SWA TPA From United States of America, joined Aug 2001, 1560 posts, RR: 33 Posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 22 hours ago) and read 1186 times:
Ok, serious question time here.
What makes a person an alchoholic? Is it how much they drink? How they act? Can they stop at will? The reason for drinking?
I have been doing alot of drinking the past few months almost nightly and have no desire to stop. I dont have a reason to be drinking, I just feel like it.
Lately I have began to wonder about this. Is this alchoholism?
Csavel From United States of America, joined Jan 2001, 1394 posts, RR: 4
Reply 4, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 21 hours ago) and read 1157 times:
Could you stop easily if you had to?
Could you go somewhere for a week where no alcohol is being served without freaking out? If you can then your not an alcoholic. But without nannying you, the fact that you're doing a lot of drinking almost nightly sounds to me like something is going on in your life - something that you need to deal with.
My 2 cents.
I may be ugly. I may be an American. But don't call me an ugly American.
ScarletHarlot From Canada, joined Jul 2003, 4673 posts, RR: 55
Reply 11, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 20 hours ago) and read 1115 times:
SWA_TPA, a definition I have read is that you can be considered alcoholic if you could not go without a drink for three months.
I believe you have children, right? As the child of alcoholics, let me just say that what might seem like moderation to you may scare your children. If drinking causes you to act strangely or smell funny or say something when you are buzzed that you forget later, your kids will remember this...for a very very long time. It's really frightening and hard to deal with when you are small.
Seriously, girl, sit down and think about why you might feel the need to make your life fuzzy on a regular basis.
Vikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10781 posts, RR: 26
Reply 12, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 1087 times:
Speaking from personal experience (unfortunately), when the alcohol takes precedence over other things in your life, then there is definitely a problem. I was (and still am) dealing with that. It took me a basically wasted semester (no pun intended) to realize what I was doing to myself. And though I still drink, I'm learning not to let it take such a stranglehold on my life and especially my education. I as well try not to let myself drink before 6 or 7 pm.
It has been a struggle for me; therefore, I would say that if it is a problem for you to go without drinking for an extended period of time, then it is definitely something you should work through. You can email me if you have any questions; when it comes to this kind of problem, I'm more than willing to share my experiences.
IMisspiedmont From United States of America, joined May 2001, 6383 posts, RR: 32
Reply 13, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1069 times:
Without getting into all the "signs" claimed by others, you may well be an alchoholic if you cannot see going without for more than a couple days. or think that you have no problem. In fact, if you spend the day thinking about how nice that drink will be tonight, you've got a problem.
Just posting the question should be a warning sign. Tread carefully, you're playing with fire.
it's getting harder not to tell people they are really odd if they think an airplan can be sexy.
Artsyman From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 4747 posts, RR: 33
Reply 14, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1064 times:
SWA TPA, This very topic is doing the heavy rotation at our house at the moment. My wife likes to have her glasses of wine in the evening. While she isn't polishing off a bottle a night, she is certainly having 2-4 glasses every single night, and like you said, she isnt sloshed, but well buzzed.
She does not see it as a problem, I see it as a major problem. Thing is, drinking doesn't make you clever, and I find that once she has a few in her, I have no interest in talking to her any more, I find that the quality of the conversation drops, she has that dull blank drunk look on her face, therefore not looking overly attractive to me either.
I would not define it as alcoholism, but it has put me off drinking now. If this happened once in a while, she coiuld get as sloshed as she likes, it isn't my business, but every night gets a little tired.
I have a few friends in similar positions, although usually it is the guy drinking, and not the woman
JetService From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 4798 posts, RR: 11
Reply 15, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 14 hours ago) and read 1058 times:
There's two kinds of alcoholics: one is the classic chemically depend guy that drinks constantly and every day (what everyone thinks of when you say 'alcoholic'); and the other is the guy who doesn't drink often-maybe once a week, but once he starts he loses control and never stops until he's hammered out of his gourd. The first one usually ends up with health problems and the second usually gets in trouble with the law.
But keep in mind, if you get plastered once in awhile or have a drink or two every day, that doesn't mean you're an automatic alcoholic. Everyone's different. If you're really concerned, ask a pro. They'll assess you.
Vikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10781 posts, RR: 26
Reply 17, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 1042 times:
Another thing to keep in mind which I forgot to say above...
Alcoholism is a very personal thing. Therefore, you may not be going through the same scenario that I am going through or that other people went through. While there will be parallels, you cannot measure it by the sheer amount of drinks consumed per night. I've gone to some alcohol abuse meetings (not AA) and have found that some of the people there were in much worse situations than I was, but that our thought patterns were similar. What I'm saying is that you really shouldn't base whether or not you're an alcoholic solely on other people's experiences. It is a personal problem, though it may be caused in part by outside influences, and will definitely affect those close to you.
For me, alcohol was and still is an escape from problems in life, even though it is also fun. I would suggest that if you feel the same way, then you might want to take a hard look at your drinking. Once again, feel free to email me if you have any questions.
Boeing nut From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 6 hours ago) and read 1015 times:
You've kinda hit a nerve with me because I have the same thoughts running through my head. My thinking is, if it is a concern to you, you may at least want to talk to somebody about those emotions. I too like to drink, but it's not on a regular basis. My dad has a problem and it concerns me sometimes that it may be "hereditary". I definitely don't want to turn into him. I never want to embarrass my family the way he has. On the other hand, I'll go out with friends, hoop it up and have a great time. But it hangs over my head, you know? Did my dad go through the same thing? No problems early on, but then it turns bad. I'd say talk to someone at least.
Kilavoud From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 22, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day 5 hours ago) and read 1004 times:
Most of the doctors will tell you that you shouldn't lie in the sun, especially at noon, because of..... I just do not care. When the sun is at its highest position in the sky, and when I am in my home in southern India, I go up on the terrace roof of my house and stay about 25 minutes in the sun, wearing only bathing trunks, turning side up and side down. It makes me happy and I just like it.
I think it is the same for alcohol : a question of measure.
Do not allow people to meddle in your life if you feel able to measure something that does not please to others but help you to keep well balanced and happy.
Goingboeing From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 4875 posts, RR: 16
Reply 24, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 1 day ago) and read 979 times:
A friend of mine told me a story about his days in the Marines. Someone had put up a poster of Jack Daniels in the barracks, with a hand written sign that said "Murph's best friend". The CO was interviewing others to see if this person was an alcoholic. When he asked my friend, he said "No" When asked why he answered that way, he responded "An alcoholic always wants a drink....Murph always HAS a drink".
SWA TPA From United States of America, joined Aug 2001, 1560 posts, RR: 33
Reply 25, posted (11 years 1 month 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 961 times:
I also worry because on my dads side of the family alcoholism runs strong! Grandpa, starts drinking almost as soon as he gets up! Straight vodka on the rocks, blehck!
Everyday, smashed. The man is almost in his 80's now. My Aunt on that side, lush.
Neither one of my parents though EVER drink. They would be appalled with me if they knew.
Also I don't drink every night. Like tonight, I have no desire to go mix one up so we will skip the libations this evening