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Your Thoughts On Interracial Relationships?  
User currently offlineConcordeBoy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2325 times:

I'm curious as to how you worldwide types tend to view interracial coupling.





I'm the result of an interracial relationship (my father is White-German Smile/French Pissed and my mother is Black-American); and having grown up in both the DeepSouth, SoCal, and France... I've gotten a pretty good overall view of how it's seen/felt/handled by various people.



Just some general questions:
Would you date/mate with someone of another race but not marry/breed with them? If so, why?

Would you be accepted by your family/peers? If not, is that something that would prevent you from attempting an interracial relationship if it was something that came your way?

Do you think it's amoral/unnatural in any way?


...just curious

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User currently offlineSoku39 From United States of America, joined Nov 2000, 1797 posts, RR: 9
Reply 1, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2317 times:

Im a young black man, who is dating a white woman. I have absolutely no problems with it seeing as how she is so wonderful, I just get pissed off sometimes when people give us looks out in public and stuff. Not many people do that though, just the ignorant ones. I feel its being more accepted, and am never ashamed for being out with her.


The Ohio Player
User currently offlineZak From Greenland, joined Sep 2003, 1993 posts, RR: 8
Reply 2, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2314 times:

"Would you date/mate with someone of another race but not marry/breed with them? If so, why?"

-date/mate been there done that
-marry/breed: dont plan to yet, race would not play a role in it though

"Would you be accepted by your family/peers? "
-yes, 100% acceptance

"Do you think it's amoral/unnatural in any way?"
- i think thinking it was morally incorrect or unnatural is exactly that, amoral and unnatural



10=2
User currently offlineZak From Greenland, joined Sep 2003, 1993 posts, RR: 8
Reply 3, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2312 times:

hi soku if you are the same one from sorcery.net, hi, been a while!



10=2
User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 39478 posts, RR: 75
Reply 4, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2310 times:

I agree with the the first two post.

I am a Black guy and I have dated women of various races. Race would not be a factor in dating or marrage.
My family would totally be accepting of it too. My oldest sister's husband is White (Dutch).

I really could careless what others thought even if it was family.



Bring back the Concorde
User currently offlineKilavoud From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2307 times:

I am European and my wife is Indian. Our two daughters have mixed blood, and look both very attractive. Why not extend later our family to the Chinese world if one of my daughters is willing to do it ?

Cheers. Kilavoud.


User currently offlineJAL777 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2303 times:

I really could careless what others thought even if it was family.

Ditto.


User currently offlineGarnetpalmetto From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 5327 posts, RR: 53
Reply 7, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 2291 times:

Considering I'm 1/4 Black, 1/4 French, 1/4 German and 25% unknown, I'm all for it  Big thumbs up

Seriously, however, growing up in South Carolina it's kind of odd that we're home to a college that only allowed interracial dating 3 years ago, that interracial marriage was only formally legalized under a decade ago and there's still somewhat of a social stigma. In elementary school for instance, I was too white to play with the black kids and too black to play with the white kids. Not something that promotes the positive social growth of a youngster. I'm also going through this now in my current relationship, as my girlfriend's mother is NOT pleased that she's dating me, as dating me might "ruin any chances she has of finding a nice WASP guy to settle down with and *gasp* what WOULD the children look like?"

Yes it's rough, but I believe that interracial relationships are natural. After all, what people are saying now about interracial relationships were said 100 years ago about internationality marriages. Does anyone blink today when someone of German descent marries someone of French descent? Don't think so. Not only that, but speaking of the health of the species on whole, it's healthier as it allows for the widest possible gene pool. Just my $0.02 on the matter.



South Carolina - too small to be its own country, too big to be a mental asylum.
User currently offlineJcs17 From United States of America, joined Jun 2001, 8065 posts, RR: 40
Reply 8, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 2288 times:

My wife is black.

Signed,
Toner



America's chickens are coming home to rooooost!
User currently offlineAC320 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 2276 times:

oooooooo, that was low  Big thumbs up

User currently offlineSccutler From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 5393 posts, RR: 26
Reply 10, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 2264 times:

Since the notion of a "pure" race is utterly specious anyway, any objections to "interracial" dating are purely cultural bias.

Fortunately (at least where I live), these archaic ideas are fading fast.



