Matt D
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Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 4:36 am

"It's a thin line between love and hate".



That has been the subject of numerous discussions, movies, TV shows, and songs over the years.

I could not agree with that statement more.

It would seem that on the surface, it would be difficult to imagine feeling two such dissimilar emotions for a person, yet it seems to happen to so many people all the time.


Take this one girl, Michelle that I've talked about before.

I love her. Yet at the same time, I feel a boiling hatred towards her for...ironically....loving her. Perhaps that rancor comes about because she is out of reach.

Then there is my roommate and his girlfriend. He is the only guy I know that could probably have a black eye and a hickey at the same time. Those two seem to quarrell like cats and dogs quite frequently. Yet when they are not fighting, they are the happiest couple I've seen.

It seems as though they can't live with each other. yet at the same time, they can't stand to be apart either.

So what are some of your love/hate stories?

WHY do we sometimes grow to hate someone that deep down we love with all our heart?

 
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 4:41 am

In personal relationships hate is just love you can not have! The worst thing is if they just do not care.
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 5:03 am

I can honestly say that I don't hate anyone, as a matter of fact, I can't remember the last time I hated anyone, especially anyone I loved.

I really believe hating someone you love is a result of not accepting them for who they really are. The frustration you feel from wanting to change them, and probably not being able to do so, is what fuels our hatred.

If you truly love someone, then that love should be given freely and unconditionally, without wanting anything in return, and while accepting them for who they really are and who they are not. Otherwise, that's not love, and you're only fooling yourself.
 
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 7:06 am

Matt D. I had no idea one could have such strong feelings for a woman they have to blow up.  Confused
 
Matt D
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 7:08 am

KROC:

Don't make me want to hunt you down.
 
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 7:10 am

*Yawn*. Are you gonna try and "blow" me up too?
 
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 7:27 am

Hepkat - I do not hate anyone either. There used to be a couple people I disliked, however the day before I moved back to the UK I called them up and had a chat. All was call after that!
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RE: Love-Hate Situations

Tue Feb 05, 2002 10:32 am

I think sometimes the hate is a defense mechanism for dealing with the fact that that person doesn't love you back. It's too painful any other way. You hate them for the way they make you feel about yourself and I guess deep down you are really just hating yourself. If someone truly loves you, you won't have to do anything, change yourself, etc. They will just love you for what you are. However, sometimes it's just very hard to accept that the person you want doesn't want you back. In the long run though, I can look back and honestly say that anyone I've felt this way for I am now much better off without. Things have a way of working themselves out. You just have to remember that.

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