EGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 16 hours ago) and read 6452 times:
Me and my girlfriend were together today and we were all over each other .. but then we started about sex. I said something on the lines of "I'm so happy I can tell you anything.." and she said.. "So am I.. I think that im ready".. I said "What?".. she said "I think im ready to have sex".. I said "Me too.. but shouldn't we wait until it's a better moment".. and we sort of agreed..and that was the end of it..
I know that I love her and that I want to have sex with her, im just really nervous.. any help..or advice?
EGGD From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2001, 12426 posts, RR: 40 Reply 4, posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 15 hours ago) and read 6329 times:
Trust me man, if you're nervous about the prospect of having sex you are not ready. Sure you can have sex but you won't feel right about it. But most people try and have sex as young as they can because they don't want to feel left behind (obviously peer pressure to lose your virginity is quite high.. I guess). There will come a point where you are not nervous at all and you feel comfortable with doing just about anything, trust me.
And its so much better if you are comfortable with it, as far as i'm concerned having sex when you are nervous is barely worth it in comparison.
EGFFbmi From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 8, posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 14 hours ago) and read 6269 times:
We are both 15.. it was one of those situations.. I had asked before and she said she wasn't ready.. then today I said.. im glad you said no to me.. and she said I think im ready.. I got all excited but then I realised it wasn't the best time.. as my parents had just got back in!
I don't feel nervous.. just.. a little "odd" on how much my "sexual" life has changed.. very very quickly!
EGGD From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2001, 12426 posts, RR: 40 Reply 13, posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 14 hours ago) and read 6226 times:
P.s, what are you doing, planning a frickin' time and date or something?
For your first time it'd be much better if it just happened rather than you planned to do it, as you will be more relaxed and less apprehensive, or excitable (in a none sexual way). You want your first time to be memorable, don't write when in your fucking diary, just go with the flow when its time (and you'll know when, the situation WILL arise at the perfect time, if you spend lots of time together).
174thfwff From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 15, posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 6171 times:
Wrap it before you tap it.
Secondly...don't expect it to last very long the first time...you're better off telling her this before hand. Also try to "self improve" yourself before you go in there...that way you will last a little longer then you originally would have.
Jcs17 From United States of America, joined Jun 2001, 8065 posts, RR: 43 Reply 16, posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 6172 times:
For your first time, put a condom on before you begin because you have absolutely no idea about how long you will actually last in actual sex. And, oh yeah, if this is her first time, don't start jackhammering away--be gentle. It hurts most girls the first time they have sex.
Cfalk From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 18, posted (9 years 3 months 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 6164 times:
For the first time, I would recommend
1) Find someplace you will not be stressed out. It really sucks when your folks are due back in an hour, but then again could come in at any time. Get a hotel room if you can, someplace where you can take your time and not have to worry about someone barging in.
2) As others mentioned, use a condom.
3) Very important - as she's the one who might feel any pain or discomfort, let HER control the operation for the first time. I.e. Let her be on top so that she can control the pace of things. You can have other forms of fun later.
P.S. If your first time turns out to be embarassing, fumbled, or otherwise just bloody awful, don't feel too bad - it's usually the case, especially when both of you are new at it, but it gets (a lot) better with a little practice.