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User currently offlineEGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1315 times:

I have a girlfriend.. who I love and who loves me etc etc.. but I found out that her ex-boyfriend said that he still liked her.. she said that she doesn't like him.. and I do trust her... I just want some reassurance and some help..

Thanks in advance!

Regards..

Chris

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User currently offlineMidnightMike From United States of America, joined Mar 2003, 2892 posts, RR: 14
Reply 1, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1281 times:


Chris

Oh boy, well, the Ex-Boyfriend is waiting for you to lower your guard and then he will swoop in and reap the awards. This has nothing to do with trusting your girlfriend, it is the dude who you can not trust. There should be no reason why your girlfriend the ex-boyfriend should be speaking with one another.



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User currently offlineJkw777 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1268 times:

Chris,

Whom did you find this out from?

I would just let it ride right over your head mate, in due course make that girl yours! If he comes in, then you step in, take action. Violence won't solve a thing, but if I were in your boots I would just warn him that stepping on your toes and property probablly isn't a wise move.

If the girl says she doesn't like him, then that should be your reassurance surely?!

Chin up, and don't worry  Smile

Justin  Big thumbs up


User currently offlineDelta767300ER From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 2562 posts, RR: 12
Reply 3, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1269 times:

Chris, screw him (NOT LITERALLY) Dont even worry about him. If she doesent like him and theirs no contact between them then you shouldnt have anything to worry about it.

-Delta767300ER


User currently offlineEGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1263 times:

Well I know that they text each other (SMS) but then I know I can trust her..

Regards,

Chris


User currently offlineBmi330 From United Kingdom, joined Nov 2001, 1450 posts, RR: 1
Reply 5, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 1246 times:

Dont trust girls! go and get another burd so when you find out she been shagen him you just go well im doin this burd its the only way m8 girls are slappers lol.

User currently offlineEmiratesA345 From Canada, joined Jun 2003, 2121 posts, RR: 9
Reply 6, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1239 times:

...and you've come here for advice?

Don't you remember what happened to the others who came here for advice?

Anyway...


You just have to top anything he tries to do. I realize he's trying to top you, to get her back, but you can't let that happen.

Take her out to dinner, tell her how you feel and don't let it bother you too much. I'm sure it'll all just work out fine.

As Jkw777 said,

Chin up, and don't worry

EmiratesA345 Laugh out loud




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User currently offlineEGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1235 times:

BTW.. his name is Rhys.. he will be destroyed!

LOL

Regards..

Chris


User currently offlineN766UA From United States of America, joined Jul 1999, 8094 posts, RR: 24
Reply 8, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1230 times:

There should be no reason why your girlfriend the ex-boyfriend should be speaking with one another.

Why not? If I broke up with my girlfriend I'd still talk to her and be her friend...



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User currently offlineMidnightMike From United States of America, joined Mar 2003, 2892 posts, RR: 14
Reply 9, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1229 times:


EGFFbmi

Chris, hold on there, don't fight, you will lose on all counts, one she will hate you, the 2nd thing is that he will call the cops on you, whether you lose the fight or not.

The problem is not with him, but with her, if she tells him "Do Not Call/Text me anymore" END OF STORY!

With the Ex-Boyfriend in the relationship, guaranteed, your life will be a living hell. BUT, do not fight, that is for losers.



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User currently offlineAa61hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 10, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1226 times:

Tell her this in these EXACT words "It makes me feel uncomfortable when you talk to him a lot. I understand you love me, but I feel a little uneasy, I just thought you might want to know that, but I do trust you"

It is a nice way to get your point across, not harsh at all. Take if from me, I have taken many communication classes (including interpersonal) this is the best way to get your feelings across, but don't pester her about it, take it from me, girls don't like pestering (ask my girl)

Its not worth getting worked up about, they broke up for a reason, you are together for a reason.

Don't fight, your girl does not care how tough you think you are. If he hurts her physically, man whoop up on him then, but not until then.



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User currently offlineEGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 11, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1222 times:

She just sent me an email saying there is nothing to worry about.. I will sort it out tomorrow.. could be a fight in college!

Regards,

Chris


User currently offlineStartvalve From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 7 hours ago) and read 1186 times:

Nothing wrong with trusting her but in casual conversations look for timeline flaws. Most girls I know love spilling information about what they did all day and I can usually piece together a pretty good timeline. If you find her spending 4hrs at lunch it may be a good time to get suspicious.

I trust everyone but It does not make me less vigilant, just when you start extending too much trust you get knifed in the back.

Its not a crime to hang around an ex but if the time she spends with him starts increasing a lot or you catch even a tiny lie about what they were doing there is something huge to hide.


