lax2000
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Anyone Adopted?

Tue Sep 19, 2000 3:34 am

Any one adopted? Or am I the lone bastard son of Airliners.net...

PS why are my topics in bold?

Adam


 
Ilyushin96M
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Tue Sep 19, 2000 4:04 am

Hey, I'm adopted. And just because you're adopted doesn't mean you're a bastard!   I've known since I was a kid; my folks never made any secret of it, and explained the hows and whys. I feel I am very lucky to have the family I have, and can't imagine it any other way!
 
lax2000
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Tue Sep 19, 2000 4:20 am

I was just joking about being a bastard  I have also known as a kid and feel fortunate for having great loving parents, but recently I have been thinking about looking for my biological mom. I really never wanted to untill recently, I am now 31.

Adam
 
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Tue Sep 19, 2000 4:29 am

There's no such thing as illegitimate children, only illegitimate parents.
 
Adam84
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Tue Sep 19, 2000 9:05 am

My dad was adopted, I dont like it much because he knows who his real parents are, where they live, and he knows who is real family is, but he refuses to meet them or even try to contact them.I would really like to meet my real grandparents, because I have never had any real grandparents cause my dads adoptive parents died before I was born and grandma from my moms side dropped off the face of the earth (she just packed up and left one day and no one knows where she is).
 
Hole_Courtney
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Wed Sep 20, 2000 8:40 pm

I'm adopted. I don't really care to find my "real" parents. I mean, the only reason that they would be of any interest to me is so that I could find out my medical history. that's about it.
"[He] knew everything about literature, except how to enjoy it." - Yossarian, Catch 22
 
JETPILOT
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Fri Sep 22, 2000 10:00 pm

I was adopted. Doesn't bother me a bit. Don't even really think about it.

 
lax2000
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RE: Anyone Adopted?

Sat Sep 23, 2000 3:39 am

Being adopted doesn't bother me at all either in fact I'm proud to be adopted. I never thought of looking for my biological mom until recently, I'm still not sure if I want to do it, who knows I could be one of Manson's children (hopefully not) I was born in LA in 1969. Anyway I guess you would have to be prepared for anything, and I don't know if I am.

Don't get me wrong my parents are great but I want to know what it feels like to meet someone who shares the same genes. I don't know how much genes matter in the way you turn out or what your into, I'm sure it's mostly the way you were raised.

I guess I'm interested because the little information I know about my birth parents is that they were musicians/artists and so am I (weird?) Anyway I can't help thinking about it lately, but I don't want to hurt my parents feelings.

Hey JETPILOT, maybe your biological dads the Boeing test pilot who did the barrel roll in the 707 in the late 50's! What made you want to fly? maybe its in your genes.

Adam
 
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Lax2000

Tue Sep 26, 2000 4:15 am

Dude I don't think it will be good to search for your real mom. It's not worth it. If she gave you up for adoption was because she didn't want you in her life. So why bother trying to enter her life at this stage. If I were you I wouldn't look for her.

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Ilyushin96M
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To Aa777dr

Tue Sep 26, 2000 4:27 am

That was a pretty callous way of putting things. It's a rather bold (and entirely incorrect) assumption to think that a child was given up for adoption because the birth mother or parents simply "didn't want" the child.

Sometimes, parents give up their children for adoption because they know they can't provide for the child, and want the child to live a good life. Others are forced by their parents to give up their children (in cases of unwed mothers, or even rape). So the reasons for it vary greatly. And from what I know, for the most part, the decision to give up a child for adoption is a very difficult one for the parents.

I for one don't question the decision of my birth parents to give me up. They could have terminated the pregnancy, and I wouldn't be here today. I thank them for the chance they gave me to become part of the extraordinary family I have now.
 
lax2000
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RE: To Aa777dr

Tue Sep 26, 2000 5:39 am

Ilyushin96M's post pretty much summed it all up.

The first step to finding your biological mother is to contact the association where you were adopted from and see if there is a request from her to find you. It is common for birth mothers to say they do not want contact with there child and then change this as they get older. If I found out there's was no request for my birth mom to meet me I would probably not peruse it further.

Adam

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