...three miles from BRONS, clear for the ILS one five approach...
User currently offlineScarletHarlot From Canada, joined Jul 2003, 4673 posts, RR: 56
Reply 11, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 2259 times:

Who cares? Let's strengthen the gene pool.

That said, my dad didn't like it when I dated a Chinese man, and he made a few snide comments about my husband being Portuguese. He did say flat out that it would have been unacceptable for me to bring home a black man.

If I ever have kids, I will never care what race or ethnicity their sweeties are.



But that was when I ruled the world
User currently offlineAn-225 From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 3950 posts, RR: 41
Reply 12, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 2249 times:

Personally, I am all for it. Why limit your choices to just one race? As for marriage/kids - not planning to do either.

Alex.



Money does not bring you happiness. But it's better to cry in your own private limo than on a cold bus stop.
User currently offlineBigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4076 posts, RR: 54
Reply 13, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 2249 times:

Until this past month, I've never dated a white girl. I get along a lot better with black, spanish and other women.


Phil Derner Jr.
User currently offlineQantasforever From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 14, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 2237 times:

I guess I'm part of an interracial relationship (me being half asian half white european and my wife being full white european) and to be honest I haven't ever really thought about it till now.

No, I don't think that it matters - there will obviously be those people in society who will never agree with it, but their opinion is of no consequence - the only people that matter are those actually in the relationship.
I know a couple who have been together for 35 years now - he is black trinidadian and she is white Australian and they have enjoyed a long and happy marriage and have raised wonderful children.

I think the film "Guess Who's coming to Dinner" sums this issue up quite well.

And on a more shallow note (this user excluded of course) interracial offspring are typically very attractive. I used to date a girl who was half Indonesian and half Lebanese - one hot tamale.

QFF


User currently offlineStartvalve From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 2228 times:

I am 100% pure white boy of European descent (German, Irish, English, Scottish). My girlfriend is Hispanic. I like her personality, the fact shes not a dumbass like a lot of girls I know. In fact shes pretty damn smart plus she has a job making big bucks which is handy since I am still in school.

My family's acceptance. My family loves her. Race is a non issue which I almost found a bit surprising.

Her family: Most of them are OK with me. She has an aunt that's got some issues with me being a white boy, but she's just a bitch so most of the family tunes her out. If it wasn't that it would be something else so Its not of big concern.

As for breeding we are both not too hateful looking and do quite well on all forms of intelligence measuring. So not only would our kids be cute, they would be smart too. So hell yeah I plan to breed with her someday.


User currently offlineChepos From Puerto Rico, joined Dec 2000, 6179 posts, RR: 11
Reply 16, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 2229 times:

It dosen't really matter to me as I usually date guys outside my race. Interracial relationships have both negative aspects and positive aspects, sometimes cultural differences can even tear a relationship apart .
Chepos





Fly the Flag!!!!
User currently offlineChepos From Puerto Rico, joined Dec 2000, 6179 posts, RR: 11
Reply 17, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 2222 times:

The world has made alot of progress on this issue (at least thats my experience), the last guys I have dated were white and they actually liked the idea of dating a Hispanic guy .
Sorry for the double post
Chepos



Fly the Flag!!!!
User currently offlineB747-437B From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 11 hours ago) and read 2212 times:

There are some parts of the United States where a white girl dating anything other than a white boy is simply not healthy for the boy.

I have two friends who were "taught a lesson" (including one who had to undergo emergency surgery for a ruptured spleen as a result) for trying to date white girls, so I would urge caution to anyone who considers it.


User currently offlineTNboy From Australia, joined Mar 2002, 1131 posts, RR: 20
Reply 19, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 11 hours ago) and read 2199 times:

It's very sad that this issue even arises. And it seems that mostly any two people have the potential to get along, but the problem is with their friends and family - and sometimes this can rub off, or influence the people involved. But it's not just color, of course, it's also religion, as well as nationality. Hey, if this forum spends half its time fighting over Boeing vs Airbus, what hope do poor people in love have??
Cheers
Bill



"...every aircraft is subtly different.."
User currently offlineRyanb741 From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 3221 posts, RR: 16
Reply 20, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 11 hours ago) and read 2193 times:

I am white Caucasian (25% English, 25% French, 25% Spanish and 25% Irish) and my wife is Thai of Chinese origin. To be honest race has never been a concern and we have never encountered overt racism (although we live in London which is the most cosmopolitan city in the UK). If we did receive racist comments it wouldn't bother me. I guess the only thing that has ever happened is the frequent 'oh so funny' "did you buy your wife off the internet?" 'jokes', but that isn't racism it is more a stigma of an uneducated view of Thais. It has got to the stage where my wife just says she's Chinese now.


