ConcordeBoy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 2859 times:
I'm curious as to how you worldwide types tend to view interracial coupling.
I'm the result of an interracial relationship (my father is White-German /French and my mother is Black-American); and having grown up in both the DeepSouth, SoCal, and France... I've gotten a pretty good overall view of how it's seen/felt/handled by various people.
Just some general questions:
Would you date/mate with someone of another race but not marry/breed with them? If so, why?
Would you be accepted by your family/peers? If not, is that something that would prevent you from attempting an interracial relationship if it was something that came your way?
Soku39 From United States of America, joined Nov 2000, 1797 posts, RR: 8
Reply 1, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 2851 times:
Im a young black man, who is dating a white woman. I have absolutely no problems with it seeing as how she is so wonderful, I just get pissed off sometimes when people give us looks out in public and stuff. Not many people do that though, just the ignorant ones. I feel its being more accepted, and am never ashamed for being out with her.
Kilavoud From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 2841 times:
I am European and my wife is Indian. Our two daughters have mixed blood, and look both very attractive. Why not extend later our family to the Chinese world if one of my daughters is willing to do it ?
Garnetpalmetto From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 5544 posts, RR: 51
Reply 7, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 2825 times:
Considering I'm 1/4 Black, 1/4 French, 1/4 German and 25% unknown, I'm all for it
Seriously, however, growing up in South Carolina it's kind of odd that we're home to a college that only allowed interracial dating 3 years ago, that interracial marriage was only formally legalized under a decade ago and there's still somewhat of a social stigma. In elementary school for instance, I was too white to play with the black kids and too black to play with the white kids. Not something that promotes the positive social growth of a youngster. I'm also going through this now in my current relationship, as my girlfriend's mother is NOT pleased that she's dating me, as dating me might "ruin any chances she has of finding a nice WASP guy to settle down with and *gasp* what WOULD the children look like?"
Yes it's rough, but I believe that interracial relationships are natural. After all, what people are saying now about interracial relationships were said 100 years ago about internationality marriages. Does anyone blink today when someone of German descent marries someone of French descent? Don't think so. Not only that, but speaking of the health of the species on whole, it's healthier as it allows for the widest possible gene pool. Just my $0.02 on the matter.
South Carolina - too small to be its own country, too big to be a mental asylum.
ScarletHarlot From Canada, joined Jul 2003, 4673 posts, RR: 54
Reply 11, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 2793 times:
Who cares? Let's strengthen the gene pool.
That said, my dad didn't like it when I dated a Chinese man, and he made a few snide comments about my husband being Portuguese. He did say flat out that it would have been unacceptable for me to bring home a black man.
If I ever have kids, I will never care what race or ethnicity their sweeties are.
Qantasforever From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 14, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 2771 times:
I guess I'm part of an interracial relationship (me being half asian half white european and my wife being full white european) and to be honest I haven't ever really thought about it till now.
No, I don't think that it matters - there will obviously be those people in society who will never agree with it, but their opinion is of no consequence - the only people that matter are those actually in the relationship.
I know a couple who have been together for 35 years now - he is black trinidadian and she is white Australian and they have enjoyed a long and happy marriage and have raised wonderful children.
I think the film "Guess Who's coming to Dinner" sums this issue up quite well.
And on a more shallow note (this user excluded of course) interracial offspring are typically very attractive. I used to date a girl who was half Indonesian and half Lebanese - one hot tamale.
Startvalve From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 2762 times:
I am 100% pure white boy of European descent (German, Irish, English, Scottish). My girlfriend is Hispanic. I like her personality, the fact shes not a dumbass like a lot of girls I know. In fact shes pretty damn smart plus she has a job making big bucks which is handy since I am still in school.
My family's acceptance. My family loves her. Race is a non issue which I almost found a bit surprising.
Her family: Most of them are OK with me. She has an aunt that's got some issues with me being a white boy, but she's just a bitch so most of the family tunes her out. If it wasn't that it would be something else so Its not of big concern.
As for breeding we are both not too hateful looking and do quite well on all forms of intelligence measuring. So not only would our kids be cute, they would be smart too. So hell yeah I plan to breed with her someday.
Chepos From Puerto Rico, joined Dec 2000, 6362 posts, RR: 10
Reply 16, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 3 hours ago) and read 2763 times:
It dosen't really matter to me as I usually date guys outside my race. Interracial relationships have both negative aspects and positive aspects, sometimes cultural differences can even tear a relationship apart .
Chepos From Puerto Rico, joined Dec 2000, 6362 posts, RR: 10
Reply 17, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 3 days 3 hours ago) and read 2756 times:
The world has made alot of progress on this issue (at least thats my experience), the last guys I have dated were white and they actually liked the idea of dating a Hispanic guy .
Sorry for the double post
B747-437B From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 2746 times:
There are some parts of the United States where a white girl dating anything other than a white boy is simply not healthy for the boy.
I have two friends who were "taught a lesson" (including one who had to undergo emergency surgery for a ruptured spleen as a result) for trying to date white girls, so I would urge caution to anyone who considers it.
TNboy From Australia, joined Mar 2002, 1131 posts, RR: 18
Reply 19, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 2733 times:
It's very sad that this issue even arises. And it seems that mostly any two people have the potential to get along, but the problem is with their friends and family - and sometimes this can rub off, or influence the people involved. But it's not just color, of course, it's also religion, as well as nationality. Hey, if this forum spends half its time fighting over Boeing vs Airbus, what hope do poor people in love have??
Ryanb741 From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 3222 posts, RR: 14
Reply 20, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 2727 times:
I am white Caucasian (25% English, 25% French, 25% Spanish and 25% Irish) and my wife is Thai of Chinese origin. To be honest race has never been a concern and we have never encountered overt racism (although we live in London which is the most cosmopolitan city in the UK). If we did receive racist comments it wouldn't bother me. I guess the only thing that has ever happened is the frequent 'oh so funny' "did you buy your wife off the internet?" 'jokes', but that isn't racism it is more a stigma of an uneducated view of Thais. It has got to the stage where my wife just says she's Chinese now.
I used to think the brain is the most fascinating part of my body. But, hey, who is telling me that?
NormalSpeed From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 2717 times:
This is definitely what I'd call a delicate issue. Does it bother me when I see an interracial couple? No, not in the least. Would I date someone of another race? Probably not, unless we got along extremely well. The reason for this? Well, I think Chepos stated it very accurately:
"...sometimes cultural differences can even tear a relationship apart."
Except I'd substitute the word "sometimes" with the word "often." Marriages within homogeneous cultures are difficult enough, it seems, without the added tension of disparate culture.
If someone wants to attempt an interracial relationship, I say "more power to them." However, I do not believe that I will undertake such a task.
N6376m From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 22, posted (12 years 1 month 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 2708 times:
My thought is, "Who cares?" I think far too many people concern themselves about other people's business rather than focus on their own. This goes for a variety of subjects including but not limited to - interracial relationships, same sex marriage, pornography, personal use of drugs within the confines of your own home, drinking, etc . . .
This country was founded on the principle of the rights of the individual and every day we get farther and farther away from those principles. What business is it of anyone else who you date, who you f**k, or what you do on your computer as long as you're not hurting anyone else.
Now if you're asking the question because you're having doubts about your relationship, then you've got bigger (underlying) problems rather than the race issue.