FlyboyOz From Australia, joined Nov 2000, 1893 posts, RR: 28 Posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8375 times:
This thread is NOT about gay issue but it's about men issue (social life).
My online friends and I discussed about two straight male friends hug each other. Normally, two men can hug each other when there was someone who died and also when they were drunk. However they told me that it's weird for two male straight friends hugging each other before they left in the coffee shop or when hang out. Do you agree with it?
Well...I have done this before. My friends and I always hang out together and we hugged before we left in front of the public. I was a bit awkward.
Ffis34 From United States of America, joined Feb 2005, 318 posts, RR: 0 Reply 1, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8350 times:
Hey, I am not gay and all but one of my male friends are straight, and we are like a big loveing family always hugging and other stuff like circle jerks and stuff to the nature as far as contact goes hugging is as far as i will go with a guy but then maybe i think this is normal because i am in the band and sex is second nature to us but who knows
i think its perfectly normal
I am a metrosexual, well this is what i think, but others disagree
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777DadandJr From United States of America, joined Feb 2005, 1516 posts, RR: 13 Reply 2, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8350 times:
I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. I think it has less to do with being socially wierd than someone's personal inhabitions.
I hug my male friends all the time.
I suppose it has alot to do with how close to that friend you are. I mean, I don't greet a client with a hug, but my good friends that I have know for ages, most definately.
Russ
My glass is neither 1/2 empty nor 1/2 full, rather, the glass itself is twice as big as it should be.
We're Nuts From United States of America, joined Jun 2000, 5705 posts, RR: 22 Reply 3, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8349 times:
My very best friend left for college today. We said goodbye last night and left with a long hug. We're both straight and we love each other - I'll never have another friend like him.
Anyone who says there is something wrong with that probably leads a lonely existence.
Springbok747 From Australia, joined Nov 2004, 4387 posts, RR: 13 Reply 4, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8344 times:
Quoting FlyboyOz (Thread starter): However they told me that it's weird for two male straight friends hugging each other before they left in the coffee shop or when hang out.
Yes. It is.
The only time I've hugged a guy was in the airport when my best friend went away to Canada for 2 years. It's gay to hug another guy even when you're drunk. Period.
SATX From United States of America, joined Apr 2005, 2840 posts, RR: 8 Reply 5, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8343 times:
LOL! I don't hug other guys unless they just lost their mum or won an Olympic medal or something. But hey, that's just me. I'm the kind of guy who might acknowledge a reunion with a long-lost friend by a quick and simple raise of my chin and then off to drinks or whatever. I do, however, often punch or jab other guys in the shoulder when I'm giving them crap or waiting for them to get a joke or something.
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September11 From United States of America, joined May 2004, 3623 posts, RR: 23 Reply 6, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8340 times:
I have seen many guys hug each other at airports - countless times .. arrival/departure gates, passenger drop-off/pick-up areas by terminal, baggage claim areas... always great to see that, kinda refreshing to me
CurtisMan From Canada, joined Jun 2005, 996 posts, RR: 52 Reply 7, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8329 times:
Among my family and friends, everyone hugs a lot. It doesn't matter who is gay or straight. Guys hugging guys is a good thing. My father and mother hugged us kids a lot and I think that is a good thing - along with all of the kisses.
I feel bad for guys who feel uncomfortable hugging another guy. Human touch is important. So be free and enjoy a hug from someone you care about!
SATX From United States of America, joined Apr 2005, 2840 posts, RR: 8 Reply 8, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8306 times:
I'm guessing this might largely come down to a USA vs. the rest of the world kind of thing. I've seen strait guys hugging, holding hands, and with their arms on each others shoulders all over the world, but in the US this is generally considered as something mainly gay guys do. I don't think one side is right and other is wrong. Every culture is different and that's fine with me. I've had both drunk and sober guys try to cozy up to me and it's just not my thing.
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Redngold From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 6907 posts, RR: 51 Reply 9, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8297 times:
I admit that the first time I ever saw my father hug another man, I was weirded out - but then I realized that they had shared a spiritual experience (a weekend Christian men's retreat) and that they were sharing a hug because they were happy to see each other.
Then, it became refreshing to see my father actually express himself like that. I realized that he was so often very stiff and that he had learned to keep physical space like that from his own father.
