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Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 3:47 am

You know, a friend and I were discussing this earlier and I'm sure some people here must empathize - we just can't work out why it is we're still single. I don't have relationships; I have a series of unsatisfying flings.

I'm not fat ( not like 300 pounds or anything ), I'm not facially inept ( far from being Cindy Crawford, but I'm working on it;-]), I dress nicely, I work out, I'm polite to people. I don't smoke, I shower daily, I'm solvent. So, what is it ? Why is it I have now been single for well over a year ?

I'm quite perplexed. There may be a huge personality flaw that is immediately apparent to everyone else but me, or maybe I really do have two heads. It's lost on me - who else sympathises with being left indoors at weekends to watch movies, drink a bottle of wine and bemoan your single status ?

 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 4:04 am

Shit happens. You have no idea how often I've had to cheer up other people like this. Being a couple isn't the be all and end all of life. You've got to be happy with what you have, not with what you could have. You've probably got a great personality and you're attractive, that doesn't nessecarily mean a thing. Sometimes the ugly ones get people and the cute ones don't, it's the way of the world.
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 4:41 am

I don't normally go around quoting Pet Shop Boys lyrics (I mean..who does??), but they got this right;

"Just what you least expected, just when least expect"

The trick is getting used to not expecting anything. And when you do meet somebody, it feels like being thwacked over the head by a 2 x 4..er..in a good way.

Yep. Gonna quit this advice-giving lark while I'm ahead.  Big grin


 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 4:45 am

Oh, I'm not terribly depressed about it - my time is pretty much consumed with work, and planning a move to the States next year for my degree :-] But it'd be nice to meet someone to hang out with, do regular stuff with ... nothing serious though, goodness, I am off that after the last experience ...

I'm just bitter because my friends are gay men who seem to have everything ... and the people I do meet, well, I'm not that desperate .... I seem to attract people that I'm wildly incompatible with or flat out dislike ....

 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 4:51 am

no idea, i had sex last night.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 4:56 am

It's lost on me - who else sympathises with being left indoors at weekends to watch movies, drink a bottle of wine and bemoan your single status ?

Left indoors?

I believe that's a big part of your problem!

WHO left you indoors? Your "friends"? Nice friends, if that's the case (j/k).

Even if I, as a male, have a different view of the world around us, I can tell you that you future partner would probably not be ringing at your doorbell, or call at your phone when you're staring at it!

Just because this person don't even know about your existence!!

This is probably tougher for a female, but the best advice I can give you is to go out! To the Bar, Disco or whatever, but DO NO JUST SIT INDOORS!

The solution is to be active!

YOU take the first step, approach a guy that you think's look nice.

It's really, really tough, I know!

But I also know, as a guy, that a girl who has the guts to do such a thing is REALLY impressing at me!

The worst, possible, thing that could happen, is that your "object" give the word "no" as an answer.
But it's more likely that the answer is a "yes" and a big smile, just because he feels so flattered to have been chosen...

...why not give it a try tonite, after all it's Friday...  Big grin

...good luck...

...Johan...
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 5:14 am

Barcode wrote...I'm just bitter because my friends are gay men who seem to have everything ... and the people I do meet, well, I'm not that desperate .... I seem to attract people that I'm wildly incompatible with or flat out dislike ....


If I could offer one piece of advice it would be to spend a little time thinking about what you really want, what sort of a person, what sort of interests, and why you want them.

I went through a lot of "flingy" relationships that while I suppose were physically satisfying, there were not anything else.

I remember on March 27th of 2000, I was visiting my sister in London, and I had just split with another woman that I felt totally bored with, and I said to my sister, why can't I meet someone that loves to travel, isn't so toy-boy that she thinks she is a man (I love a strong woman, but some softness is wonderful too), and is into going to see Concerts (I am addicted to Sting concerts, saw about 50 in the last 2 years)...any ways, I went that night to see Sting again at the Albert Hall, met my current 'sting daft' girlfriend, who has accompanied me to about 40 shows in the last 2 years, is a total gadget freak like me, and loves to travel.... . It was an added bonus that she works for Continental and that we now fly free all over the world more or less every week.

Like anything in life, try to be clear with what you want, I have dated plenty of model types that look great, but that doesnt make them fun to hang out with... although some obviously were.

I suppose the joke about a forced mating of Stephen Hawking and Elle McPherson applies here.

In a bid to make a superchild that has the brain of Hawking and the looks of Elle, scientists talked of a forced mating...but Hawking said that in all likelihood, we will end up with a woman that looks like Hawking and a brain of Elle McPherson......

Last but not least, getting happy with you will make you more attractive to others....

Keep smiling

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 5:17 am

The fact that you're interested in Star Trek,X Files, Science Fiction and Astronomy (as per your profile) may have something to do with it....
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 5:22 am

TNNH can get laid, so can you.
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 5:25 am

... and this is coming from someone into planes as a hobby *chortle*

JoHan, I do try and get out - and it's another female I'm looking for ;-] It's just that on the gay scene many lesbians look like they belong on an oil rig. Then there's the feminine model types who seem to be way out of my league, and I'll just stutter and mumble inanities on the occasions I have been approached ... I need to get over that.

I'm relatively happy with myself. I don't have huge expectations of others - obviously, I'd like someone intelligent and good looking ... but so would everyone. As long as they don't look like they've been involved in therapy with a toilet brush, then I'll take a second look ....

It'd be nice to meet someone into the same things as I am. I've actually had someone come to my apartment and make their excuses when they noticed my Star Trek collection. I admit, I do have some " geeky " interests ... but I'm not prepared to give up the things I enjoy because it may put someone else off ....

