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Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Fri Mar 16, 2001 9:25 pm

I found out last night that the real reason my ex broke up with me was because i'm not a christian.She said they said something about it at church one day and that when she broke up with me. I find this the biggests pile of sh*t, it's so stupid. This is why i hate religion and church, they brainwash this stupid crap into you. I find that so low,disrespectfull, and even discriminating. It pisses me off and i have no respect for her church or religion. Religion just causes trouble and fu*ks things up. What a bunch of BS!! That hurt like hell to, knowing that to her i was a "sin"

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Fri Mar 16, 2001 9:46 pm

This is an example of when religion is taken too far. You're probably better off without her if she's that stupid.

The problem with religions is that they all think they've found the answer to everything, when in reality all they have found is a tiny fragment - like a piece on a jigsaw.

I am ethnically European, with an Islamic upbringing, and I am now married to a Thai Buddhist. We have no arguments whatsoever because neither of us is really religious (I believe in God, but that's it).

My advice to you is to leave the God-Botherers alone in future and find yourself a real woman
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Fri Mar 16, 2001 10:00 pm

I agree with Ryan.

Eric, my g/friend believes in God. I have no problems with that, because to tell you the truth, I believe in something, just not a bearded, robed ominidogmatic Christian God.

I have no problems with religious people either, as long as they do not impose their beliefs/think of you differently for being a "non-believer".

Honestly, you're better off without the brainwashed kind.

And that's coming from someone with a Catholic father and Jewish mother!! Big grin Big grin (Neither are "believers").

Cheers

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Fri Mar 16, 2001 10:10 pm

Thanks guys...I agree with both of you. A nice person wouldn't but religion between people. It's plane discimination. I also think this might be one of those seperation of state problems. They think they can do whatever they want and the rules don't apply to them. Oh well i lost all respect and love for this girl. Good thing i have a date tomarrow.

Alos sorry if what i said in my original post offends anyone.

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 12:32 am

No offense but i think your more ignorant than the people you critisize. Have you ever stopped to think maybe your girl just didnt want to tell you the real reason she dumped you? girls are like that dude, more than likely it was just an excuse that she had been formulating for weeks...

lets say she WAS being honest, she shouldnt have gone out with you in the first place, she was wrong in that regard. (im not sticking up for her)

I know it sucks to get dumped, no matter how it happend, but dont generalize a whole group of people because of it.

I consider myself a christian, and, believe it or not i have been dumped TWICE by catholic girls because i was not catholic. Do i turn around and blame catholisism? NO! Do i agree with it? Of course not... one time in particular i was dumped about 2 years ago by a girl i was very serious with, she was catholic... i dont know if i ever truly got over that one....

But that is someone's deeply held belief, and i am a fool to question that. Imagine how hard it would be if you had to break up with someone because they werent in line with your beliefs... its hard for both parties....

Hope i've helped a bit... Oh, i personally date girls as long as they live clean .. i.e. dont smoke, dress nice, etc... but religion doesnt play a huge role; i suppose if they were satanic or atheist it would be a different story... but that hasnt happend yet...

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 12:40 am

I wasn't attcking christinaity i just think they brainwashed the hell out of her. That is the truth because she made other stories up because she knew i'd get mad because it has to do with religion

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 12:54 am

That's why I don't like churches (I pray though). They are full of lies.

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 1:03 am

From what I have read, Eric, you are attacking christianity. I think she just gave you some stupid ass excuse. That's probably not the real reason.

Brainwashing? What a crock of shit. She goes to church, and unless she is a dumbshit that goes to special-ed classes, she can think for herself and believe what she wants to.


If your soooo desperate, why not convert!  Big grin
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 1:15 am

That girl certainly haven't come across Matthew 22, verse 39.

"The second most important commandment is like it. 'Love your neighbour as yourself'"

I wouldn't mind going out with atheists but religions and cults which are evil is a different matter. My church don't brainwash people though.

Pacific (a christian)
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 1:20 am

First off i know for a fact its the truth and second her church wich i when to a few times sure sounded like they where brainwashing people. Thats why i stoped going with her

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 1:37 am

Eric,

For what it's worth, I think you are better off having broken up. To pass judgement on you for not being a Christian I find a very stinted view of Christianity, and is exactly the type of thing that gives it a bad name. If she were truly Christian, she would accept you for who you are and not try to force her religion down your throat. Secondly, if it appeared a sort of brainwashing, and the alarm bells start to go off in your own mind, you are right to have trusted your instincts and backed away. That she judges you to be sinful is not your problem, and it was wrong of her to pass judgement on you like that. Frankly, you deserve better.

Charles, SJ
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 2:00 am

Thank You..Atleast someone listens and knows where im coming from.

