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Encouragment Needed: My Father Is Very Ill  
User currently offlineMatt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 47
Posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 1434 times:

I've been extremely busy lately, hence my absence on the board.

Anywa, I didn't want to say anything originally, but now, I can use whatever prayers, thoughts, or support I can get.

For the last 12 days or so, my father has been in the hospital.

Before, he was complaining about having a headache that he could not get rid of. Then one morning, he got up and was disoriented, seeing double, and could not stand.

So he had his neighbor rush him to the emergency room.

at first it was thought that he was having a stroke.

But that turned out not to be the case.

After a spinal tap, a CAT scan, and an MRI, he was determined to have come down with a severe case of meningitis.

They installed a catheter in his arm, where he will have to administer antibiotics for the next two months or so.

He has been doing so-so this last week. Originally, he was to be released as soon as he went 24 hours without a headache OR fever.

A second spinal tap was done to check the progression of the illness.

Well, it appears now that he isn't going anywhere anytime soon.

The results of his first tap revealed a white cell count of 80.

The one he did on Sunday revealed a white cell count of 200.

Apparently, a normal healthy person should have a white cell count of 5 or less.

So not only has he NOT recovered, but he has gotten worse. A second MRI for today has been ordered. He hasn't been responding to the antibiotics that they have been giving him. So now, they have to give him another kind (the name escapes me at the moment).

Unfortunately, he's allergic to it. But he has no choice.

The doctors still aren't sure how he got it. He's frustrated because he's not getting better, and wants to go home. I'm upset at the whole thing, him being my father and all.

In the meantime, I've been going to his house every couple of days, checking on things, getting his mail, feeding the cat, and paying his bills so that they don't go delinquent.

I've also been visiting him as much as I could. I've even smuggled in cigarettes, Double-Doubles from In-N-Out, bacon and eggs, and pancakes (his cholesterol, at last check was only 161-which for a 55 year old man, is pretty damn good).

I'm really worried, and I'm asking for any words of support, encouragement, or prayers from anyone who cares.

This is a really difficult time for me and him, especially since I am his only child.

Thank you


Matt

41 replies: All unread, showing first 25:
 
User currently offlineKROC From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 1417 times:

Matt, very sorry to hear your father hasn't gotten any better. My thoughts and best wishes are with you and your dad in this rough time.

User currently offlineHomer71 From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 2242 posts, RR: 14
Reply 2, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 1412 times:

You have our thoughts and prayers...hope he can pull through.


"On spaceship earth there are no passengers...only crew."
User currently offlineJetService From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 4798 posts, RR: 11
Reply 3, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1397 times:

Matt, I know what you're going through! Its such a scary time. You and your pop are definately in my thoughts and prayers. I hope he has a full recovery!


"Shaddap you!"
User currently offlineRyanb741 From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 3221 posts, RR: 16
Reply 4, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1393 times:

My very best wishes go to you and your father at this time, and I sincerely hope you can find the strength to cope in these very difficult circumstances.


I used to think the brain is the most fascinating part of my body. But, hey, who is telling me that?
User currently offlineJaysit From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1389 times:

Matt - your dad seems like he will pull through. The meningitis was caught early. A good friend was in the same predicament and he survived. I'll throw a penny in the wishing well, and hopefully dad can go home to his cat who is probably hoping for his return.

User currently offlineAlpha 1 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1384 times:

Matt, all the prayers to your father. I'd want prayers for me vis-a-vis my dad, as I think he's the greatest guy in th world, so I'm behind you 100%. I'm sure he'll make it ,and if our thoughts and prayers help they're there.

User currently offlineSabena332 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1384 times:

Matt, best wishes to you and your father, I hope he will recover very soon!

Patrick


User currently offlineJcs17 From United States of America, joined Jun 2001, 8065 posts, RR: 39
Reply 8, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1380 times:

My thoughts and best wishes are with you and your father.


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User currently offlineSaintsman From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 2065 posts, RR: 2
Reply 9, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1377 times:

The hardest thing to do is not to worry. If you look worried (and I know you will be) your father will be worried for you and he doesn't need that at this time. Worrying does not help but a positive state of mind does. Being positive is also infectious and that will rub off on your father and help him with his battle. Just by realising that you are not alone gives a person additional strength and when you are seriously ill you need all the help you can get.

