First of all, you COMPLETELY missed the "least enlightened" comment. If you'll read it again, I was referring to the person or persons who would inflict ostracism on the child of a gay household, not on someone holding an opinion that it was wrong. I doubt very much you're defending bullies and jerks who would give s*it to a kid, so I'll just assumed you misread what I was saying.
Now, on to your points:
I know people being raised by lesbians, and it gives them a very rough time, but surprisingly, no one makes fun of them.
Why is that a surprise?
However, they themselves don't feel at ease with the situation, and they are clearly lacking (just as children of divorced parents do) the influence of a father.
What exactly is a clear symptom of "lacking a father"?
It is scientifically proven that there are gender specific abilities required by both parents to influence a child into healthy development.
Ergo all children from husband-wife environments are developed healthy, and all who aren't....aren't? Sorry, the math just doesn't add up. And I heap doubt on the phrase "scientifically proven". At one time science proved the Earth was Flat.
It is ludicrous to claim that gay parents "have the right" to raise children.
Actually, I didn't make that claim...but I will. Why is it ludicrous? I'll take a stab at the idea that your comment is less about "rights" and more about your disgust with the people who remind you they do, in fact, have them.
the family structure necessary to raise a well developed child.
I see. Who does? Straight people? Is there a book somewhere or a manual called 'How to raise the perfect kid?' Who wrote it? Does it work?
Often it seems that people, not just those who are gay, want children as a prize, rather than out of a sacrificial love
Here's where I agree with you. How many married couples have had babies in an effort to salvage a bad marraige, hoping the kid will redirect focus? I know of several in my life. Do they work? More often than not, no.
But let's revert to the original topic. Rosie O'Donnell , who has a talk show popular enough that any production company would renew tommorow, has said it's over. Why? The kids. If that isn't sacrifice, tell me something that is.
I agree that a screening process is needed to determine if someone is adopting a child to satisfy an interest in conflict with that child's needs. But being gay shouldn't automatically be on the list of negatives.
Luft, you're dealing in strongly held beliefs rooted in a system that, statistically, isn't that strong. And you're demanding respect of family scenarios that just don't happen with the finality you imply....happy, healthy well developed kids DO come out of upbringings that aren't traditional. And...screwed up kids DO come out of smile-a-day Brady Bunch homes.
I wouldn't suggest revising many of your opinions in the benefits of traditional family mores and principles. I would suggest giving thought to who is capable of implementing those values.