Bigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4073 posts, RR: 56 Reply 10, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 1018 times:
Yanks, for you. Listen up.
The flirting thing it was I dont completely understnad. How can you not know if a girl is flirting with you? By definition, it is obvious.
The problem might lie in whether or not you can truly believe that this girl might actually LIKE you, which is a self esteem issue.
If a girl says something sexual to you, suggesting that she is inquiring about your interests, penis size, or that she might want to find out or do something herself, that is generalyl flirting. There is a chance, however, that she might be doing this in a mockery manner. Maybe she IS making fun of you.
The thing is to show confidence, almsot like you dont care. Not by saying that you dont care or ignoring people, but by doing your schoolwork, and doing whatever you have to do like those other thigns dont matter.
Lets look at the following idalogue. This is a girl trying to flirt with a boy, and a boy responding exactly how he should:
Girl : What's your shoe size?
Girl: Is it true what they say about guys with big feet?
Boy: (in a very calm voice with calm facial expression) There's only one way to find out.
Girl: Well let me see it
Boy: Ummm, you're going to have to work a little harder to get it.
Girl: Like how?
Boy: I dont know, when are you free?
The whole thing here is that the guy woudl be talking about this almost like he couldn't care either way, with a calm look in his face, MAYBE no more than a slight smirk and a calm voice.
By flirting BACK, you can then find out how genuine she is, if at all. That's hwo you will see if she likes you, is jsut playfully flirting with no intention, or making fun of you.
You act calm to shwo that you couldn't care anyway. So if it turns out that she wasn't serious, then your body language and mannerism tells her "Oh well, no sweat off my back."
Confidence is key, and remember that you're young and that if she doesnt want it, some other girl will down the line.
Futterman From United States of America, joined Sep 2003, 1301 posts, RR: 49 Reply 12, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 1 day ago) and read 1007 times:
We've been through this before...
I had two girls last term and one this term. The two would either run after me yelling "HUG ME!", and always seemed to have the hotts for the Futtmeister. This time, she (different girl) keeps coming on to me--online--wanting to cyber. Whaaa? All in the name of fun, but I am well aware of the fact that I don't usually think before I say. So, in fear of insulting somebody and being a loner for the rest of my adolescent life, I usually keep my mouth shut in an instance such as this.
So, Dr. Phil...aside from just going up to people and asking for head, answer me again: ¿Qué hago?
BTW: Are you SURE there's a Springfield in Queens?!
Bigphilnyc From United States of America, joined Jan 2002, 4073 posts, RR: 56 Reply 13, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 1 day ago) and read 999 times:
Your question is vague.
First, figure out EXACTLY what you want from this girl. I get the feeling that you just want something physical, but you want to keep it on the low so that otehr people at school aren't all up in your business and also so it doesn't ruin your game with other potential ladies, which is a VERY smart way to go to begin with.
Is that the case? If not, what exactly do you want?
Let me know, then I can pass on the wisdom. lol
And, yes, there most certainly is a Springfield in Queens. :p
Futterman From United States of America, joined Sep 2003, 1301 posts, RR: 49 Reply 14, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 1 day ago) and read 983 times:
That's the thing--I don't (gasp!) want to get physical right now. Honestly, I shouldn't get physical...I don't even have a learner's permit to drive, so how am I supposed to make a move on the female race? lol
I could just let it blow over, and that's probably what I'll do. Play for a little while, see what comes of it, then cut the line. All in the name of fun, right?
Yanksn4 From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 1392 posts, RR: 13 Reply 17, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 20 hours ago) and read 953 times:
Can someone one help with what I said above and tell me when a girl is flirting with me? I would just like to know why these two girls always say hi to me and why they always playfully trip me or something.
Greaser From Bahamas, joined Jan 2004, 1081 posts, RR: 4 Reply 19, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 18 hours ago) and read 927 times:
Yank, im 13-15 too, but i think i would know.
It's unlikely that they are flirting with you, i wouldnt flirt with someone whom is just broke his/her nose after tripping em. I think they just regard you as a BOYTOY! What's more, always saying hi is courtesy, unless they only say hi to you. Also, watch out for the famous giggle after they say hi, though you cant tell whether its good or bad, most of the time its good.
You can tell someone is flirting with you, at our age, girls generally do not saying sexual stuff, but if they do, id advise you to stay away. Things like
'Hey, do you wanna hang out after school like for a movie'
'Can i have your fone no.'
are generally hints that she wants you
flirting does not mean shes into you,esp. if shes a s.l.u.t
'can i sit on your lap' that kind
Girls who are really interested in you:
shes always giving suggestive signs every sentence she speaks to you
while talking, she fiddles with her hair
she gazes at your eyes
she always turns around to look at you when u pass her
her leg touches yours under the table
when sitting down and talking, she mimics your movement (e.g placing elbows on the table)
the mimicing cannot be fake, its genetic for girls, so u will know!
Startvalve From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 23, posted (9 years 2 months 3 weeks 18 hours ago) and read 917 times:
Look yanker. I am as big a dating fuckup as they come but even I have learned through more shootdowns than the Iraqi Air Force experinced that if you do not flirt back you are never ever ever going to get anywhere. Flirt back, if the results are positive ask her out. Thats how I got my girlfriend who I have been stuck with for the last 4 years.
Thats another tip, when you do finally bag one don't try so hard to make it work you look around a few years later and realize she's the only one happy. That is for another thread however.
Asking directions at every step on an airline board never got anybody laid. At some point you will need to take the initiative with this and think for yourself.