Braybuddy From Ireland, joined Aug 2004, 5741 posts, RR: 32 Posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 1555 times:
Talking to a single, attractive, female friend recently, she said if she went into a bar or club the first thing she'd look at would be the other women. This was a surprise to me as she's 100% straight, but she explained that most women do that to check-out the competition before checking-out the men. She assumed straight men would check out other men first, and was surprised when I told her that a straight man wouldn't even THINK of checking out the men. She asked me about gay men, and whether they would look at an attractive man as competiton or talent. Obviously it's the latter, so gay men think like straight men in one aspect at least: they are thinking of scoring and not of the competition.
I've asked a few other straight women who they look at first, and they ALL said they'd check-out the other women first, although they'd follow-up differently: the attractive girl said she would stand beside the best looking girl and intimidate her. The less attractive girls said they'd stand at the far end of the bar.
I don't mean this in a demeaning way, I'm just curious, but are women more insecure than men when out to score?
I always (probably subconsciously) assess the competition. Obviously i'm not the best judge of an what makes a man attractive but it can't hinder my chances. I think a lot of men would be lying if they say they didn't do the same. It's stupid not to really.
Crjonbeez From United States of America, joined Nov 2004, 317 posts, RR: 3
Reply 14, posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 1335 times:
that's a line of crap. i'm straight as an arrow, but it doesn't mean i won't take a look at which guys are nicely dressed and work out and all. it's competition. if i notice another guy checking out a girl that i'm looking at as well, i'm moving in quick to step up my odds. i'm not going to wait around until i'm drunk to build up the courage. does it make me gay because i looked at the other guys in the bar to see what i'm up against? no. it makes me a competitive, normal guy. it doesn't matter if it's two predators checking out the same small animal or two guys in a bar. it's typical social behavior to feel the need to be on top of the food chain.
Braybuddy From Ireland, joined Aug 2004, 5741 posts, RR: 32
Reply 16, posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1301 times:
Quoting Crjonbeez (Reply 14): that's a line of crap. i'm straight as an arrow, but it doesn't mean i won't take a look at which guys are nicely dressed and work out and all. it's compe
I'm talking about who you guys look at FIRST when you go into a bar. . . any guy who scans the guys first doesn't have girls on his mind!
And when you see a guy who you assess to be better looking than you, would you stand beside him to intimidate him or flee to the other end of the bar?
As a gay man I'd do neither. I'd stand my ground, hope for the best and wait for the right moment, if it came.
Are you guys men or just big girls?
STLGph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9391 posts, RR: 26
Reply 17, posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1296 times:
Quoting Braybuddy (Reply 3): Go into any straight bar and watch the guys come in and who they look at first. It's ALWAYS the girls. . . any guy that does differently is either bi or gay
this is completely stupid. the first thing people do is to look at and see who they know. that's both guys and girls. then they go on the prowl. and then they observe out and abuot who is there. reply #7 is right on target.
Toulouse From Switzerland, joined Apr 2005, 2758 posts, RR: 58
Reply 19, posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 20 hours ago) and read 1273 times:
As a loyal married man with a beautiful wife, I may be a bit out of practise, but from memory, I would always look at the girls first... to be honest, I don't think I ever scanned the guys to see what the level of competition was. Not saying though that I wouldn't at a later stage notice some guy, mainly if he appeared to be moving in on a girl who had caught my eye. That's just me though!
Fokker Lover From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 11 hours ago) and read 1222 times:
Women are brutal on themselves and each other. When women dress for the night out, they aren't dressing for us. They are dressing to make the other women look bad.
When I'm out with my wife we check out the women together. My criteria is very simple. She weighs less than me, she's breathing, and she's willing to have sex with me. My wife is looking for some kind of a super model instead. Oh that one had crows feet, or the blonde was wearing too much makeup. I don't like the way her eyes were. Crazy nitpicking things. I will admit though, she does get the hot ones. I don't mind being her wingman.
If you're a guy, you say man I hope I can pick a chick up and get lucky tonight.
If you're a girl, you say I'll decide who gets lucky tonight.
They check out the other women first so they can decide where they stand in the pecking order.
Matt D From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 9502 posts, RR: 47
Reply 23, posted (9 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 4 hours ago) and read 1145 times:
Another thing so far not mentioned is that many HOT women seem to get their rocks off by getting all dolled up, going to a bar or club, looking for UGLY men who they know will be drooling when she walks by, only to scowl at him and ask "WTF are YOU looking at asshole?"