EZYAirbus From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2003, 2460 posts, RR: 52 Posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days ago) and read 2003 times:
My girlfriend lives in Belfast, I live in Hemel Hempstead, now there are 268 miles between us, she cant get a transfer to LTNn as cabin crew at easyJet, but I can get a job on the ramp at BFS, she has asked me if I will go live with her in BFS, this means leaving all my friends and family behind. I love her to bits but just not sure if im ready to make the move.
Alcregular From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days ago) and read 1991 times:
It would depend on how long I had been going out with that person. If it was under a year, I wouldn't, but if it was over a year, I would think about it. I had a bad enough time moving in with my ex -b/f here, nevermind relocating to somewhere new.
VonRichtofen From Canada, joined Nov 2000, 4627 posts, RR: 36
Reply 5, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days ago) and read 1971 times:
Thanks for pointing that out Jake.. But thanks to recent happenings, that wont be for much longer as im moving out to be with her pretty soon!
Follow your heart.. Someone always told me that Distance is not an obstacle, just a minor inconvinience. I took that advice and I couldnt be happier..
Glenn.. If its going that well, then one of you will have to relocate.. Just weigh out the pros and cons. And most of all, Best of Luck.
Searpqx From Netherlands, joined Jun 2000, 4343 posts, RR: 10
Reply 6, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 4 days ago) and read 1969 times:
It all depends on how much you love her and how attached you are to your life now. The big danger is if you're not happy after the move, you're likely going to start resenting having moved, and eventually you'll transfer that resentment to her. If you were contemplating moving away from your hometown and friends at some point, then I'd say go for it, it can be a big adventure for the two of you starting fresh on your own and building a life together. Just go into it with open eyes.
"The two most common elements in the universe are Hydrogen and stupidity"
EMBQA From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 9364 posts, RR: 11
Reply 7, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 3 days 23 hours ago) and read 1946 times:
Friends and family are a short flight away and will always be there. If you truly care about your girlfriend, she might just become your best friend for the rest of your life. That is some thing you can't pass up.
"It's not the size of the dog in the fight, but the size of the fight in the dog"
LTBEWR From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 13042 posts, RR: 12
Reply 12, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 1857 times:
First of all, you are just moving to a different part of the UK, not a another country, so no issues that way.
If you really love her to the point that you may consider her becoming your wife, have a chance to secure decent employment there and can afford to live in a safe and good place there, then GO!!!!!
You make moving from London to Belfast sound like a big deal, you can go back to your friends for a weekend if you really can't live without them. It's only 268 miles as you say.
There's a bit more to it than that, especially as it's both over the water and a place which hasn't had the easiest of times.
I'd agree with everyone else, it's no further than moving to somewhere like NCL and hardly going to be a massive problem getting back when needed. Belfast is booming now that the guns are put away for good (we pray) and is not an expensive location to live.
Go for it. Even if it doesn't work out it is an experience of living and working somewhere new. And the rest of Ireland awaits!
Skidmarks From UK - England, joined Dec 2004, 7121 posts, RR: 55
Reply 19, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 1766 times:
When I met my wife, she lived in Maidstone and I was in the RAF at St.Athan - some way apart. But that didn't stop us. She was the one to move. I couldn't (the RAF wouldn't post me to West malling - something about it being closed!) We're still together 19 years later.
At least you wouldn't have to find a job as she did.
Go for it. Love conquers all - along with regular sex an' stuff
Capital146 From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2003, 2125 posts, RR: 44
Reply 20, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 1751 times:
Like many people have already said, what have you got to lose? Even if the worst happened and things didn't work out, you could move back to Hemel and pick things up from there again. As far as I know you don't have any major ties to hold you back apart from that you'll miss you're friends and family, but how cheap and frequent are U2 flights to LTN from BFS, especially on staff travel rates?!
I made a similar choice myself a couple of years ago, left a very secure job with a company I had worked with for 13 years and moved 80 miles to unglamourous Hull to move in with my then other half. Even though things didn't work out and I moved back West again, I have never regretted for a second making that change. So much excitement, it's like a big adventure! Even when I moved back, I have been through so many new experiences and met so many fantastic people due to new work situations, that the repercussions of that decision just keep on happening to this day.
What's the worst that can happen?
If you are still unsure, maybe you could take a bit of time off work before deciding what to do and go over to Belfast for a week or two. You'll probably have a much better idea then.
EZYAirbus From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2003, 2460 posts, RR: 52
Reply 22, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1703 times:
Hey guys thanks for all the messages of support, ive spoken to her today, and on wednesday im going to Belfast for 3 days, we then gonna arrange for me to over for a week or 2, look for a job at BFS airport, she already got her own place so no need to worry about looking for one, and it is only an hours flying from home.
Ndebelebev From Sudan, joined Apr 2004, 877 posts, RR: 44
Reply 24, posted (8 years 11 months 2 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1657 times:
Go for it. What have you to lose? You are obviously happy or else you wouldn't have even contemplated the decision. And its only BFS.... hardly the other side of the world. And remember all your mates on here are only an email away too and your family only on the other end of a phone.
Good luck to you and Jayne.
Her Pose Is That Of Someone... Who Knows It All And Is In Total Control Of Her World... Little Does She Know...
: If you go, GET YOUR OWN PLACE - you should not completely give up your "independent" existence while you two are still in the BF/GF stage. You'll be
: Just go for it! My wife moved 3000 miles to be with me, now I am 3000 miles away from my family and love every minute of it. I went back home in March