Matt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 49 Posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 13 hours ago) and read 1363 times:
I've been extremely busy lately, hence my absence on the board.
Anywa, I didn't want to say anything originally, but now, I can use whatever prayers, thoughts, or support I can get.
For the last 12 days or so, my father has been in the hospital.
Before, he was complaining about having a headache that he could not get rid of. Then one morning, he got up and was disoriented, seeing double, and could not stand.
So he had his neighbor rush him to the emergency room.
at first it was thought that he was having a stroke.
But that turned out not to be the case.
After a spinal tap, a CAT scan, and an MRI, he was determined to have come down with a severe case of meningitis.
They installed a catheter in his arm, where he will have to administer antibiotics for the next two months or so.
He has been doing so-so this last week. Originally, he was to be released as soon as he went 24 hours without a headache OR fever.
A second spinal tap was done to check the progression of the illness.
Well, it appears now that he isn't going anywhere anytime soon.
The results of his first tap revealed a white cell count of 80.
The one he did on Sunday revealed a white cell count of 200.
Apparently, a normal healthy person should have a white cell count of 5 or less.
So not only has he NOT recovered, but he has gotten worse. A second MRI for today has been ordered. He hasn't been responding to the antibiotics that they have been giving him. So now, they have to give him another kind (the name escapes me at the moment).
Unfortunately, he's allergic to it. But he has no choice.
The doctors still aren't sure how he got it. He's frustrated because he's not getting better, and wants to go home. I'm upset at the whole thing, him being my father and all.
In the meantime, I've been going to his house every couple of days, checking on things, getting his mail, feeding the cat, and paying his bills so that they don't go delinquent.
I've also been visiting him as much as I could. I've even smuggled in cigarettes, Double-Doubles from In-N-Out, bacon and eggs, and pancakes (his cholesterol, at last check was only 161-which for a 55 year old man, is pretty damn good).
I'm really worried, and I'm asking for any words of support, encouragement, or prayers from anyone who cares.
This is a really difficult time for me and him, especially since I am his only child.
Jaysit From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 12 hours ago) and read 1318 times:
Matt - your dad seems like he will pull through. The meningitis was caught early. A good friend was in the same predicament and he survived. I'll throw a penny in the wishing well, and hopefully dad can go home to his cat who is probably hoping for his return.
Alpha 1 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 12 hours ago) and read 1313 times:
Matt, all the prayers to your father. I'd want prayers for me vis-a-vis my dad, as I think he's the greatest guy in th world, so I'm behind you 100%. I'm sure he'll make it ,and if our thoughts and prayers help they're there.
Saintsman From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 2065 posts, RR: 2
Reply 9, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 12 hours ago) and read 1306 times:
The hardest thing to do is not to worry. If you look worried (and I know you will be) your father will be worried for you and he doesn't need that at this time. Worrying does not help but a positive state of mind does. Being positive is also infectious and that will rub off on your father and help him with his battle. Just by realising that you are not alone gives a person additional strength and when you are seriously ill you need all the help you can get.
LoneStarMike From United States of America, joined Jul 2000, 3775 posts, RR: 35
Reply 10, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 12 hours ago) and read 1303 times:
It's great that you are able to do all of those things for him and that you're visiting him a lot.
As far as encouragement goes, my advice would be to have a positive attitude (especially when you're around him) and don't EVER give up hope.
I went through something similar this Spring. My 97 year old maternal grandmother in Dallas was found semi-concious in her apartment at the retirement home where she lives. She had pnuemonia and a bladder infection.
A lady I met on the Southwest flight up to DAL befriended me and gave me a ride to the hospital when we got to DAL. She told me not to expect my grandmother to live being that old and with pnuemonia.
Anyway, my grandmother had to go to the hospital for a week and then to a nursing home for a month for some rehab. (She'd become so weak she really couldn't walk.) Except for me and her son who no longer speaks to her, she has no relatives.
For 6 weeks I flew back and forth between AUS-DAL. I was in AUS for the weekends, but in Dallas during the week when she was getting her therapy. I was there every day she had therapy and was like her cheerleader -- encouraging her, watching her, making sure she did her excercises right, paying her bills like you are for your dad, etc.
Long story short she recovered and got to finally go home. Yesterday marked 7 months since she's been home and she's actually better now than she was before she got sick. I've been back to stay with her a few days in September and I'll be going again the day after Thanksgiving.
She's hard of hearing and can get a little cranky sometimes and there were times I wanted to pull my hair out but looking back, I'm so glad I made the effort and she is too.
So in conclusion, spend as much time as you can with him, project a positive attitude, and the most important thing is to take care of YOURSELF. Don't let yourself get run down. Take a break if you have to. (I did on the weekends.) If you don't take care of yourself, then you won't be able to help him.
Good luck to you and I'll keep you and your dad in my thoughts and prayers.
N6376m From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 9 hours ago) and read 1216 times:
My prayers are with you and your family during what is certainly a difficult time. Though we live all our lives with our parents taking care of us, it's always hard when the time come to reverse the roles.
Canadi>nBoy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 8 hours ago) and read 1197 times:
Please accept my sincere sympathy and prayers in regards to your dear father and what you and your family are going through. I lost my beloved dad in 1993, and I know only two well the emotions you are feeling.
IHadAPheo From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 6027 posts, RR: 56
Reply 19, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 8 hours ago) and read 1196 times:
Matt I wish both you and your dad good luck with his fighting meningitis, I know this is a tough time for both of you but he is inthe best place for his illness and hopefully the treatment is starting to take hold and you will soon see improvement. Best of luck and keep us updated as to his condition if you have time. I will keep you both in my thoughts.
Pray hard but pray with care For the tears that you are crying now Are just your answered prayers
EA CO AS From United States of America, joined Nov 2001, 13178 posts, RR: 62
Reply 20, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 8 hours ago) and read 1189 times:
We're all in your corner. The best advice I can give has already been given; maintain a positive, cheerful attitude for your dad. Your faith in his recovery will help him immensely. I'll keep you both in my prayers though.
"In this present crisis, government is not the solution to our problem - government IS the problem." - Ronald Reagan
Fly727 From Mexico, joined Jul 2003, 1789 posts, RR: 19
Reply 22, posted (10 years 4 months 1 week 8 hours ago) and read 1170 times:
What else could I say to you? My very best wishes and prayers for you and your daddy. I really hope from the bottom of my heart that he recovers. I went through something similar less than two years ago with my brother... and I know the hell you're living. It was sad, very sad and hard, but I'm still here and so are you. More mature, stronger; a better person.
Que Dios te bendiga -as we, south of the river- say.
There are no stupid questions... just stupid people!