Bigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4077 posts, RR: 53 Posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days 3 hours ago) and read 2321 times:
Let's say, oh, I don't know, there was an ex-girlfriend of mine that would follow me in my internet activity and email any "objections" she had about anything I did which doesn't even pertain to her?
What if she would call me at ungodly hours and not let me get off the phone and just threaten to call right back if I hung up?
Is this psychotic, or is it just me? Could there be ANY excuse possible for this kind of behavior? While she might say it has to do with love, I think it's SERIOUSLY crossed the line of asking to take her back, wouldn't you say?
AWspicious From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days 2 hours ago) and read 2266 times:
Were you her first? I've noticed some girls in that kind of situation can become a bit... uh... clingy.
Try to ignore her and see what happens. Although, if she is in fact reading these posts, then, anything we suggest can be undermined by her. But, I'll say this much, she needs to move on and live her life instead of being all hung-up on some dude (No offence, of course ).
By the way, have you seen Fatal Attraction with Michael Douglas and Glen Close? You don't have any pets, do you? (heh heh heh)
Qb001 From Canada, joined Apr 2000, 2053 posts, RR: 4
Reply 5, posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days 2 hours ago) and read 2260 times:
Is she cute? Cause, you know, being near 40 and having been with the same wife for nearly 10 years now, I think I could take some harassment from a pretty young girl
Come on now, fix this the good'ol American way: kill her. Or better: have her killed. Or even better: try to get her convinced of a murder (there are like 1000 murders a day in the US, it should be easy to find one that she could be blamed for) and have her sent to death row
But I guess I'm just letting my violent side take to much room here. Restraining order or keep track of her behavior (record everything) and sue her.
Never let the facts get in the way of a good theory.
Seb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 12791 posts, RR: 14
Reply 14, posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 11 hours ago) and read 2160 times:
Dude, why the hell are you reading e-mails from her? WTF???? Does she have your e-mail password? Mistake, my friend. Big mistake. My ex and I 'stalked' each other for a few months. We ended up blocking each others e-mail addresses (yes, multiple) and I made a concious effort to not open any e-mail from someone I did not recognize. So:
1. Block all of her e-mail addresses and IM screen names
2. change your e-mail password if nessecary
3. Change your phone number and make it unlisted
4. Restraining order
AWspicious From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2136 times:
Perhaps she should become a member. She could correspond with fellow members about... oh, i dunno... this n that.... Perhaps even forge new relationships online which may hopefully get her mind off all this controversy. I'm always up for chatting with females.
Anyway, if she's already reading the posts then she should be familiar with how things work in here. Shouldn't be much for her to take the next step towards (meaningful) social interaction.
Vaporlock From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2131 times:
NO EXCUSE FOR THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOUR...I can understand why your feeling the way you are.
YOU HAVE TO GET SERIOUS AND GET A "RESTRAINING ORDER" THEN SHE WILL MAYBE REALLY GET THE HINT.
Trust me on this one....my son just went thru a terrible experience where one of his friends was being stalked by her old boyfriend.....it went on for a long long time and she is now DEAD.....yes, her Xboyfriend hit her over the head with a steel baseball bat and killed her....she was an innocent 18 yr old who was the kindest person in the world.......sometimes people can just snap and if this happens then there
may be no second chance. And don't fool yourself just because she is a female.......
So trust me DO SOMETHING SERIOUS for yourself and even if you still feel she is a nice girl.......nice girls wouldn't do things like this....at least as far as I am concerned. Why should you have to continue to change your life to avoid her. She is trying to call your BLUFF.....show her that you're not going to put up with any of her crap!!
Bigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4077 posts, RR: 53
Reply 22, posted (12 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 2125 times:
No, Mirrodie, you're kinda right.
I spoke to her before her and I hung out. We were trying to be friendly and when we are together, it can be tough to keep our hands off of each other.
But when she talks talking about being "serious", that is when I tell her that I'm not looking or ready for that kind of thing. Then she flips out. She knew that ahead of time, and if she knew I wouldn't be taking it any further (which she KNEW), then she shouldn't have been so willing to act the way around me that she did.
I'm not saying I am not guilty, I know I did some wrong thigns with her too. But at this point it's gone too far, to the point where I have no choice but to cut her off. I know this is the result of her behavior AND my poor behavior too, but the current situation calls for this.
Vaporlock, valid point. I think it's a little different since the girl is the "stalker" in this situation, but I'm more worried about her hurting HERSELF than anything.