Ericmetallica From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 4 days 3 hours ago) and read 1197 times:
I found out last night that the real reason my ex broke up with me was because i'm not a christian.She said they said something about it at church one day and that when she broke up with me. I find this the biggests pile of sh*t, it's so stupid. This is why i hate religion and church, they brainwash this stupid crap into you. I find that so low,disrespectfull, and even discriminating. It pisses me off and i have no respect for her church or religion. Religion just causes trouble and fu*ks things up. What a bunch of BS!! That hurt like hell to, knowing that to her i was a "sin"
Ryanb741 From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 3222 posts, RR: 14
Reply 1, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 1151 times:
This is an example of when religion is taken too far. You're probably better off without her if she's that stupid.
The problem with religions is that they all think they've found the answer to everything, when in reality all they have found is a tiny fragment - like a piece on a jigsaw.
I am ethnically European, with an Islamic upbringing, and I am now married to a Thai Buddhist. We have no arguments whatsoever because neither of us is really religious (I believe in God, but that's it).
My advice to you is to leave the God-Botherers alone in future and find yourself a real woman
I used to think the brain is the most fascinating part of my body. But, hey, who is telling me that?
Ericmetallica From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 3, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 1140 times:
Thanks guys...I agree with both of you. A nice person wouldn't but religion between people. It's plane discimination. I also think this might be one of those seperation of state problems. They think they can do whatever they want and the rules don't apply to them. Oh well i lost all respect and love for this girl. Good thing i have a date tomarrow.
Alos sorry if what i said in my original post offends anyone.
Chris28_17 From United States of America, joined Jul 2000, 1439 posts, RR: 9
Reply 4, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 23 hours ago) and read 1124 times:
No offense but i think your more ignorant than the people you critisize. Have you ever stopped to think maybe your girl just didnt want to tell you the real reason she dumped you? girls are like that dude, more than likely it was just an excuse that she had been formulating for weeks...
lets say she WAS being honest, she shouldnt have gone out with you in the first place, she was wrong in that regard. (im not sticking up for her)
I know it sucks to get dumped, no matter how it happend, but dont generalize a whole group of people because of it.
I consider myself a christian, and, believe it or not i have been dumped TWICE by catholic girls because i was not catholic. Do i turn around and blame catholisism? NO! Do i agree with it? Of course not... one time in particular i was dumped about 2 years ago by a girl i was very serious with, she was catholic... i dont know if i ever truly got over that one....
But that is someone's deeply held belief, and i am a fool to question that. Imagine how hard it would be if you had to break up with someone because they werent in line with your beliefs... its hard for both parties....
Hope i've helped a bit... Oh, i personally date girls as long as they live clean .. i.e. dont smoke, dress nice, etc... but religion doesnt play a huge role; i suppose if they were satanic or atheist it would be a different story... but that hasnt happend yet...
Ctbarnes From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 3491 posts, RR: 48
Reply 10, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 1106 times:
For what it's worth, I think you are better off having broken up. To pass judgement on you for not being a Christian I find a very stinted view of Christianity, and is exactly the type of thing that gives it a bad name. If she were truly Christian, she would accept you for who you are and not try to force her religion down your throat. Secondly, if it appeared a sort of brainwashing, and the alarm bells start to go off in your own mind, you are right to have trusted your instincts and backed away. That she judges you to be sinful is not your problem, and it was wrong of her to pass judgement on you like that. Frankly, you deserve better.
The customer isn't a moron, she is your wife -David Ogilvy
Critter From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 267 posts, RR: 2
Reply 16, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1077 times:
I have to commend your ex-girlfriend for her stand. She did what was best for both of you. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (II Corinthians 6:14)
Think about all of the differences that the two of you would have over your dating or married life. It most likely would lead to a divorce unless one of you compromised your beliefs.
I too dated a non-christian at once and was seriously considering marriage. I want to thank God for getting my foolish self out of that situation because I am worlds happier with my wife and child than I ever would have been with the non-believer. There just would have been disagreements at every turn and would have ultimately lead to two lives of regret.
"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." (Proverbs 13:20)
DE727UPS From United States of America, joined Nov 2000, 814 posts, RR: 12
Reply 20, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1068 times:
I agree with CT barnes.
