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User currently offlineMonteycarlos From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2107 posts, RR: 29
Posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1504 times:

Hey All...

I have myself in an interesting predicament and only have myself to blame!

My girlfriend and I work together, and thats how we met. However, things in my view are not going to well. I am bored, I don't feel anything for her, and most of all, she is starting to piss me off!

In the midst of all this, there is another girl at work who I feel things for yet we're not even together!

How am I going to get out of this alive?

Anyway, does anyone else have any stories of problem girlfriends/boyfriends that they want to share?

Cheers!


It's a beautiful night to fly like a phoenix...
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User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1503 times:

Girlfriend? Oh yes I often have issues with my girlfriend. It's called cramp in the hand.

Signed,

99% A.Net

On a more serious note, I don't see you getting out alive. Get a new job.


User currently offlineMonteycarlos From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2107 posts, RR: 29
Reply 2, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1487 times:

Quoting Kieron747 (Reply 1):
On a more serious note, I don't see you getting out alive. Get a new job.

A new job I would love! However the issue is that the other girl, I really like and if I change job... something may never happen between us!



It's a beautiful night to fly like a phoenix...
User currently offlineTheCoz From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 3, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1482 times:

Monteycarlos, what's so bad about being with your current girlfriend?

User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1479 times:

Yep but just imagine how crappy it would be if you dumped your girlfriend, and then started seeing the other girl.

I predict serious issues at work if you follow such a course of action!

Hell hath no fury eh...

Kieron747

P.s. What actually is your job?


User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1478 times:

I hope to god you don't work in a knife factory!  Wink

User currently offlineS12PPL From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1470 times:

Quoting Kieron747 (Reply 1):
Girlfriend? Oh yes I often have issues with my girlfriend. It's called cramp in the hand.

Signed,

99% A.Net

Is it just me, or are these jokes getting a wee bit old??


As for your relationship issue....

Have you tried talking to your girlfriend about your issues???? It seems to me if you don't try to talk about what is upsetting you, you'll never fix the problem...Instead all you will do is make the relationship worse.


User currently offlineTheCoz From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1463 times:

Quoting S12PPL (Reply 6):
Is it just me, or are these jokes getting a wee bit old??

For being under 25, you sure are grumpy.


User currently offlineMonteycarlos From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2107 posts, RR: 29
Reply 8, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1459 times:

Quoting TheCoz (Reply 3):
what's so bad about being with your current girlfriend?

Its at the stage where she is just too attached and I am really starting to hate the time we spend together. I really look forward to my time alone, because being with her is just really frustrating.

Quoting Kieron747 (Reply 5):
I hope to god you don't work in a knife factory!

Thankfully not.

Quoting S12PPL (Reply 6):
Have you tried talking to your girlfriend about your issues????

Every time I try it gets derailed because she starts crying or takes it off on a tangent. But mostly she gets upset as soon as I try and talk and it becomes a case of damage control.

Quoting S12PPL (Reply 6):
It seems to me if you don't try to talk about what is upsetting you, you'll never fix the problem...Instead all you will do is make the relationship worse.

Yeah for sure, but I feel she is just not mature enough to deal with what I want to talk about!



It's a beautiful night to fly like a phoenix...
User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1456 times:

How old is she if you don't mind me asking?

Kieron747


User currently offlineJetjack74 From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 7386 posts, RR: 51
Reply 10, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1453 times:
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Ok Richard III,
I would say that you have the golden opportunity.
Option 1: Start confiding in this other one. Tell her that things aren't going well. Start saying this grown-up garbage. This other girl may see that you're vulnerable and try and steal you away from her. Girls love to hear gossip. Play the sensitive angle. She'll be putty in your hands. And when the time is right, dump your girlfriend.
OR
Option 2: Put a piece of company property in your girlfriends handbag, then go to a payphone, and phone into the boss as an anonymous caller and tell him she's been stealing things. She gets fired, and you can break up with her because you don't want to date a thief, and ask this other bird out.

So the 2 options are:
Option 1   
Option 2   
Choice is yours mate. Keep us updated.

[Edited 2005-05-21 05:25:31]


Made from jets!
User currently offlineMonteycarlos From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2107 posts, RR: 29
Reply 11, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1445 times:

Quoting Kieron747 (Reply 9):
How old is she if you don't mind me asking?

She is 19, almost 20. What she finds difficult is this:

I am at university full time, and work part time. I do pretty much 20-25 hours at work per week, I have sport two nights a week, I have three full uni days and that leaves very little time for both her and study... let alone time to see my friends and have some time to myself which I need to keep sane!

She wants to see me six times a week, and I really struggle to see her twice... I call her every night (against my own wishes) because otherwise she would make life when we do see each other very hard.



It's a beautiful night to fly like a phoenix...
User currently offlineAirxLiban From Lebanon, joined Oct 2003, 4504 posts, RR: 54
Reply 12, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1446 times:

get one of your mates to cheat on you with her and then dump her and go for the other.

hope that you don't all work in close proximity to each other at least...



