alright, i felt this deserved its own topic... this comes from the "shyness" post, here was someone's answer:
What you are suffering from is Social Anxiety Disorder, something I too struggle with. Thankfully, it is very treatable! I'm on Paxil, and it has done wonders for me. Just go to your doctor and psychiatrist and tell them the problem. They may also suggest counseling, which is never bad.
Drugs and counseling for SHYNESS??? give me a break!!! I spend most of my childhood being extrememly shy, total introvert.. my first "girlfriend" was when i was 12 and i couldnt even speak to her when she was at our house, i clammed up and didnt say a word, we just wrote letters. If thats not "social anxiety disorder" then what is??
my solution? around age 15 i had some serious family things that happend, deaths, etc... dont want to get into that, but i finally realized that hey, you only live once, and this is not the way i want to spend my life. So i started out small by making phone calls for doctors, dentist, etc.. appointments, instead of always having my dad or siblings do it for me... (keep in mind, i played sports my whole life, just never talked to anyone... and i was damn good too) something else i did, i actually went out with friends, instead of staying home on weekends...
another helpful thing with girls. You might think this is nuts, but a great way to lose *some* shyness w/ girls (your gonna laugh) but when your with friends driving around town, and you see a car full of chicks, holler at them!!! think about it, who cares if you look like a dope, they will never see you again most likely (if you sckrew up for sure) also my buddies and me went bowling, none of those girls there you will probably have to deal with, so go hit on em!! your friends will no doubt egg you on, go do it! its fun, its legal, and if you get rejected, big deal!! its not like you had a crush on the girl or anything... (never know either, you might just get something)
I can tell you PLENTY of ways drug-free to lose some shyness (im still a bit shy in some situations, i will admit the worst situation is hanging out with a group of someone ELSES friends that you dont know, except for one person.. you feel like you have to follow them around or something... dont do that!! but its hard not to)
Here is my point to this post, actually its a question... why have we become so dependent on drugs to solve our problems? if your too shy, take drugs, if your parents dont discipline you and you are out of control, take ritalin, if your in sports and dont have the time to work out hard and consistantly, take steroids or even creatine... etc.. (thats another topic completely)
Now quite honestly, im not saying some people dont need drugs for certain problems, in fact for a while in HS i used creatine. (did i need it? no) But what is beginning to scare me is how dependent everyone is becomming on drugs to solve thier problems. Personally i think its sheer laziness. Everyone wants a quick fix to thier troubles.
My uncle has been a doctor for 20 years and has told me that ADD (attention deficit disorder) is for all practical purposes a phantom disorder, and he has only one time ever prescribed ritalin to a patient. he calls it "adult disciplinary deficiency" Nearly 90% of kids today could be diagnosed with ADD by definition of the disorder....
whats that tell you??
Heres another point about that. Some kids arent "out of control" but just dont pay attention well, thier attention span is wack. They also get ritalin. "you cant control that, right?" Of course you can!! get your damn kids out from in front of the TV. Have you ever sat down and watched cartoons these days? talk about brainwash, its subtile, but TV is becoming the parents to all our kids, thats why they are mind-numb and cant pay attention in class and etc.... think about it, im not crazy here...
wow.. i've just opened up a whole new can of worms here, but the thing is, kids are most receptive to the world around them between the age of 3-8 thats the years we are neglecting them, they are learning everything we dont teach them... who do you want teaching your kids, you, or TV?
parents! cant control your kids? give em drugs and have them spend thier evenings watching TV, it will make your job easier.... (hint: you'll ruin em)