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Girl Problems, Need Advice...  
User currently offlineYKA From Netherlands, joined Sep 2001, 766 posts, RR: 0
Posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 1743 times:

Ahh so nice to be at a.net again, I see alot of new members but I can see the oldtimers too. Anyway guys I need help, I'll try to describe the problem below.

Ok, I went with a buddy and couple of girl-friends (just friends) to a dance party (called diskoteka's here in poland) which is is basicly a place with a bar, tables and an awsome dance floor with cool music. Anyway this time they invited this new girl which I've only seen a few times before and never really taked to one on one. She only 20, but already has a kid(ouch) and a 26 y-old boyfriend which is away now somewhere. Shes, really hot though, slim, tall, dark, perfect body etc and the best thing is that the whole time she couldn't keep her hands of me. By that I mean holding hands, huging, really up close-and personal dancing with touching all over and so on. She was intiating everything and I being a guy couldnt pass up the oppurtunity. We also talked alot and she complained about the boyfriend and so on, telling me he treats her bad and so on and that she really likes me and that she never had a real friend and that she wants me to be him and all this. I should mention that by the end of the night we had out share of alcohol so that might of done its part, but she started acting like this when she was still fairly sober. Ohh yeah she also took a birth control pill in my presense that night which I guess i interpeted that as her sugesting something...

By the end of the night, I really wanted to kiss her..she was so beautiful but I just couldn't do it in fear the interpreted it all wrong...however if she were to do it, i wouldnt have resited. I gave her my number but she hasnt called. When I saw one of my girlyfriends today I mentioned to her that I really began to like her and suggested that I find her sexually attractive..but she gave me an ugly look and said "what are you talking about, she has a family..what are you thinking". I dont think having a kid with a guy who mistreats her constitutes a family but whatever.

What should I do? I dont want to pass her up, but maybe I interpreted her wrong and she just wanted to have a good time that night considering she dosnt get out much? Help people..any thoughts are welcome...

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User currently offlineCancidas From Poland, joined Jul 2003, 4112 posts, RR: 10
Reply 1, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 1731 times:

i feel your pain my freind. i'm kinda in the same situtation, but more twisted. first, it's perfectly fine to feel this way about a woman with kids. i do. you need to first of all get to know her better first, and you need to get to know her kid. you need to talk to her. did you get her number at all? email me if you have other questions.

"...cannot the kingdom of salvation take me home."
User currently offlineTbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7013 posts, RR: 23
Reply 2, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 6 days 2 hours ago) and read 1710 times:

How old are you, your profile says 16-20, if you're on the younger end of that, maybe your friend thought it was creepy when you suggested it to her.

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User currently offlineHigh_flyr69 From Australia, joined Apr 2001, 510 posts, RR: 0
Reply 3, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 22 hours ago) and read 1664 times:

This situation spells trouble dude. Think with your head and not your dick.
If you are feeling tempted to have a go at other girls you probly need to drop the one you got. Your only young like me so go out there and have fun it aint like your going to get married any time soon so whats the need to have a Girlfriend. If you do get a girlfriend though dont cheat on her, all that does is get you a bad reputation.

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User currently offlineAn-225 From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 3952 posts, RR: 36
Reply 4, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 22 hours ago) and read 1666 times:

I am no expert, but you know... you could have probably gotten her in the bed that day. As for anything more long-term - I wouldn't suggest it. At least to me, kids are a major turn-off.


Money does not bring you happiness. But it's better to cry in your own private limo than on a cold bus stop.
User currently offline174thfwff From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 20 hours ago) and read 1644 times:

If you think that she's willing to cheat on her current boyfriend for you...Then what makes you think she'll wait around for you when you go on vacation.


If I were you, I'd think with the head above your shoulders, not between the legs.

User currently offlineYKA From Netherlands, joined Sep 2001, 766 posts, RR: 0
Reply 6, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 1623 times:

Yeah its sort of a stupid situation, I'm 20 also, I shouldd have mentioned that. I also should have mentioned that the kid is actually an infant (11 months), im not sure if that makes a diffrence. She lives with her mother and boyfriend(when hes home), younger brother at her perents house since he cant provide for her. Anyway, I dont really want anything long term with her since her boyfriend would probably kill me, and I wouldnt want to be raising some-elses kid. Maybe another situation like this occurs, then I'll be more clear on her intentions. Girls are so messed up...

User currently offlineAirways1 From United Kingdom, joined Jul 1999, 563 posts, RR: 0
Reply 7, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 1611 times:

Do what male lions do when they find a lioness with cubs.

User currently offlineKingsford From Belgium, joined Nov 2003, 427 posts, RR: 3
Reply 8, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 1607 times:

I think they eat the cubs, no ? What a strange suggestion.

User currently offlineJetService From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 4798 posts, RR: 10
Reply 9, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 15 hours ago) and read 1593 times:

Kinsford, NOOO!!! He puts a tape of Lion King on for the kid, f%cks the sh!t out of mom then eats the wildebeest she'd been saving.

"Shaddap you!"
User currently offlineKingsford From Belgium, joined Nov 2003, 427 posts, RR: 3
Reply 10, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 14 hours ago) and read 1588 times:

Which will make more sense for our Polish friend here I am sure. Thanks for clarifying JetService, I nearly fainted because of my ignorance of feline behaviour in the savannah...  Wink/being sarcastic

User currently offlineC172Akula From Canada, joined Mar 2001, 1017 posts, RR: 3
Reply 11, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 10 hours ago) and read 1557 times:

Regardless of all the other stuff in the story, there is one thing that sticks out in my mind as wrong...

"I gave her my number"

Anyone else see a problem with this? You gotta get her number man, oldest rule in the book. And yes I think that was just going to be a one-nighter, so you missed the chance, buck up and move on.

User currently offlineUPSfueler From United States of America, joined May 2003, 430 posts, RR: 0
Reply 12, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1536 times:

Yeah man, you ask for her number, then give her yours. That way she is waiting for you to call just like you are waiting for her. Dating games are pretty crummy, but its worth it in the long run if it works out.

User currently offlineYKA From Netherlands, joined Sep 2001, 766 posts, RR: 0
Reply 13, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1519 times:

Yeah crap, I did miss out, but she asked for my number, its not like I just gave it to her. If this was just an ordinary girl i would have taken her number but because of the situation described above..i didnt think it was proper to ask for hers.

User currently offlineBmi330 From United Kingdom, joined Nov 2001, 1455 posts, RR: 1
Reply 14, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 3 hours ago) and read 1502 times:

Nail her and everyones happy my friend. If she wants to carry it on just make sure she cant get ur number or adress and your sorted.

User currently offlineMd11lover From Switzerland, joined Oct 2003, 444 posts, RR: 0
Reply 15, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 3 days 23 hours ago) and read 1454 times:


I dont think you should give up so easily man. I mean, if you like this girl and felt some chemistry there, then go for it. Find out more about her, talk to her, call her (if you get her number through someone), i mean, i know she s in a complicated situation, but im sure she doesnt want to live unhappily with someone who treats her bad. She s probably just afraid to commit to someone else since she s already involved seriously. You re young though and maybe you dont want to get involved so soon, but if you feel that you re gonna be happy with her, go for it, and you ll find out for sure. Good luck


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