PARIS, FRANCE...THE BEIRUT OF EUROPE.
User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 13, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1420 times:

Quoting S12PPL (Reply 6):
Is it just me, or are these jokes getting a wee bit old??

I'm sorry about my above comment. I'm just jealous because I don't have a girlfriend. All we do around here in Oregon is walk along train tracks looking for dead bodies whilst listening to a certain song by Ben E. King.

Signed,

S12PPL

 Wink


User currently offlineMonteycarlos From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2107 posts, RR: 29
Reply 14, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1419 times:

Quoting Jetjack74 (Reply 10):
Option 1: Start confiding in this other one. Tell her that things aren't going well. Start saying this grown-up garbage. This other girl may see that you're vulnerable and try and steal you away from her. Girls love to hear gossip. Play the sensitive angle. She'll be putty in your hands. And when the time is right, dump your girlfriend.

Thats a good option but I am too honest for that... I could never play either of them without letting the guilt burden me.

Quoting Jetjack74 (Reply 10):
Option 2: Put a piece of company property in your girlfriends handbag, then go to a payphone, and phone into the boss as an anonymous caller and tell him she's been stealing things. She gets fired, and you can break up with her because you don't want to date a thief, and ask this other bird out.

LOL!

Quoting AirxLiban (Reply 12):
get one of your mates to cheat on you with her and then dump her and go for the other.

HA! I'd never give them the pleasure. Actually one of my friends tried before, but she turned him down...

Quoting AirxLiban (Reply 12):
hope that you don't all work in close proximity to each other at least...

We work at exactly the same place... except the other girl is in another part of the site. (I am doing my best to get her over to my area)



It's a beautiful night to fly like a phoenix...
User currently offlineMonteycarlos From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2107 posts, RR: 29
Reply 15, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1385 times:

So what about other people?

Surely someone else has a story that is similar to mine?

What happened, what did you do, how did it turn out etc.?

Cheers!



It's a beautiful night to fly like a phoenix...
User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 16, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 3 hours ago) and read 1374 times:

OK, the hard truth. When at University I had a girlfriend on my course. We drifted apart, and then this fresher turned up in my department and like a fool I chased after her.

It ended between me and my girlfriend, and I started seeing this young girl. It was very very difficult thereafter (I was slapped a few times and had several pints poured over me!), however the net result was that I ended up completely single.

I don't want to put you off, but jees, now I am older and in retrospect, I wish I had never ended the original relationship. The girl was clingy, and a tad immature, but she was devoted and loving.

But what the hell! you're at Uni, It's not like you're going to be working at this place forever, and if your course goes well you may not even end up working in the same area!

Kieron747


User currently offlineSTLGph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9235 posts, RR: 26
Reply 17, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 2 hours ago) and read 1367 times:

Quoting TheCoz (Reply 7):
For being under 25, you sure are grumpy.

yes, you can definitely tell who gets laid around here and who doesn't.

Quoting Monteycarlos (Reply 15):
Surely someone else has a story that is similar to mine?

always live by this quote.

"Never date anybody in the same band."
--Chrissie Hynde



Eternal darkness we all should dread. It's hard to party when you're dead.
User currently offlineKC135R From United States of America, joined Apr 2005, 725 posts, RR: 4
Reply 18, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 1345 times:

Just a suggestion - don't date people from work. Why?

-If you break up you still have to see them every day
-Personal problems from home might end up rearing their ugly head at work
-You don't get much of a break from each other. Work together, go out (and/or live) together - no time apart not always a good thing, after all - absence makes the heart grow fonder.

You should tell the girl you are with now how you feel. If she is getting attached it is only fair she knows that you aren't there. Then, you should forget about this other girl - unless you think she's "the one" and go out with your friends and find a girl you don't work with. These work relationships will only cause you great heartache in the end.


User currently offlineJetjack74 From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 7386 posts, RR: 51
Reply 19, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days ago) and read 1340 times:
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More couples meet in the workplace then anywhere else, followed closely by the internet.


Made from jets!
User currently offlineKC135R From United States of America, joined Apr 2005, 725 posts, RR: 4
Reply 20, posted (8 years 11 months 3 days ago) and read 1329 times:

Quoting Jetjack74 (Reply 19):
More couples meet in the workplace then anywhere else, followed closely by the internet.

Perhaps...still doesn't necessarily make it a good idea,


User currently offlineMika From Sweden, joined Jul 2000, 2841 posts, RR: 4
Reply 21, posted (8 years 11 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1297 times:

Find some other place to meet a girlfriend than your job! I could never imagine having to work with my GF, work is work and love life is love life. I am certain that any relationship would fail if you work together, it just seems to damn much.

User currently onlinePe@rson From United Kingdom, joined Jan 2001, 19097 posts, RR: 53
Reply 22, posted (8 years 11 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1296 times:

Quoting Monteycarlos (Thread starter):
I am bored, I don't feel anything for her, and most of all, she is starting to piss me off!