Good luck.



User currently offlineLoneStarMike From United States of America, joined Jul 2000, 3813 posts, RR: 34
Reply 10, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1374 times:

It's great that you are able to do all of those things for him and that you're visiting him a lot.

As far as encouragement goes, my advice would be to have a positive attitude (especially when you're around him) and don't EVER give up hope.

I went through something similar this Spring. My 97 year old maternal grandmother in Dallas was found semi-concious in her apartment at the retirement home where she lives. She had pnuemonia and a bladder infection.

A lady I met on the Southwest flight up to DAL befriended me and gave me a ride to the hospital when we got to DAL. She told me not to expect my grandmother to live being that old and with pnuemonia.

Anyway, my grandmother had to go to the hospital for a week and then to a nursing home for a month for some rehab. (She'd become so weak she really couldn't walk.) Except for me and her son who no longer speaks to her, she has no relatives.

For 6 weeks I flew back and forth between AUS-DAL. I was in AUS for the weekends, but in Dallas during the week when she was getting her therapy. I was there every day she had therapy and was like her cheerleader -- encouraging her, watching her, making sure she did her excercises right, paying her bills like you are for your dad, etc.

Long story short she recovered and got to finally go home. Yesterday marked 7 months since she's been home and she's actually better now than she was before she got sick. I've been back to stay with her a few days in September and I'll be going again the day after Thanksgiving.

She's hard of hearing and can get a little cranky sometimes and there were times I wanted to pull my hair out  Smile but looking back, I'm so glad I made the effort and she is too.

So in conclusion, spend as much time as you can with him, project a positive attitude, and the most important thing is to take care of YOURSELF. Don't let yourself get run down. Take a break if you have to. (I did on the weekends.) If you don't take care of yourself, then you won't be able to help him.

Good luck to you and I'll keep you and your dad in my thoughts and prayers.

LoneStarMike

User currently offlineSleekjet From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 2046 posts, RR: 22
Reply 11, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 1352 times:

Matt: I've been through similar circumstances and you have my sympathies. I will add you and your dad to my prayer list.


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User currently offlineYyz717 From Canada, joined Sep 2001, 16248 posts, RR: 56
Reply 12, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 1336 times:

Matt, add my wishes to the list. I hope your Dad recovers soon.

Neil



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User currently offlineKYIPpilot From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 1383 posts, RR: 6
Reply 13, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 9 hours ago) and read 1322 times:

Matt, I hope your dad recovers quickly. With good strong attitude and your encouragement, he will make it ok. I will say a prayer for him. Good Luck!


"It starts when you're always afraid; You step out of line, the man come and take you away" -Buffalo Springfield
User currently offline777236ER From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 14, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 8 hours ago) and read 1294 times:

Good luck Matt - for what it's worth you even have people across the pond hoping he gets better.

User currently offlineN6376m From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1287 times:

Matt,

My prayers are with you and your family during what is certainly a difficult time. Though we live all our lives with our parents taking care of us, it's always hard when the time come to reverse the roles.

-76M


User currently offlineKilavoud From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 16, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1278 times:

Hi Matt D,

It is very nice that you take care of your father and I must say that I am favorably impressed. But do not forget to take care of you and of your own health. All the best. Sincerely. Kilavoud.


User currently offlineCanadi>nBoy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1268 times:

Matt,

Please accept my sincere sympathy and prayers in regards to your dear father and what you and your family are going through. I lost my beloved dad in 1993, and I know only two well the emotions you are feeling.

Kind regards,
Canadi>nBoy


User currently offlineAirT85 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1268 times:

I second what Kilavoud added.

You and your father are both in prayers. Hang in there, man  Smile

-Tony


User currently offlineIHadAPheo From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 6027 posts, RR: 55
Reply 19, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1267 times:

Matt I wish both you and your dad good luck with his fighting meningitis, I know this is a tough time for both of you but he is inthe best place for his illness and hopefully the treatment is starting to take hold and you will soon see improvement. Best of luck and keep us updated as to his condition if you have time. I will keep you both in my thoughts.