My grandfather only started hugging my sister and me a few years before his death.
Quoting Springbok747 (Reply 4): t's gay to hug another guy even when you're drunk. Period.
We're Nuts From United States of America, joined Jun 2000, 5705 posts, RR: 22 Reply 10, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8296 times:
Quoting SATX (Reply 8): I've had both drunk and sober guys try to cozy up to me and it's just not my thing.
777DadandJr From United States of America, joined Feb 2005, 1516 posts, RR: 13 Reply 11, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 8296 times:
Quoting Springbok747 (Reply 4): It's gay to hug another guy even when you're drunk.
Oh please! Sounds like someone is a little insecure about their sexuality. There is absolutely nothing wierd about it.
Russ
My glass is neither 1/2 empty nor 1/2 full, rather, the glass itself is twice as big as it should be.
777DadandJr From United States of America, joined Feb 2005, 1516 posts, RR: 13 Reply 15, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 8253 times:
Quoting Springbok747 (Reply 14): Geez...lighten up guys..I'm joking. I've hugged many of my friends at airports, functions etc. I still hug my cousin everytime I see him.
Thanks for clarifying that Springbok. You're forgiven!
Russ
My glass is neither 1/2 empty nor 1/2 full, rather, the glass itself is twice as big as it should be.
SATX From United States of America, joined Apr 2005, 2840 posts, RR: 8 Reply 16, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 8237 times:
Dammit Nuts... don't ever respond to my posts until you take that damn quotation mark out of your nick! Something with the app or the DB is getting weirded-out because it thinks it's looking at a 'single tick' and it's not letting me quote your post.
Anyway, here we go...
"Someone didn't get hugged enough as a baby"
Well, both my dad and my mom have hugged me plenty and I've got the photos to prove it. I'm not sure who else should have been hugging me back then, but maybe there just weren't enough strangers around to really get the point across.
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ScarletHarlot From Canada, joined Jul 2003, 4673 posts, RR: 59 Reply 17, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 8205 times:
Quoting CurtisMan (Reply 7): I feel bad for guys who feel uncomfortable hugging another guy.
Yes, me too. There's nothing wrong with guys hugging each other. My husband hugs his good friends from time to time. Shaking hands is so stiff and cold.
A man who is confident in his sexuality (whatever way he swings) is a really cool thing.
MD-90 From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 8418 posts, RR: 13 Reply 18, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 8187 times:
Quoting Ffis34 (Reply 1): Hey, I am not gay and all but one of my male friends are straight, and we are like a big loveing family always hugging and other stuff like circle jerks and stuff to the nature as far as contact goes hugging is as far as i will go with a guy but then maybe i think this is normal because i am in the band and sex is second nature to us but who knows
Whoa, now that is, um....a run-on sentence.
Circle jerks? Whatever starts your tractor. But I've heard of smiliar things in the all-male drum corps. Some bands can be intense experiences...
I was in the band too, and still am, but the main difference between us and "them" in high school was that we were more comfortable working with girls (in band), and so our band dances were much more fun than school dances, because people were less inhibited and less worried about looking stupid...and more concerned with having fun.
SKYSERVICE_330 From Canada, joined Sep 2000, 1384 posts, RR: 6 Reply 19, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 8176 times:
Quoting Springbok747 (Reply 4): It's gay to hug another guy even when you're drunk. Period.
If you are secure about your sexuality and who you are then there is nothing "gay" about it ... w/e the hell that means.
I hug my roomates when we leave for extended periods of time (eg. go home for the summer) same with my bro. Thats about it. I got no problems hugging a guy any other time, just depends on the situation and how close you are too them I guess.
AirTran737 From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 3639 posts, RR: 12 Reply 21, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 8143 times:
Man on man hugging is acceptable. There can be no hip to hip region contact, and the hand must remain in a fist. Only two pats are allowed on the back.
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KL642 From United States of America, joined May 2004, 350 posts, RR: 5 Reply 22, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 8128 times:
I'm a straight male and whenever I make one of my trips back to NYC to see my friends its hugs all around. Nothing gay about it at all.