I used to think the brain is the most fascinating part of my body. But, hey, who is telling me that?
User currently offlineNormalSpeed From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 10 hours ago) and read 2183 times:

This is definitely what I'd call a delicate issue. Does it bother me when I see an interracial couple? No, not in the least. Would I date someone of another race? Probably not, unless we got along extremely well. The reason for this? Well, I think Chepos stated it very accurately:

"...sometimes cultural differences can even tear a relationship apart."

Except I'd substitute the word "sometimes" with the word "often." Marriages within homogeneous cultures are difficult enough, it seems, without the added tension of disparate culture.

If someone wants to attempt an interracial relationship, I say "more power to them." However, I do not believe that I will undertake such a task.

-Normal


User currently offlineN6376m From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 22, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 10 hours ago) and read 2174 times:

My thought is, "Who cares?" I think far too many people concern themselves about other people's business rather than focus on their own. This goes for a variety of subjects including but not limited to - interracial relationships, same sex marriage, pornography, personal use of drugs within the confines of your own home, drinking, etc . . .

This country was founded on the principle of the rights of the individual and every day we get farther and farther away from those principles. What business is it of anyone else who you date, who you f**k, or what you do on your computer as long as you're not hurting anyone else.

Now if you're asking the question because you're having doubts about your relationship, then you've got bigger (underlying) problems rather than the race issue.

Just my thoughts.


User currently offlineMatt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 48
Reply 23, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 2168 times:

I agree. Who cares? What difference does it make? I myself am dating a Spanish woman these days. Maybe I'll post a picture of her and I.

User currently offlineFoxBravo From United States of America, joined Nov 2003, 2948 posts, RR: 5
Reply 24, posted (10 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 2157 times:

My girlfriend is half white, half Asian. So I'm all for it. And, just looking around NYC, I think it's safe to say that it's pretty common here!