User currently offlineJkw777 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 13, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 7 hours ago) and read 1181 times:

Chris,

Don't fight man, it's not really necessary. Use your loaf!! If she is still hanging around with him, you just got to see for yourself if there is something happening before weighing in with the fists, trust me  Smile

You know it makes sense  Big grin

Justin  Big thumbs up


User currently offlineBN747 From United States of America, joined Mar 2002, 5477 posts, RR: 51
Reply 14, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 7 hours ago) and read 1162 times:

That's great you love her..but you're in the 21 and under club...hopefully by the time you're 21 you'll have racked up 3 or 4 ex-gfs. But if there's the slightest chance that this thing can unravel...start tying a tow line to ship #2..just incase you gotta jump ship#1! As far as fighting, better be sure you can clean the other's clock...if you can't..it'd be a sad sight you get your ass handed to you and lose you chik in one fell swoop! There's no recovery from that. You're too young to be taking 'love' so seriously. But on the other hand, getting your heart cut out and stomped on, should toughen you up..hopefully! So guys collapse like a deck of cards..and stay that way!

BN747



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User currently offlineBobrayner From United Kingdom, joined Apr 2003, 2227 posts, RR: 7
Reply 15, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1153 times:

Just show her that you trust her.

You can't keep her locked away in a cage, can you? There's nothing wrong with SMSing - I do it all the time with my exen, and it's certainly not evidence that I'm about to pounce on them. It just shows that we are still friends.

If she preferred him to you, she would have gone already. Sit back, relax, be happy together.



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User currently offlineChi-town From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 971 posts, RR: 5
Reply 16, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1150 times:

Is it me or does it seem like most of the "girl problems" posters are europeans?

User currently offlineJkw777 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1146 times:

Is it me or does it seem like most of the "girl problems" posters are europeans?

What is your point?


User currently offlineChi-town From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 971 posts, RR: 5
Reply 18, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1141 times:

No harm intended Jkw777, It was just an observation.

User currently offlineGoingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 17
Reply 19, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1135 times:

If I had a dime for every girl who broke my heart before my 21st birthday, I'd be a rich man. While I found a lot of girls in my younger days, I didn't really find "love" until I was in my late 20's.

User currently offlineJkw777 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1135 times:

Ok... I make observations too they say:



Sorry  Smile

Justin  Big thumbs up


User currently offlineNormalSpeed From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1135 times:

Something similar to that happened to me. I was dating a girl, but the ex wouldn't leave her alone. She broke up with me and married the guy. Has two kids now.

Oh, wait, I was supposed to be encouraging.

Well, here's the truth: Things may not work out between you and your girl. If that happens, it will suck, but only for a couple days--two weeks max. And then your life will go on. The world will not end. You'll find someone of better quality who doesn't maintain liasons with their ex's.

'Speed


User currently offlineEGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 22, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1125 times:

They haven't seen each other.. it's just he says that he still fancies her.. but I know she doesn't like him.. maybe im just paranoid.. BTW.. I spend nearly all my free time in college and out of college with her..

Regards..

Chris


User currently offlineUSAFHummer From United States of America, joined May 2000, 10685 posts, RR: 53
Reply 23, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1122 times:

"There should be no reason why your girlfriend the ex-boyfriend should be speaking with one another."

This is complete BS to be honest...Im still very good friends with my ex-gf, although I've never met any of her bf's after we broke up...Im pretty sure this is by her design but it doesnt matter...we're still friends and who gives a flying #@&*()R)(* what her current fling thinks...

Greg



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User currently offlineBobrayner From United Kingdom, joined Apr 2003, 2227 posts, RR: 7
Reply 24, posted (10 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 1114 times:

There should be no reason why your girlfriend the ex-boyfriend should be speaking with one another

I have to agree with USAFHummer on this... I'm on speaking terms with my exen; even the really evil manipulative one.  Big grin It's certainly not unusual for her to be in touch with an ex. If you can't cope with this, then either:
1. Chain her up in your cellar
2. Only date girls who have never kissed a guy before

but I know she doesn't like him..

Then what can you worry about?




Cunning linguist
25 EGFFbmi : Nothing? Regards.. Chris
26 Gocaps16 : Yea, I agree with Greg. When I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, just a week til I shipped off to basic training, we still keep in touch. She wrote to m
27 Post contains images DeltaGuy : Chris, I feel ya bro. I'd definately keep her on a bit of a short leash. Ex's in a relationship always stink like a bitch. Be totally sure she's telli
28 Post contains images GKirk : Give her the time of her life in the sack
29 Pe@rson : I can imagine how it must be annoying and hurtful. I think I have been in the same situation, but can't really remember (too many nights out since). I
30 Post contains images Santosdumont : EGFFbmi wrote: I have a girlfriend.. who I love and who loves me etc etc.. but I found out that her ex-boyfriend said that he still liked her.. she s
31 EGFFbmi : Thanks Guys.. saw her today.. he gave me a few looks I gave him a few back... but nothing happened.. but the first thing she did to me this morning wa
32 Delta767300ER : Alright, glad to hear it. Ex's suck. -Delta767300ER
33 Flyingbronco05 : Think of it this way. You have her, he doesn't. She is with you, not with him. You are fine. FB05
34 EGFFbmi : Thanks Guys! Regards... Chris
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