Eric

 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 2:13 am

She is "Christian" ok.... But what denomination is she exactly (Catholic, Presbyterian, Episcopal, Lutheran)?
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 2:25 am

I have no clue
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 2:41 am

From what I hear from Eric, she was probably Pentecostal.
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 3:01 am

I agree with Ctbarnes.
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 4:51 am

I have to commend your ex-girlfriend for her stand. She did what was best for both of you. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (II Corinthians 6:14)

Think about all of the differences that the two of you would have over your dating or married life. It most likely would lead to a divorce unless one of you compromised your beliefs.

I too dated a non-christian at once and was seriously considering marriage. I want to thank God for getting my foolish self out of that situation because I am worlds happier with my wife and child than I ever would have been with the non-believer. There just would have been disagreements at every turn and would have ultimately lead to two lives of regret.

"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." (Proverbs 13:20)

God Bless

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 4:57 am

If it sounded like brainwashing, she is probably Baptist (or orthodox jew)!
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 4:59 am

 Confused umm.....what diffrence does it make. It religion,your point of view. It shouldn't get in they way of things. Thats why im a non-believer

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 5:02 am

She's Babtist i think...i think her church name had Babtist in it somewhere. But she is definatly brainwashed
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 5:08 am

Eric,

I agree with CT barnes.

I would like to add that not all Christians are like your ex-girlfriend, your ex-girlfriends youth group, or your ex-girlfriends church. I'm sorry you have such a bad opinion of Christians....you should realize that your experiences with this girl and her church don't represent the way ALL Christians and churches are.

I work with kids in my spare time and I'm Christian. I don't go around preaching what I believe...I don't brainwash kids. I've found that to be the worst way to reach people. I try to set an example with my life and who I am. If someone asks why I live the way I do or do the things I do....I'll tell them. My relationship with God is an intensly personal thing and may be quite a bit different than another Christians relationship with God. That's the way it is.....works for me.

In your first post you say...."I find this the biggests pile of sh*t, it's so stupid. This is why i hate religion and church, they brainwash this stupid crap into you. I find that so low,disrespectfull, and even discriminating. It pisses me off and i have no respect for her church or religion. Religion just causes trouble and fu*ks things up. What a bunch of BS!!".....

and later you say..... "I wasn't attcking christinainty"

To me it sounds like you are attacking Christianity.....sorry you feel that way. As much as I like you, and we've talked before, I'm not going to let an anti-Christian rant go unanswered without comment.

I'm happy you have a new girlfriend and a new guitar.....try to put the bad relationship with your ex behind you and move forward. Try not to kill her and try not to hate every Christian that comes along because of her.





 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 5:16 am

I am not anti-christian..I was just extremely upset and hurt when i wrote it and what i ment buy her religion was the way her parents and church teach it to her. Beeing discriminated does not feel good

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 5:28 am

Hi, Eric. First of all, I know how much it hurts being dumped, and I think mine did it to me for the same thing - her church probably would disapprove or whatever. Other than that, I find no reason for her to dump me, and she did admit that religion played a little role in that. Anyway, I am happy that you found someone else, and hope religion does not stand in your way. I hope for the day when everybody can tolerate each other's differences, and doesn't let ancient stuff like that stand in front of a happy relationship.

Good luck

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 6:10 am

Whoa, people, let's back up the bus a bit here. Eric, you are pissed because you say that she discriminated against you. It's fine that you are annoyed that she broke up with you, but dating is by definition discriminatory. Me, I am not gay, so I discriminate against men. Others don't like black/white/Hispanic/Asian chicks. Some guys like big tits while others like small ones. All of this is discriminatory and none of it is any more or less nefarious than the choice made by your ex.

After all, to my knowledge, Congress has not extended the Civil Rights Act to dating. And there is good reason for that. Dating someone (and perhaps getting married one day) is an intensely personal decision. We make these decisions based on some of the stupidest reasons. I personally have broken up with girlfriends for a variety of dumb reasons, including 1) she ate nothing but carbohydrates, 2) she hated sports, and 3) she was afraid to fly. In my estimation, however, none of these are as legitimate as the reason cited by your girlfriend.

Though you do not place religion high on your list of priorities, that does not mean that others do (and should) not. That decision should be respected, and the fact that you cannot respect her reason for dumping you now implies at least to me that you would never be able to respect her religious beliefs. Let me tell you, friend, that is not a good foundation for a relationship.

So ultimately, one of two things were going to happen with this relationship: 1) you would break up at some point for some other reason; or 2) you would get married down the line (if she is Baptist, she is not going to just continue banging you indefinitely without a pastor involved). If it was going to end somewhere down the line anyway, what do you care. Go out and find yourself some heathen blond that likes sex a whole lot more than this prudish little bitch. All she did was save you time.