Common sense is not so common. -Voltaire
25 Matt D : ...and now before anyone comes on here and calls me a hypocrite, let me just clarify one point: It's not Spanish PEOPLE that I have a problem with. It
26 777fan : All that matters is the views of the two people "dating." Yes, you have to be aware that some areas are not as "tolerant" as others, but as long as tw
27 Post contains images Windshear : I have nothing against interracial marriage... personally I see something unique and special in each ethnicity, and would there for love to have sex a
28 Csavel : Being from New York it isn't a big deal although I can see it may be in other parts of the country. I have no problem with it, I'm white, I've dated a
29 Post contains images ConcordeBoy : There are some parts of the United States where a white girl dating anything other than a white boy is simply not healthy for the boy. Not just the bo
30 Englandair : Rather appropriate I should see this today- whilst watching the soap Eastenders today with my grandma she cringed and looked away as "Paul" (black) an
31 Ual747 : Having been raised in the south, the older members of my family especially the grandparents aren't used to the idea of interracial dating. My parents
32 Delta767300ER : I'm white/Irish/Italian and I have no problem with interracial relationships. Maybee my next girlfriend will be another race! -Delta767300ER
33 Covert : Not a problem, I don't discriminate against females! covert
34 MerC : I'm all for it. I have dated an Asian girl, Spanish girl, and a girl from the Middle East. My family does not have a problem with that at all. Even if
35 MidnightMike : No big deal, I am part Puerto Rican/Part Italian and married to a Japanese chick, we keep making jokes that are kids are going to be Spic-Wop-Jap. My
36 Us330 : Your business is your business. Who am I to butt in and tell you that you can't date someone. I will admit, however, that I sort of feel awkward when
37 N312RC : My oldest cousin is engaged to a Cuban guy and our family is Caucasian (Polish). My family had no problems with it whatsoever... He's actually really
38 Post contains images Mirrodie : Spic-Wop-Jap Sounds like this restaurant I've seen near Jamaica station in Queens! -Would you date/mate with someone of another race but not marry/bre
39 Gigneil : People should do whatever they want with whatever consenting adults they wish. N
40 KL713 : I'm from Indian descent with my last roots (parents, grandparents) in Suriname, but never had a relationship with a girl from the same descent. I'm to
41 OD720 : I was born in Lebanon and consider myself Lebanese. However, I'm Armenian. Actually 3/4 Armenian and 1/4 Greek. In the past I have dated American girl
42 Zonks : Would you date/mate with someone of another race but not marry/breed with them? If so, why? I've only dated outside of my race and I have no objection
43 L-188 : You know there was a time when, Irish/English and German/Dutch would have been considered interacial also. Frankly it is all pink on the inside.
44 Post contains images Vaporlock : Who cares..............the colour of a persons skin doesn't matter. If you truly find someone you care about.............hopefully it is not because o
45 Juanr : I do not have any problem about other's interracial relationships, and I do not consider myself as a racist in any point because I do not even know wh
46 Post contains images David b. : I do not have any problem about other's interracial relationships, and I do not consider myself as a racist in any point because I do not even know wh
47 Covert : Where are the racists at? Make yourselves heard! Perfect opportunity.
48 ProSimTec : If you are deeply in love, then that's all that matters. As the divorce rate in the U.S. is somewhere around 40-50%, I'd say that anyone who can look
49 Juanr : "I can only assume you do not sleep with anything human." David b. I'm sorry to hear you say that, I can tell you that I sleep with a great person th
50 Matt D : The only people who are racists are the ones that well....practice racism: "I will not date anyone outside my race" " I will ONLY date someone outside
51 Airplay : So-called "interracial relationships" are a non-issue. Persons of varying races, backgrounds, social standings and cultures have been interacting at a
52 Seb146 : My first serious boyfriend was black. My dad would have had a field day with that one not only because of his skin color but becuase he is also 20 yea
53 777-200 : Well, I'm black And all of the women I've been with have been white. And most people in this area (Ohio) don't really care.
54 Post contains images EGFFbmi : I'm currently dating a white girl... Well, I'm White.. all my partners have been white and would definitely date anyone.. Whatever their race.. as lon
55 AlekToronto : That generation that disaproves of dating outside ones "race" is dying out - the world in 10-50 years will be a much different place. In the North Ame
56 AWspicious : "That generation that disapproves of dating outside ones "race" is dying out - the world in 10-50 years will be a much different place. In the North A
57 Yyz717 : In the North America and Europe there is and will be more mixing and the sooner this happens the sooner the world will become a nicer place.....for th
58 Post contains images EmiratesA345 : Have I ever dated interracially? No. Would I ever do it? I don't see why not. Most of the times I don't find myself attracted to other races, however
59 AlekToronto : hey yyz717.. my post didn't quite sound the way that I wanted it to...beauty of online posting. I was making a comment (or trying to) about how here i
60 Post contains images Captaingomes : Emirates will have to try some ghetto booty, and lose his appetite for petite fannies.
61 Post contains images EmiratesA345 : I will NEVER try ghetto booty. Never. EmiratesA345
62 Post contains images Superfly : EmiratesA345 listen to Captaingomes! You haven't lived until you've tried some ghetto booty! Ghetto booty is the best for face sitting!
63 Tupozure : No problem. I got respect for everyone no matter what. I don't know anyone in my group of friends who would have a problem with it either. I don't see
64 AviationMaster : My dad is Swiss and my mom is from Trinidad, I was born in Colombia. I have family in Switzerland, Venezuela, USA and Trinidad and have nothing agains
65 ConcordeBoy : I'd admit to vaguely scrolling, so I might have missed one.... but is there anyone here who does not approve of interracial relationships (both for yo
66 Greg : I've got a major weakness for Latino guys. So, no...it doesn't bother me. I imagine my family has issues with it for a variety of reasons..but they ar
67 Juanr : Ok, Concordeboy, I do not approve interracial relationship for me. Others can do whatever they want. If you want to know the insight take a look to m
68 ConcordeBoy : Understood Juanr... as I said, I'd only glossed over originally. Interesting perspective
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