take to much room here. Restraining order or keep track of her behavior (record everything) and sue her.



Never let the facts get in the way of a good theory.
User currently offlineBoeing4ever From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 16 hours ago) and read 1690 times:

On second thought...send her over to me...B4e will keep her company.  Smokin cool

Boeing4ever2004@yahoo.com Hey, if she starts emailing me I won't mind. I could use something in my mailbox. I'm so lonely.  Sad Besides, she could already contact me through my profile.

B4e-Forever New Frontiers


User currently offlineKROC From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 1677 times:

Phil, tell Mirrodie to get over you and move on.

User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Reply 8, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 1673 times:

Am I being cruel to her, or is her behavior truly psychotic?

AWspicious is a smart guy, btw.



Phil Derner Jr.
User currently offlineGreg From United Kingdom, joined May 2005, 0 posts, RR: 0
Reply 9, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 1659 times:

A break up isn't complete until you file the restraining order!
Works every time (not too mention you can get people into a whole lot of trouble....)


User currently offlineEGGD From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2001, 12443 posts, RR: 36
Reply 10, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 1655 times:

lmao somebody needs work fast  Laugh out loud

User currently offlineMatt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 48
Reply 11, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 1653 times:

Tell her you him you have a girlfriend. That will get him off yor back.

Signed,

Mx5_Boy


User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Reply 12, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1632 times:

She sent me four LONG emails within four hours this morning alone. This is getting out of hand.

I just wanted to see what you folks thought of the situation, being neutral parties not really knowing either of us.

Thanks for your advice, although a LOT of your mentioned murder, which is pretty fuckin sick. lol

-Phil



Phil Derner Jr.
User currently offlineAA61hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 13, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1617 times:

Tell her you turned gay.
Signed, JCS17



Go big or go home
User currently offlineSeb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 11133 posts, RR: 15
Reply 14, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 3 hours ago) and read 1599 times:

Dude, why the hell are you reading e-mails from her? WTF???? Does she have your e-mail password? Mistake, my friend. Big mistake. My ex and I 'stalked' each other for a few months. We ended up blocking each others e-mail addresses (yes, multiple) and I made a concious effort to not open any e-mail from someone I did not recognize. So:

1. Block all of her e-mail addresses and IM screen names
2. change your e-mail password if nessecary
3. Change your phone number and make it unlisted
4. Restraining order

GO CANUCKS!!

[Edited 2003-07-10 21:56:56]


Life in the wall is a drag.
User currently offlineMT99 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 6546 posts, RR: 6
Reply 15, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days 2 hours ago) and read 1594 times:
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Do what what was done on "I love lucy" once.. and stalk her back!




Step into my office, baby
User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Reply 16, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 3 days ago) and read 1584 times:

She keeps emailing thigns that she wants me to post in here, which only sound ludicrous (SP?). lol

She says that she comes to this site because I am the one that got her interested in planes. Even so, why is she in the non-aviation forum then? Especailly if she's not even a member.

She's a great girl, dont get me wrong, but I saw a side of her that I didn't like. This behavior only makes it worse.

I won't post in this thread anymore. I don't want to force this personal problem of mine on you folks. I jsut wanted some advice form a neutral third party.

Thanks a lot guys.

-Phil




Phil Derner Jr.
User currently offlineAWspicious From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1575 times:

Phil;
Perhaps she should become a member. She could correspond with fellow members about... oh, i dunno... this n that.... Perhaps even forge new relationships online which may hopefully get her mind off all this controversy. I'm always up for chatting with females.  Smile/happy/getting dizzy
Anyway, if she's already reading the posts then she should be familiar with how things work in here. Shouldn't be much for her to take the next step towards (meaningful) social interaction.


A.W.


User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7438 posts, RR: 62
Reply 18, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1570 times:
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WOW  Wow!! Looks like you did some serious damage with that quarter inch killer of yours LOL!




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User currently offlineVaporlock From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1570 times:

NO EXCUSE FOR THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOUR...I can understand why your feeling the way you are.

YOU HAVE TO GET SERIOUS AND GET A "RESTRAINING ORDER" THEN SHE WILL MAYBE REALLY GET THE HINT.