FlyAUA From Austria, joined May 2005, 4604 posts, RR: 57 Reply 24, posted (7 years 8 months 1 week 3 days 16 hours ago) and read 8088 times:
I see it happen all the time. If you're comfortable enough with your masculinity, there's nothing wrong with showing your feelings. A good old hug can work wonders and is worth MORE than a thousand words. Plus I have straight friends giving me hugs often. Some (of European descent - YES) even do the peck on each side of the cheek as a greeting. It's funny
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25 OYRJA: Personally I have no problems with it at all. Even if I'm straight I do it pretty often if its a friend I haven't seen for a long time. And I don't ha
26 BaylorAirBear: Only if you're fixing to die; and then only for effect. BAB
27 Smitten: My mates and I have always hugged (you know, the quick handshake with one hand and back slap with the other). There have never been any qualms about i
28 HAWK21M: Out here its common for Straight Males to Shake hands & a partial hug & a tap over the Back of the Shoulder. regds MEL
29 JeffSFO: It's funny, I was at the gym tonight and ran into a buddy I hadn't seen in a while. I just arrived and he was leaving but we caught up for a bit and h
30 Kingsford: Out here, hugging is not really done, straight or gay. It's just not our thing. Since in our small country we adapt easily to others, we have no probl
31 ManuCH: Hugging isn't something which is done in Switzerland. When male meets female you get 3 kisses (not on the mouth, that is ). And normally when 2 males
32 Erikwilliam: well, it´s pretty much peoples cultures right? I do hug my friends, but not those that I see more, like 2-3 times a week. And some I do kiss on the c
33 AirEuropeUK733: I'm straight and I see nothing wrong with it - especially if you haven't seen/going to see someone for a while. Also when you're drunk it stops you fa
34 PHLBOS: If you've ever seen any videos of the Promise Keepers conferences (including the 1997 Stand in the Gap rally at DC), there are plenty of straight mal
35 EGGD: No I don't see much weird about it. Apart from if there is no real reason and you are serious about it. I hug people I know and my friends all the tim
36 S12PPL: Me and my best friend hug eachother if we havn't seen eachother for a while. Or, if the moment is "right" for it...You know, not a full on, two arm hu
37 Pilotaydin: I think people are very image conscious in the western world, i think they care more about what others think about them, than some countries such as
38 SATX: Maybe, but be careful about reading too much into my post or assuming that I might somehow represent most folks in the western world. Also, just beca
39 Aleksandar: Exactly. Do you remember "Good Will Hunting" when Matt Damon asks his doctor if it's OK to hug him and doctor's answer "It's OK as long as you don't
42 SlamClick: I think it was cultural. The dominant figure in my family when I was very young was my paternal grandfather, a dour Scottish gentleman who was not ver
43 ANCFlyer: This is too good to pass up! Read it again! Say it with me now!
44 Scamp: Okay, well this is a new one for me. I gotta remember it. As a gay male, I have often hugged straight guys...and I don't see anything wrong with hugg
45 SATX: I'd say 'enjoy' but it looks like you're already having enough fun with this.
46 Marambio: Here in Argentina both hugging and kissing between straight males is accepted and has become popular, especially among the younger generations. For in
47 MD-90: But if you are gay...then...what's wrong with that? Actually it should be cranks your tractor, now that I think about it. It's a Southern thing. The
48 Saigonhouston: Yep, I agreed. So, lighting up US people and especially those religious people in out there. I think nothing wrong with a hugs and it normal for most
49 Scamp: I guess I've been away from the south a long time. Having been born and reared there, I'd never heard it. It's funny nevertheless. As for "cracks you
50 EA CO AS: Actually, it's three pats - they're male morse code for *I'M* *NOT* *GAY*.
51 RobertNL070: What a pity! In the Netherlands we seem to hug quite a lot, gay or straight. I'm even on cheek-pecking-terms with four or five heterosexual male frie
52 CXA330300: Oh shut your face, ja? What are you, another one of those crazies in the South?
53 Ffis34: hey man yeah, i completely agree with you dances are so much better with fellow band kids but it dosent matter school or band dance, i have noticed a
54 Newark777: I can hug a guy, I have no problem with it. If you do, you better go back to third grade and get your kootie shot. Harry
55 AsstChiefMark: There's nothing wrong with it at all. The hardest thing is reading someone to determine if it's OK with them. It's really uncomfortable to try to hug
56 ZKSUJ: Its perfectly fine. Nothing wrong with it. Does NOT mean you are gay.
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