If you could have gotten married, she just saved you a whole lot of grief. Along with marriage (or any long-term commitment, for that matter) comes discussion of where is the ceremony going to be, what are the kids going to be, will you convert. If you are not on the same page, these discussions can get ugly and often lead to the end of the relationship. Its better that she figure out that she does not want to have children with someone not of her faith now rather than later if only to save you the alimony payments.

In conclusion to a very long message, Eric, don't be pissed either at your ex or at organized religion as an institution. Frankly, her religion just gave you a gift: it allowed you to weed out someone who was not meant for you anyway. Now go out there and find some little Athiest that likes to give head!
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 6:37 am

hmmm isnt Clinton baptist.......
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 6:55 am

Eric,

You are probably going to hate me for saying this, but.....


GET THE HELL OVER IT! You have been going on and on and on and on and on and on about your ex-girlfriend for what seems like months now. There are PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA. Stop whining, get up, dust yourself off, and quit blaming every thing under the sun. You are what, 16?, youve got your whole life ahead of you. If you keep going on and on about your ex, it makes me wonder the real reason why she dumped you.

With Regards,
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 7:41 am

N312RC

And I suppose all your relationships have been perfect, or you haven't been hurt by someone you thought you trusted.

Leave the kid alone. He will get over it, but that sort of insensitive, unkind attitude is not helpful.

Charles, SJ
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:21 am

Yeah, Eric - follow that dude's advice. You'll probably be better off with someone giving head instead of praying...
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:35 am

I have gotten over her. Actually i have a new g/f that i asked out yesterday and i have a date tomarrow

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 1:55 pm

At least in my opinion, I would rather marry a non-Jewish person who I am compatible with rather than somebody who is Jewish, and completely noncompatible with me. Love transcends all boundaries placed by human beings. This is just my opinion, but going back to my original statement, why would God want you to screw up two, and possibly, more peoples lives in a loveless marriage whose only purpose is to unite two people of the same religion. Wouldn't God rather see two people have happiness in marriage?
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 10:46 pm

Where are you taking her, Eric? not the parade....

Anyway, I dated a DEVOUT Christian (a Cornell student- She lived just behind that suicide bridge) for six months. I tried to be curious, ask questions, and show herr that, while I didn't necessarily see eye-to-eye with her beliefs, I wasn't going to condemn her for it.

She condemned me. She broke up with me because she "couldn't share God" with me. Given the depth of her faith, i think it was a valid reason. Talk about a frustrating six months  Smile
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:28 pm

That sucks LHMark..No i'm not takeing her to the parade. It's to damn cold out and that boring. Just going to the mall and a movie today.

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:31 pm

(delivering the Worst Dating Advice Ever) Take her to the Hollywood Guitar Center. Chicks love that.
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:37 pm

I dunno i think she'd be bored. But i LOVE that store, it kicks ass, i bought a new Ibanez there last week

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:40 pm

My drummer worked in the drum dept.

Personally (and admittedly off-topic) I've been lusting after that black and white Gretsch Duo-Jet on the wall. I think it would complement my Rickenbacker nicely.
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sat Mar 17, 2001 11:52 pm

Thats a nice guitar.. I whanted to get a Jackson Dinky but they where all out so I whent for the Ibanez,nice guitar. My amp is a bitch do dial in though, my E string is so damn load that you can't hear any of the others.
Oh well i'll figure it out

Eric
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sun Mar 18, 2001 2:44 am

Eric, I refer you to my original advise. Give up on this one and go find someone else. It will be better for you both in the long run.
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sun Mar 18, 2001 4:57 am

Eric....stick with strummin your guitar and stroken your.....ummmm....you know. Life is much easier without having an annoying female telling you what to do all the time.
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sun Mar 18, 2001 5:04 am

I am a Christian...and took offense to what you said, b/c most of us are not brainwashed and crap... like the others said, i dont think she broke up with you only b/c of her being a Christian...it probably just complicated things more. Anyhoo.. on to my main point:

If incompatabilities show this early, it probably won't work out for the best in the long run. Theres other fish out there man... let's go fishing.

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Sun Mar 18, 2001 7:24 pm

I agree with Eric that your ex-gf was really stupid to believe all that crap and a bitch, thats why i'm an athiest.
 
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Mon Mar 19, 2001 12:18 am

I agree. It was better you're not together anymore. It probably would've just one worse. But don't blame the whole religion for it.

I, for example, am a christian, but my faith is as strong as a, well, can't make up anything here. Anyway, I go to church once a year (and that's only when we're forced to go with school) believe in Jesus, but I do not believe in God or any of those miracles Jesus did. I can't say I'm an atheist, or agnostic, but really not a believer too.

Actually, I'm those all three.  Smile

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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Mon Mar 19, 2001 12:27 am

Hey!

Inter-religion relationships can work! My dad is Jewish, my mom was a Catholic.
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RE: Christianity And Dateing Opposite Religion

Mon Mar 19, 2001 4:09 am

Religion shouldn't stand in love's way.
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