Brother Detroit and myself went in together and bought the 'kids' the starter set of All Clad cookware plus some additional pieces for about $300.00 each.
Now for the idiot brother, Brother Boston. He sends my nephew a gift as well.
Cash, no. Something the registered for, no.
My nephew got a card in the mail saying "a contribution has been made in your honor" to a certain charity.
Is this not the dumbest thing you have ever heard of!!!
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GRANTED he should have gotten them something utilitarian at a minumum. I'm not defendng his actions from a typical point of view, but...
My Parents for example have everything they really need. If they don't have it and want it, they get it as they have the resources.
My Parents ASK FOR, and I am happy to give them, Donations to the daily bread food bank in their name. So this makes sense.
I'd be STUNNED your nephew made such a request; so yes, your brother is likely a jackass if nothing else for giving them something they didn't need at all.
Pe@rson From United Kingdom (England), joined Jan 2001, 15088 posts, RR: 52 Reply 7, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 680 times:
Well, when my brother recently got married, he expressly told people not to buy him anything as he didn't need it. People nevertheless did, of course, but hey.
I strongly oppose, for instance, animal cruelty. So if someone I knew wanted to donate £1 million to a charity I support, then fantastic.
Diamond From United States, joined Apr 2004, 3078 posts, RR: 71 Reply 8, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 680 times:
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Do brother Boston and brother New York get along?
It seems that brother Boston was buying his 'gift' purely out of obligation and formality. He threw away the chance to present a gift that brother New York and his wife might remember forever.
Maybe he was sending an unspoken message, "you're really not that important to me, but I guess I have to buy something."
Pe@rson From United Kingdom (England), joined Jan 2001, 15088 posts, RR: 52 Reply 9, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 664 times:
If I get married (I would want to pay for it myself, well, myself and my wife), then I would be happy for people to contribute to an organisation or charity we/I believe in, particularly if we don't require any household stuff.
Dtwclipper From United States, joined Oct 2003, 6570 posts, RR: 30 Reply 10, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 664 times:
TedTAce:
Contributions like this are made for funerals, or other occasions, not for weddings or showers.
Quoting TedTAce (Reply 4): My Parents for example have everything they really need. If they don't have it and want it, they get it as they have the resources.
What does this have to do with anything? I glad your parents are comfortable, that's very nice.
Quoting TedTAce (Reply 4): I'd be STUNNED your nephew made such a request; so yes, your brother is likely a jackass if nothing else for giving them something they didn't need at all.
My nephew registered at a number of places that have locations across the country as well as web sites. There were plenty of options, and even if he didn't want to buy him something from one of his selections, he could have given him some cash or a piece of crystal!
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Greasespot From Canada, joined Apr 2004, 2602 posts, RR: 24 Reply 11, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 662 times:
Umm people do not get married to get some stupid gifts. If this gift came from Brother bostons heart it means the same as some materialistic posession.
Depending on the spirit of the gift it is entirely appropriate.
But I guess the "greedies" on here seem to think it is all about the gift and NOT the thought that counts.
GS
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RobertNL070 From Netherlands, joined Sep 2003, 4060 posts, RR: 8 Reply 12, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 655 times:
Quoting Pe@rson (Reply 9): then I would be happy for people to contribute to an organisation or charity we/I believe in, particularly if we don't require any household stuff
However Nephew New York, and spouse-to-be, didn't have any say in the matter.
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Dtwclipper From United States, joined Oct 2003, 6570 posts, RR: 30 Reply 13, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 654 times:
Quoting Greasespot (Reply 11): Umm people do not get married to get some stupid gifts. If this gift came from Brother bostons heart it means the same as some materialistic posession.
Oh come on, do you really believe that?
Quoting Greasespot (Reply 11): But I guess the "greedies" on here seem to think it is all about the gift and NOT the thought that counts.
No, it's not about the gift, but doing the "right thing" and this was not the right thing to do for a young couple getting married.
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VSLover From United Kingdom (Scotland), joined Feb 2004, 1880 posts, RR: 20 Reply 14, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 643 times:
Quoting Greasespot (Reply 11): Umm people do not get married to get some stupid gifts. If this gift came from Brother bostons heart it means the same as some materialistic posession
HAHHAHA. quite a good laugh so early in the morning!
ANCFlyer From United States, joined Nov 2004, 22999 posts, RR: 100 Reply 15, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 642 times:
I have four brothers. Brother Chicago is a kid, he didn't vote, he's married to a huge woman, he has a shitty job . . . loser.
Brother Milwaukee is a decent guy, Navy man, combat vet, married to a nice lady, has a great job since he retired from the service. . . winner.
Brother Anchorage is a complete pinhead. Total loser from every aspect. He is not welcome in my home and neither is the skank he's married to.
Brother Lexington is a doctor at UK, nice guy, great family, decent life. Winner.
Still don't care if I see any of them. . . .
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CaptOveur From United States, joined May 2004, 6767 posts, RR: 31 Reply 16, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 637 times:
Quoting Greasespot (Reply 11): Umm people do not get married to get some stupid gifts. If this gift came from Brother bostons heart it means the same as some materialistic posession.
I was always under the impression the purpose of showers and wedding gifts was to get shit the new couple needs. If you can't afford anything just show up.. And get something that is on the fucking registry.. going off on your own is just stupid, the registry there is so the new couple doesnt end up with 50 different china patterns.
Things were better when it was two guys in a dorm room.
DesertJets From United States, joined Feb 2000, 6664 posts, RR: 18 Reply 18, posted (3 years 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 621 times:
This situation reminds me of a Seinfeld episode, the one where George creates a fake charity and gives his co-workers cards saying that a donation for $X was given in their name. Sounds like Brother Boston pulled a George Costanza.
Gifts for events like this should be of the practical nature. You have two young people (I am assuming they are young) starting their life off together, and building a home together. Oftentimes they do not have basic stuff like pots and pans, or towels, or small appliances. Or if they do it has been pieced together from hand-me-downs or cheap stuff from a discount store. The All-clad cookware set is a great gift. That stuff will last them for years and is immensely useful.
Now if there were charities or causes that the couple believed passionately in, a donation in their name would be appropriate in lieu of a toaster or a set of stemware. But just to pick a group that the couple may not have any interest in is just tacky.
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TedTAce From , joined today!, posts, RR: Reply 19, posted (3 years 6 days 5 hours ago) and read 601 times:
Quoting Dtwclipper (Reply 10):
What does this have to do with anything? I glad your parents are comfortable, that's very nice.
Your such a jerk.. No wonder where your brother gets it from. You should have taken the statment in context... the OBVIOUS point you missed is that your nephew is unlikely in a simillar position, just like MOST of us, myself included.
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