Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 12:02 pm

i have been friends with this girl for along time and i never really noticed how good looking she was until a few years ago. if i did not know her for such a long time i would ask her out but i am affraid to because it might destroy our relationship.but for like the last 8 months i havent been able to think about anything but her,i am going crazy.what should i do ask her out or not you tell me.
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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 12:21 pm

Hey, I had the same problem...being really good friends with a really good looking girl. In the end I did nothing about it, I don't know why. But she did know I liked her, which also made it a little easier. If I were you I wouldn't do anything, it is hard but I think if you are really good friends with her you shouldn't ruin that.

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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 12:47 pm

Well, you've got to be careful not to ruin the friendship, but she might feel the same way about you. Who knows. Maybe you could just suggest that perhaps you all should date and see how she takes it? If she seems encouraging, then ask her out. If not, just be happy as friends. Do you know if she's seeing anybody or not?
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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 2:21 pm

I had the same problem awhile back. I really started to become curious about starting a relationship with one of my really good friends who is a great looking girl with an awesome personality. Hell I even took the girl to my senior prom. But I just realized after being such good friends for a long time, it would be very hard to start a romantic relationship with her. I pictured her feeling the same way too. I said nothing about it. For me it turned out for the best I didnt say anything. I am now with the most incredible girl! I think our relationship is working out great due to the fact that there is still some mystery about one another. I know that in a good relationship, you must be great friends with your partner. I feel its better to become great friends in time and be a couple, instead of being great friends and then become a couple. There is my take on it. A great friendship is put on the line in your situation. it could either work out for the best, for the worst, or maybe not affect it in anyway. the choice is yours. just be confident in what you choose. best of luck!

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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 4:27 pm


I don't know what you should do, it's up to you and what you think is best since you do know her better than us. Sounds like you've known each other for a while, do you know her patterns? I say that without thinking myself, I figure if you know her well enough she might somehow think of you less than a brother and more like a new kind of friend, one that may have further developments, know what I mean?

I've sorta been through this before, except I knew she was pretty from the very start, a friend told me you don't know until you try, I wish I didn't.

One thing for certain, girls aren't stupid, for all you know she is very well aware that you may have got feelings for her. She may wonder why you haven't said anything or hope that you wont -- that depend on what kind of friend you are to her.

Think about this, or try to even if it hurts: Imagine what it would be like if you told her and nothing worked out and you weren't friends anymore, not that that would happen, but unless you really know her, you got to prepare yourself for anything.

Don't do anything now, yeah it's been 8 months, just think if you decided to tell her at that moment, it probably would have been bad. Give it some time. If you really want to do something, though I would suggest it unless you think she wouldn't mind, flirt. Smile and look into her eyes more, be more kind, be there for her, talk to her. If you say a bunch of "uh's" or stutter then she's got you figured out.

This is all I can say now, I'll just end up thinking about my problems and end up giving you a biased response.
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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 5:15 pm

If you have a friendship about something, say a similar interest or have the same friends, then I would suggest telling her your feelings. The similar freinds or interests will still be there if she doesn't feel the same way as you and that was (I presume) what the friendship was originally founded on. So it's not like you are going to lose the friendship in that case. Just don't take it to personal if you are rejected ( easier said than done, I know), just refocus your friendship back onto the original interests or friends and you will both be over it in no time. If she feel the same as you do, then you both win, just don't neglect the things your friendship was founded on, or it could be a short fling. Just go for it. And remember if you do have similar friends, still share that friendship together, don't get jealous and try and keep the friendship excluisively yours now that she likes you, that will kill the romance fast.
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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 6:41 pm

Dude. The best relationships start off just like yours. If she's a true friend I think she'll understand.
And by the way, if you want to know what'll destroy it - hiding stuff like that for too long is always a real kicker.

RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Tue Jan 22, 2002 9:40 pm

i have know her since i was 7 i am now 16 her and my family have gone are trips together because her dad worked for the same company as mine (once he was out of th air foce).i dont know what it is about her.and she has made it pretty obvious over the years that she likes me.i just cant decide what to do.
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RE: Good Friends With A Pretty Girl.

Wed Jan 23, 2002 1:43 am

well, geez you neglected to say that she likes you man! if that is the case, and you like her then it sounds like your situation may work out much better then alot of these type relationships would. You need to talk to her about it and get to the bottom of it and see how she feels and tell her how you feel and then go from there.

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