Isn't this like any relationship?   I hate to admit it, but my older and wiser brother once told me something very true: you have to work hard at relationships if they are to last. OK, it's easy in theory, but in practice it is much more difficult.

Quoting Kieron747 (Reply 1):
Girlfriend? Oh yes I often have issues with my girlfriend. It's called cramp in the hand.

Signed,

99% A.Net

LMAO.  

Quoting S12PPL (Reply 6):
Is it just me, or are these jokes getting a wee bit old??

Aren't the old ones (NOT the old women) the best?

[Edited 2005-05-21 12:52:01]


"Everyone writing for the Telegraph knows that the way to grab eyeballs is with Ryanair and/or sex."
User currently offlineWunalaYann From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2839 posts, RR: 26
Reply 23, posted (8 years 11 months 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 1290 times:

Quoting Pe@rson (Reply 22):
Aren't the old ones (NOT the old women) the best?

Am I allowed to play Gkirk in his absence? Thanks. So there:

"Yeah, sure, James, but enough with your mum."

Does it sound credible?  Wink

On a serious note, Carl, I fear there is no way outside of saying the plain truth. Try to soften the edges, but really, at some point, you will not be able to avoid saying things the way they are. Yes, it will hurt her, yes, it will hurt you to see that you have hurt her. Not nice. At all. You will hate yourself for what you have done, but it's still waaaaaay better than waiting for your relationship to become very serious and to say "no" in front of the priest or, far worse, in front of your kids.

Now you are in an even worse shape than a few posts ago, mate, and I sympathize. Muster your courage and go.

Cheers,

Y.


User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31568 posts, RR: 57
Reply 24, posted (8 years 11 months 2 days 20 hours ago) and read 1277 times:

Quoting Monteycarlos (Reply 11):
She wants to see me six times a week, and I really struggle to see her twice... I call her every night (against my own wishes) because otherwise she would make life when we do see each other very hard.

Out here its called "Chipku" or Sticky  Smile
Talk it out....Say you need space.If it works fine,else get moving.
regds
MEL



Think of the brighter side!
25 Monteycarlos : Well interesting - tonight I had a shift at work, and when I started the other girl was finishing and she made me lose all concentration, and I felt
26 OzarkD9S : Ditch the bitch, make the switch. Go find a nice Jewish guy.
27 Post contains images KC135R : That could be a sign of something - or it could just be infatuation, which is a very powerful and intoxicating feeling, not to be confused with love.
28 Clrd2go : rule #1 DO NOT date anyone with whom you work. Ever. Jim
29 Avek00 : Never find your honey where you get your money - it creates many complications, not the least of which is the potential of a sexual harrasment complai
30 Fokker Lover : This is where the old saying "you don't crap where you eat" comes in. Don't date people from work either. Same goes for marrying your bosses daughter.
31 Clrd2go : There ya go..do the ol' Seinfeld "Menage a trois" trick! "I"m not an orgy guy!" Jim
32 Salukipilot : That was on not too long ago actually Jim!
33 N317AS : If you are that honest, be honest with her and dump her. If not, here's a suggestion taken froin Seinfeld for all three of you. "I don't know how you
34 Post contains images S12PPL : Kieron, I can honestly say you are the first person to use that stupid one liner against me But I stand by my original comment. While the "signed, **
35 DeskPilot : Good advise, but I don't think it will help Montycarlos at the moment. Montycarlos, do the right thing and end things with your current girl and deal
36 Monteycarlos : Hmmm, I'm not sure about that. I'm hoping - saw her again at work today... she is so magical. It is going to be a very tough decision and I think the
37 Avek00 : Yes, because if you don't, there's a decent chance your next thread will be "Can you help me find a new job?" Women in your workplace simply have to
38 Senorcarnival : When she breaks down crying, that's called manipulation. It's her way of making sure you feel maximum guilt for what you're about to do. You have to s
39 VS747SPUR : Hi there, If I were you I'd sit down with your current girlfriend and have a big talk with her like have both your feelings out with eachother etc.. (
40 BMIFlyer : I think you should talk to your girlfriend, before you get too overworked. Lee
41 Monteycarlos : I do see your point, but the possibilities are what draw me to her... I could see myself with this girl for a long time, but with my girlfriend I can
42 Bill142 : The questions which have to be asked are, how much trouble will any new relationship casue? Having you, your ex and your current girlfriend in the sam
43 Sevenair : yeh, I was in a similar predicament, I got rid of the curent one, in favour of the new, the one one messed me about. So now, Im not with either!
44 Post contains images RobK : How the hell can you see yourself being with girl 2 "for a long time" when you don't even know her . What planet are you on ?!!?? In my own experienc
45 Post contains images Kieron747 : Yes the old ones are the best, but at my age, you just have to take anything that's available! Signed, Skidmarks
46 Avek00 : Why make your work life more complicated (and risk-laden) than it already will be once you dump your current girlfriend?
47 Monteycarlos : Its those kind of things that she does that make me want to dump her.... maybe she is secretly saying "dump me"? I think you have brought me back to
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