Hawaiibelle From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 1, posted (12 years 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 938 times:
Well, I think it's only obscene when it's in a movie where that's all they do is have sex. I mean..isn't it supposed to be special and shared by those people doing it? I don't know..maybe I'm alone on this one.
Matt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 51 Reply 2, posted (12 years 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 927 times:
That is the $64,000 question.
Honestly, I do not know. I'm sure that what Hawaiibelle said has a lot to do with it. But I also think that it is because sex is truly the one and only "intimate and personal bond" (or whatever you want to call it) that two people can share. Nothing else is really private or sacred.
I would have to agree that cheap sex personified (and glorified) by TV and the movies (and all the conformity whores that patronize them) is an obscene abomination.
That does not mean that I am opposed to sex by any stretch of the imagination. Quite frankly, I can't think of anything (except for maybe a good airplane photo shoot) that makes you feel better than by being intimate with THE PERSON YOU LOVE. Sure, your one night stands that you can harvest from your local bar may be good for a quick and momentary thrill, but in the end, there is no meaning, and with time and repetition, you eventually become spritually and mentally empty. I speak from experience on this.
I've had my share of one night flings. Did I enjoy them?
At the time, yes.
Am I proud of it?
Did I gain any long term gratification?
Again, a resounding no.
Nothing beats monogamy with someone who you truly care about. There is no shame. No guilt. No worries. No head games. If two people can be together, and only with each other, I think that is the best thing in the world.
CYKA From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 5, posted (12 years 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 876 times:
I watched a show about neanderthals and homo sapiens interbreeding and their didn't appear to be any love involved, just a buch of grunts and stuff......but since its all based on speculation ill shut up.
Jwenting From Netherlands, joined Apr 2001, 10213 posts, RR: 21 Reply 6, posted (12 years 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 864 times:
Sex in the end is all about three things:
the three are often combined. What we see in war with largescale rape of the female part of the conquered population is an attempt (maybe unconscious) to assert power over the conquered and bind them to your people by interbreeding.
Sex between loving partners is bonding as well as (sometimes) an attempt to reproduce.
Vafi88 From United States of America, joined Apr 2001, 3116 posts, RR: 18 Reply 10, posted (11 years 12 months 4 days 5 hours ago) and read 798 times:
Ok, I am in eight grade now. A lot of what the other eight graders talk about is sex, I have no Idea why. Yeah I think about it sometimes, but I don't go and talk about how I would like to bone this chick in class or something, and all they care about is looks, I care about personality and looks and humor. I don't only base things on looks. I think it's a plus that a chick looks good.
I'd like to elect a president that has a Higher IQ than a retarted ant.
MalibuAir From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 12, posted (11 years 12 months 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 780 times:
Well, IMHO, 75% of the guys who talk about sex at school aren't getting any. I think that is just their way of making up not getting any action. Where as i think that 75% of the guys who are having sex, pretty regularly dont talk about it. Just my opinions though.
Back to the question. I think that it is probably mostly the people 40+ who think sex shouldn't be talked about and are "shy" about discussing it. The "new" generations dont have a problem with it, i think.
PIT_flyer007 From United States of America, joined May 2000, 80 posts, RR: 0 Reply 13, posted (11 years 12 months 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 764 times:
yea i agree totally Malibu Air. i believe part of the prob is how sex is usually portayed : in the movies and on tv. hell, nobody on beverly hills or in the movies ever gets AIDS or herpes . . .that would make it unclean and dirty ~ which would mean it wouldn't be glorious anymore. what needs to happen is that parents need to talk to their kids about sex early on, before they are able to comprehend much of what the media is throwing them about it. after all if i had a son/daughter i would want him or her to learn about it from me or a family member before he or she goes and listens to an eminem CD or from some trash-talker at the playground. i think if sex was just presented more realistically and there was better education about it then most of its bad-rap would fade.
Matt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 51 Reply 14, posted (11 years 12 months 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 751 times:
I know an older couple. They have 2 sons, ages 14 and 12 respectively. Both the mother and father are doing exactly what I would do if I ever have kids: they are tackling this issue head on.
Buying a Playboy subscription for the sons. Giving them their own "outlet" so to speak. They are sending the message that it's normal to have certain "urges" at that age, and that there is nothing wrong with it, as well as allowing the boys to see what the world is all about, in private, without parental embarrasment, and when they are comfortable.
When the two sons go out on a date, either the mother or father hands them a pack of Trojans, and tells them "if you're going to do it, like we know you will eventually, no matter what we say, please be careful.
Now before all of you lefties jump all over me saying that I'm a hypocrite vis-a-vis condom handouts in school, let me categorically and emphatically state that there is a BIG difference here. This is a parental involvement issue. How the parents choose to teach the facts of life is their choice. The schools have no business doing this.