Yours,
IHadAPheo



Pray hard but pray with care For the tears that you are crying now Are just your answered prayers
User currently offlineEA CO AS From United States of America, joined Nov 2001, 13554 posts, RR: 62
Reply 20, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1260 times:
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Matt,

We're all in your corner. The best advice I can give has already been given; maintain a positive, cheerful attitude for your dad. Your faith in his recovery will help him immensely. I'll keep you both in my prayers though.

Best regards,

Robb



"In this present crisis, government is not the solution to our problem - government IS the problem." - Ronald Reagan
User currently offlineCanyonBlue From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1246 times:

Matt,

I will keep you in my prayers and wish you and your family all the best. Keep your head up, remain positive and surround yourself with friends and family.

CanyonBlue


User currently offlineFly727 From Mexico, joined Jul 2003, 1789 posts, RR: 19
Reply 22, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 6 hours ago) and read 1241 times:

What else could I say to you? My very best wishes and prayers for you and your daddy. I really hope from the bottom of my heart that he recovers. I went through something similar less than two years ago with my brother... and I know the hell you're living. It was sad, very sad and hard, but I'm still here and so are you. More mature, stronger; a better person.

Que Dios te bendiga -as we, south of the river- say.
RM  Big grin



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User currently offlineTom in NO From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 7194 posts, RR: 33
Reply 23, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 6 hours ago) and read 1234 times:

Matt,

Add me to those sending out thoughts and prayers to your dad and you. Stay positive, and keep working in those double-double's.  Smile

Tom at MSY



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User currently offlineMatt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 47
Reply 24, posted (10 years 9 months 3 weeks 2 days 6 hours ago) and read 1234 times:

Thank you all for support. I know we all sometimes spar and tear at each other in here, and joke around and stuff. But times like this I really appreciate your kind words.

25 Usairwys757 : My Prayers are with you and your family Matt, Good luck with these hard times man! MY prayers are with you.
26 AA61hvy : We're with you Matt! All the way
27 Post contains images Ctbarnes : Absolutely Matt! My prayers are with you and your dad! Keep those double-doubles, bacon and eggs coming. That's probably the best thing (second only t
28 MidnightMike : Matt My prayers go out to you big guy, right now, your father needs your strength, & your smile, not your tears and misery. Keep your chin up, keep t
29 Post contains images EmiratesA345 : By the sounds of it, you're doing a good job. Make sure you stay positive, and don't give up hope! I'm sure he'll pull through! EmiratesA345
30 GDB : Best wishes to you and your Dad, as Jaysit said, they caught it early and that's a huge positive. Antibiotics are in a way victims of their own succes
31 PHX-LJU : My grandmother, who is in her 80s, had a terrible case of bacterial meningitis last year. It began after a fall that cracked her skull. It wasn't a se
32 UN_B732 : Matt D. My prayers are with your dad. -UN
33 Greg : Despite our forum differences, my best to your father, you, and your family. My hopes for a full and fast recovery. Greg/
34 DaV : Hi Matt, for what my words are worth, don't give up and continuously give your support to your father. You can't be wrong on this. My best wishes to b
35 Superfly : Best wishes to your father Matt D. He will pull through this. The best thing you could do is be there for him. I don't know too much about meningitis
36 174thfwff : Matt, As a person who is on the medical side of things, it never get easier for both the doctors and patient/family. I know the doctors are doing thei
37 Redngold : Matt, I just said a prayer for you and your father, and most importantly, for the doctors treating him! While that white cell count is obviously high,
38 B747Skipper : I wish to send your father our best wishes and our prayers. No words are good enough when people hurt. From far away... but we are close - (s) Skipper
39 Mirrodie : Hey Matt, we are so sorry to hear what you have been going through. Keep your head up and keep keepin' your dad in the best of spirits. We are praying
40 Covert : Matt D I have been away, but I hope for the best for your pops. I got him in my prayers. covert
41 MSYtristar : Matt, You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am going through a tough time right now as well with my Aunt having a stroke...prognosis i
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