I would like to add that not all Christians are like your ex-girlfriend, your ex-girlfriends youth group, or your ex-girlfriends church. I'm sorry you have such a bad opinion of Christians....you should realize that your experiences with this girl and her church don't represent the way ALL Christians and churches are.
I work with kids in my spare time and I'm Christian. I don't go around preaching what I believe...I don't brainwash kids. I've found that to be the worst way to reach people. I try to set an example with my life and who I am. If someone asks why I live the way I do or do the things I do....I'll tell them. My relationship with God is an intensly personal thing and may be quite a bit different than another Christians relationship with God. That's the way it is.....works for me.
In your first post you say...."I find this the biggests pile of sh*t, it's so stupid. This is why i hate religion and church, they brainwash this stupid crap into you. I find that so low,disrespectfull, and even discriminating. It pisses me off and i have no respect for her church or religion. Religion just causes trouble and fu*ks things up. What a bunch of BS!!".....
and later you say..... "I wasn't attcking christinainty"
To me it sounds like you are attacking Christianity.....sorry you feel that way. As much as I like you, and we've talked before, I'm not going to let an anti-Christian rant go unanswered without comment.
I'm happy you have a new girlfriend and a new guitar.....try to put the bad relationship with your ex behind you and move forward. Try not to kill her and try not to hate every Christian that comes along because of her.
Ericmetallica From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1060 times:
I am not anti-christian..I was just extremely upset and hurt when i wrote it and what i ment buy her religion was the way her parents and church teach it to her. Beeing discriminated does not feel good
An-225 From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 3952 posts, RR: 37
Reply 22, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1055 times:
Hi, Eric. First of all, I know how much it hurts being dumped, and I think mine did it to me for the same thing - her church probably would disapprove or whatever. Other than that, I find no reason for her to dump me, and she did admit that religion played a little role in that. Anyway, I am happy that you found someone else, and hope religion does not stand in your way. I hope for the day when everybody can tolerate each other's differences, and doesn't let ancient stuff like that stand in front of a happy relationship.
Money does not bring you happiness. But it's better to cry in your own private limo than on a cold bus stop.
WN boy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (14 years 6 months 3 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1052 times:
Whoa, people, let's back up the bus a bit here. Eric, you are pissed because you say that she discriminated against you. It's fine that you are annoyed that she broke up with you, but dating is by definition discriminatory. Me, I am not gay, so I discriminate against men. Others don't like black/white/Hispanic/Asian chicks. Some guys like big tits while others like small ones. All of this is discriminatory and none of it is any more or less nefarious than the choice made by your ex.
After all, to my knowledge, Congress has not extended the Civil Rights Act to dating. And there is good reason for that. Dating someone (and perhaps getting married one day) is an intensely personal decision. We make these decisions based on some of the stupidest reasons. I personally have broken up with girlfriends for a variety of dumb reasons, including 1) she ate nothing but carbohydrates, 2) she hated sports, and 3) she was afraid to fly. In my estimation, however, none of these are as legitimate as the reason cited by your girlfriend.
Though you do not place religion high on your list of priorities, that does not mean that others do (and should) not. That decision should be respected, and the fact that you cannot respect her reason for dumping you now implies at least to me that you would never be able to respect her religious beliefs. Let me tell you, friend, that is not a good foundation for a relationship.
So ultimately, one of two things were going to happen with this relationship: 1) you would break up at some point for some other reason; or 2) you would get married down the line (if she is Baptist, she is not going to just continue banging you indefinitely without a pastor involved). If it was going to end somewhere down the line anyway, what do you care. Go out and find yourself some heathen blond that likes sex a whole lot more than this prudish little bitch. All she did was save you time.
If you could have gotten married, she just saved you a whole lot of grief. Along with marriage (or any long-term commitment, for that matter) comes discussion of where is the ceremony going to be, what are the kids going to be, will you convert. If you are not on the same page, these discussions can get ugly and often lead to the end of the relationship. Its better that she figure out that she does not want to have children with someone not of her faith now rather than later if only to save you the alimony payments.
In conclusion to a very long message, Eric, don't be pissed either at your ex or at organized religion as an institution. Frankly, her religion just gave you a gift: it allowed you to weed out someone who was not meant for you anyway. Now go out there and find some little Athiest that likes to give head!