YV136C From Venezuela, joined Mar 2003, 198 posts, RR: 0 Posted (10 years 3 weeks 2 days 8 hours ago) and read 1091 times:
This is what I'm going through right now, I'll put it out there for you guys (and gals) to tell me what you think I can do:
In January 2004 I came to the U.S. from Venezuela leaving my wife and kids behind until I had a stable situation to bring them here with me. Although I have seen my family various times during this time I am really sick of it and I want this resolved NOW. I have been working here at Embraer for 6 weeks now on a SAP project that should last until about May 2006. I also have a very good job offer back home in Venezuela. The thing is that with that offer back home I can cover all my expenses and have money left over, instead here I would need to find a second job to make ends meet. Bear in my mind that my current position is Temporary with no benefits, the offer in Venezuela is as an employee with full benefits.
Intangibles: I left Venezuela because of the ever declining social and political situation and because I wanted to give my kids a chance to learn a new language and see other things, just as I did when I lived here in the States 25 years ago. Also, I always wanted to come back to the States and live here, I have adapted very well and like it a lot but I can't do it alone anymore. It's maddening. On top of that my wife has never been really supportive about coming here, she wants me back there. For my kids sake and my own, divorce is not an option.
I have support here....my dad lives here, my older brother lives in California and my mother is seriously thinking about moving here. It really drives me crazy to think that I have to "give up"my dream and go back to Venezuela....but I will if I have to, but I will always want to come back, that much I know.
Questions, opinions.......shoot away!
Pope From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (10 years 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1069 times:
By definition, haven't you failed to realize your goal of establishing a stable situation to bring them here with you? Therefore, go back because your continued presence here isn't furthering your objective. The time and energy you've already spent is a sunk cost, you should only evaluate the future expenditures of time, energy and intangible discomfort (having to live apart) against the prospective gains.