Trust me on this one....my son just went thru a terrible experience where one of his friends was being stalked by her old boyfriend.....it went on for a long long time and she is now DEAD.....yes, her Xboyfriend hit her over the head with a steel baseball bat and killed her....she was an innocent 18 yr old who was the kindest person in the world.......sometimes people can just snap and if this happens then there
may be no second chance. And don't fool yourself just because she is a female.......

So trust me DO SOMETHING SERIOUS for yourself and even if you still feel she is a nice girl.......nice girls wouldn't do things like this....at least as far as I am concerned. Why should you have to continue to change your life to avoid her. She is trying to call your BLUFF.....show her that you're not going to put up with any of her crap!!

Just my cents!

Phyllis  Smile/happy/getting dizzy


User currently offlineBobrayner From United Kingdom, joined Apr 2003, 2227 posts, RR: 7
Reply 20, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1568 times:

Give her a sympathy shag, then kill her.

(not necessarily in that order)



Cunning linguist
User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7438 posts, RR: 62
Reply 21, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1564 times:
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OK, OK, I must be serious to a point.

After being detained for three hours on Friday July 4, Phil and I hung out with Rai, and our respective ladies.

Phil, the way you two were acting and joking around, you seemed to be like boyfriend AND girlfriend.

My fiancee, who we'll call Curly757 Big grin, thought that you were leading her on.

And IIRC, you DID sleep there that night, right? That may not be halping the stalking.

I guess what I am saying is shit or get off the pot Big grin



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User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Reply 22, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 1564 times:

No, Mirrodie, you're kinda right.

I spoke to her before her and I hung out. We were trying to be friendly and when we are together, it can be tough to keep our hands off of each other.

But when she talks talking about being "serious", that is when I tell her that I'm not looking or ready for that kind of thing. Then she flips out. She knew that ahead of time, and if she knew I wouldn't be taking it any further (which she KNEW), then she shouldn't have been so willing to act the way around me that she did.

I'm not saying I am not guilty, I know I did some wrong thigns with her too. But at this point it's gone too far, to the point where I have no choice but to cut her off. I know this is the result of her behavior AND my poor behavior too, but the current situation calls for this.

Vaporlock, valid point. I think it's a little different since the girl is the "stalker" in this situation, but I'm more worried about her hurting HERSELF than anything.



Phil Derner Jr.
User currently offlineAA61hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 23, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 20 hours ago) and read 1543 times:

Well since she is reading this Phil.. Hey stalker girl! Get a life! Phil is a loser!!


Go big or go home
User currently offlineL-188 From United States of America, joined Jul 1999, 29705 posts, RR: 59
Reply 24, posted (10 years 9 months 2 weeks 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 1529 times:

Bigphilnyc....If you start finding pet rabbits boiling on the stove, you are probably too late for that restraining order.







