KLM672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2586 posts, RR: 3 Posted (10 years 9 months 4 weeks 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 2014 times:
Last night a friend and myself drove down to southern VT (from northern VT). Anyways me met these girls online from southern VT and decided that we'd go and meet them. I just want to say there are a lot of mix feeling on the internet dating idea, and I say it works great, you know the person all ready. Well, we went to watch "Guess Who". Well this is my first date, period. I am pretty green. Well we cuddled and held hands and did end up kissing. Great, huh? ok well i decided to ask everytime we did something "can i kiss you, can I hold your hand", which i know is wrong. Hell, I was saying "don't ask" in my head. Here are snippets of her friend (my friend's date) conversation with me:
He's funny. Amanda said that you reminded her of Jacob a little bit.........
This is constructive don't get mad........
You need to work on your hugs........lol she said it was like........a pat on the back.
And don't ask everytime you do something.
So with that in mind, can you give me some tips on having a better date?
YVRtoYYZ From Canada, joined Mar 2004, 679 posts, RR: 0
Reply 5, posted (10 years 9 months 4 weeks 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 1982 times:
I saw the topic first and immediately thought that it was another one of FLAIRPORT's never-ending dating/stalking threads.
Well...if you want to find out how to do it all wrong, how to track flights, how to get rid of her forever, give FLAIRPORT a ring.
With that being said, I suggest you go see FLAIRPORT's threads and see what everyone else told him to do right and to see what happens when you don't take the advice people tell you.
In all seriousness now, just relax dude. Hugs are natural and stuff; don't think about it so much, just let loose and do whatever. Make it seem like you mean it, rather than giving the impression that you are hesitant and/or weak. Be the man and take charge.
LY744 From Canada, joined Feb 2001, 5536 posts, RR: 9
Reply 6, posted (10 years 9 months 4 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 1936 times:
The one thing you should do is not worry about it like you are doing right now. As you said, it was your first date, things will soon come much easier for you, without you even trying. Relax and have fun... Don't expect too much from yourself, or the date as a whole, it will take the pressue off.
NYCFlyer From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 1388 posts, RR: 9
Reply 8, posted (10 years 9 months 4 weeks 1 day ago) and read 1912 times:
It sounds like things went well enough that you'll get a second crack at this girl? Yeah, don't ask her, let it "happen naturally." If you kissed on the first date, then you should have much more confidence for the second.
AAFLT1871 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 2333 posts, RR: 9
Reply 12, posted (10 years 9 months 4 weeks 22 hours ago) and read 1868 times:
If only I had seen this post earlier, I would have loved to slam FLAIRPORT once again!!
What can I say, I am an asshole when it comes to people who ask for advice, then turn around do the complete opposite of the advice given, then ignore our warnings, pushes the envelope, then ends up screwing the pooch because he would not listen. Now look what happened to him. What is the latest word on his new girl?
FSPilot747 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 3599 posts, RR: 11
Reply 16, posted (10 years 9 months 4 weeks ago) and read 1744 times:
Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter): reat, huh? ok well i decided to ask everytime we did something "can i kiss you, can I hold your hand", which i know is wrong.
That's funny. I was stone cold drunk two nights ago, so drunk I could barely walk (I should not have drunk that much), and my friends tell me I kept asking random women if I could kiss them. Almost worked a few times, but I was so drunk I'd fall and then start laughing. Too bad. But yeah, at least I asked.