OBAMA-WORST PRESIDENT EVER....Even SKOORB would be better.
25 Post contains images Vaporlock : Bigphilnyc, sounds like you have to make a SERIOUS decision. Just because she is a female......believe me females are just as dangerous as males. The
26 Sophiemaltese : all I can say is it can hurt really badly to have a guy want to just have a sex buddy and nothing else. There are a lot of serious emotions that can c
27 QANTASFOREVER : What To Do About Stalkers? Easy - cut off their stalk. QFE
28 Post contains images Boeing4ever : Ok, here's what you do... If you know that she's following you, simply load up a garbage bag with cabbages and ketchup. Then, at the times you suspect
29 Post contains images EmiratesA345 : You say this has been going on for a while? How can you possibly deal with being woken up at night and threatened to be called back if you hang up? Yo
30 Post contains images Boeing4ever : I've already said it before, send her my way. I'll give her a good home. If you're reading this sweetheart, Boeing4ever2004@yahoo.com Lay off Phil, he
31 Post contains images EmiratesA345 : See, B4e seems like he'll enjoy the attention too. Must be a Polak thing? LOL EmiratesA345
32 Post contains images Soku39 : Did anyone besides me see swimfan? Anyone with stalkers should watch it to beware the dangers.
33 Post contains images Boeing4ever : I'm more dangerous than any stalker could ever be. Ever see me drive? This chick doesn't sound like she's too much to handle. I do want to see swimfan
34 Sophiemaltese : I want a stalker. I love freaks.
35 Post contains images N766UA : Give her a sympathy shag, then kill her. (not necessarily in that order) You sick, sick bastard.
36 Post contains images AWspicious : Username: Sophiemaltese From United States, joined Feb 2001, 1835 posts, RR: 40 Reply: 34 Posted Tue Jul 15 2003 04:48:05 UTC+1 and read 21 times: "I
37 FlyGirl757 : "all I can say is it can hurt really badly to have a guy want to just have a sex buddy and nothing else. There are a lot of serious emotions that can
38 Vafi88 : BIGphilNYC- this is probably a coincidence, but Flygirl757 just joined, has friend that like aviation (photography post) and NYC and in the same age r
39 AWspicious : So, Phil.... What's up??? :-]
40 FlyGirl757 : Good work Detective Vafi88... Would you like a medal? P.S) Please stop referring to me as THE STALKER...you don't even know me OR our situation. The o
41 Vafi88 : Uhhhh....wait a second, it was just a coincidence, jeez, plus I didn't say FLYGIRl IS THE STALKER, I said that there might be a coincidence about all
42 Vafi88 : And yes, I would like a medal.
43 AWspicious : oops... Guess that cat's out of the bag... FlyGirl757; I'm sure Vafi88 didn't mean anything bad when he made reference to the stalker. It's just that
44 Post contains images FlyGirl757 : Thanks A.W. I really just want to put an end to ALL of this. Phil and I have already worked things out and it's over...simple as that. I was NOT a sta
45 Post contains images Vafi88 : Yeah, so that whole mess with the yelling at me and what not, that wasn't very cool, since we didn't know what to expect and it looked very perfectly
46 Post contains images Cancidas : Another solution, USP .45!
47 AWspicious : FlyGirl757; Well, if it hasn't already been said - Welcome to the airliners.net community! As for the situation - I can fully appreciate the feelings
48 FlyGirl757 : Cancidas, Are you okay? I haven't even spoken to Phil in like a week...so chill. And I WOULD tell you all what REALLY happened...but I am not going to
49 Post contains images Cancidas : Wait, what? What do you mean am I ok? Phil, I think I need to start hanging out with you. My life is boring.
50 KAUSpilot : Just leave the guy alone. He doesn't want a relationship with you. I'm sure your attractive and you'll find another guy. Sometimes young guys just don
51 FlyGirl757 : AGAIN... I know...I am moving on...I am lucky...and I have met someone else...but it's still too early to make anything of it. I don't think I will be
52 AWspicious : Okay, folks... The lady said her piece. Let's leave this topic alone and move on to other things, eh... Cool. a.w.
53 Post contains images Boeing4ever : As said, she has made her peace. No sense dwelling. Perhaps it's time to archive the thread? And sorry for the "Terminator" comments as well as the "g
54 Mirrodie : Nice to see you here Irisa. I had a feeling it was you. Glad to hear you guys are all sorted out. catc you later.
55 Vafi88 : Where's my medal? F FI FIL FILL FILLE FILLER
56 Mirrodie : are you looking for a medal or a "shaft" medal? I can have either arranged and sent out of Rochester.
57 Post contains images KROC : Yes which one is it? I need to know which one to package up and ship out!
58 Post contains images Ryanb741 : Hey - flygirl's a fine young lady, I just checked out her website. She looks way classier than the kind of girl you should expect to just let you use
59 Post contains images KROC : Flygirl. Your a good looking girl. There is no need to stalk Phil, thats for sure.
60 FlyGirl757 : Gee...thanks, And No...I am not the kind of beer and blowjob type of girl...that's why things got "ugly". I wanted more stability, romance and passion
61 Post contains images Ryanb741 : Hey, I was joking about the beer and b-jobs! You know that right? I was saying you were the oposite, but I was saying it in my British, ambiguous, rou
62 Post contains images KROC : Flygirl757 wanted "more" from Bigphil, but he was unable to provide that. Are we talking relationship stability here, or is there the most likely hidd
63 BigPhilNYC : I'm not going to discuss this. I really want to put this thread to sleep for good, thanks. -Phil
64 Ben : Oh no.... I just introduced 'someone' to this site... I am having nightmares about what's going to happen now.. maybe the same thing for me.
65 CaptainStabbin : Is it just me, or does this whole thread reak of....
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