Somebody who loves to travel as well would be great, since I like to get away at least once a month. I've never understood people who think they can see the world from an armchair ...
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 5:28 am

Way to be sympathetic TWA. You got banned? I can't possibly imagine how that would have happened, lol...

Barcode,

Cheer up sweety. Don't worry about what to expect or not. Sometimes the problem isn't that, but that you may just be looking in the wrong direction. I used to think I would never meet the right man. Then one day I realized that I was right, and started seeing women instead. It was a world of difference. I was treated legues better, I waas never stood up, or handed lame excuses about anything, and frankly, if not for the actual sex with other women (not a bad thing, but it can be immensly unsatisfying at times, kind of like taking a warm bath instead of hitting the spa pool), I'd be more commited to the lifestyle. I guess what I am saying is that I can see that you are between 21-25yrs old. You are probably sick of hearing it, but babe, you have no idea where your life will take you in the next few years (I certainly didn't when I was that age!!!), and the surprises can be just wonderful. Take care & Best of Luck!


PS, If it makes you feel any better Cindy Crawford never got me wet anyways. Never understimate the appeal of a natural look!
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 1:58 pm

A whole year? I really don't mean to be cruel but that is a very short time. I was single and not dating anyone at all, yes that means sex, for almost 7 years before I met my current love. She was worth the wait.
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 2:02 pm

I'd do ya honey...no troubles.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 2:14 pm

I'll pass - " do ya " - do you use expressions like " shagging me bird " as well ? ;-]

SilverAngel, I have never ever slept with a male so don't wish to pass judgement on the opposite sex. I have however met an awful lot of men who suggest that if I slept with them, I'd never look at my Jodie Foster posters ever again ;-]

And seven years ? Were you occupied in between IMISSPIEDMONT ? I'm quite happy with my job, social life and friends. It's just at this point I'm starting to become a little paranoid about matters ....

I'm not into one night stands, meeting people in clubs, or dating someone when they don't engage me on an intellectual/emotional level. So that pretty rules most people my age out. Guess I'll have to hold out for a bit longer, and make do with watching my Jodie Foster movie collection and admiring the poster on my bedroom wall ....
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 5:36 pm

"""""Oh, I'm not terribly depressed about it - my time is pretty much consumed with work, and planning a move to the States next year for my degree :-] But it'd be nice to meet someone to hang out with, do regular stuff with ... nothing serious though, goodness, I am off that after the last experience ...

I'm just bitter because my friends are gay men who seem to have everything ... and the people I do meet, well, I'm not that desperate .... I seem to attract people that I'm wildly incompatible with or flat out dislike ....""""


Um Miss Barcode - I can recount the above but swap the gay men for gay women and you've got it honey!! Thats why you'll have it great in Sydney.

mb

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sat Aug 31, 2002 7:48 pm

Ummmmm. Well, for some its harder than others... It especially doesn't help you that, in your situations you have three options, a)The butchest woman you've ever seen, b)a porno movie star, or, c)someone very much like you.

The chances of you finding someone who isn't butch, or doesn't do porno's for a living, isn't as great as if say, you were in mb's position. Therefore, you should just keep your eyes open, try and find somewhere that you can find people that tend to be of the same sexual preference (you know, like a bar or something), but don't go out of your way to find someone if it means getting in the way of your education/living.

mm

I wish i wasn't so tired and maybe I could give you some good advice  Big grin
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 3:12 am

teeheehee, yes MX5BOY, we can go cruising the streets of Sydney in search of some action ... ;-]

EGGD - who said I was complaining about a porno movie star ;-] I do go to bars here in London, and that's how I've reached my assertion a lot of lesbians do fit the stereotype. I mean, if I wanted a man I wouldn't settle for an imitation in dungarees and doc martens - I'd go out and get the REAL thing !

Times are getting desperate, so I may have to revise that opinion somewhat ...
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 5:59 am

Barcode, my guess is you actually are a male (probably around 30 -40)
trying to pull everyones leg. If you really are a "25 year old girl" why don't
you just go out in the weekend instead of sitting home watching movies?
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 6:41 am

Exccuuuuseeeeeeeeee me ? I'm a 21 year old female, or at least I was the last time I bothered to check. Perhaps I don't like hanging around bars *every* weekend, or perhaps I'm actually working. Yes, it's Saturday night and I have to work.

Good god, perhaps I should post a photo to verify I am who I say I am ....

Quit the paranoia already.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 6:47 am

Ha, ha, Barcode. Well excuse me for saying 25 instead of 21 years old.
Yes, you could actually send a photo of yourself to me. Of course, just to
confirm your sex (please don't overdo the clothes thing. It makes it so much
harder to confirm that you're telling the truth).
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 6:51 am

Sort of a recent pic ( taken a few months ago ). I'm the one of the left ( obviously ).

http://www.acid-dreams.com/beltran.jpg
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:01 am

I'm sorry Barcode. I just now took the time to read thru the whole discussion
group. By the way, very nice photo. Never understood that you are gay.
So I guess the search for me goes on...what the heck, I'm only 50 years old.
If you convert, give me a call.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:17 am

Hey Barcode
FULL SUPPORT from this side!! If I have to hear one more person ask me "so, how's your love life?" Then I'm going to through myself into the 1st oncoming car. I can't even give a good replay to "how's your sex life?"
That scene from BJD-she walks into the dinner party with ALL the "smug married couples" sitting together...well, that's me honey!
And people who think us gay guys are just bonking ourselves into a coma, think again...I'm about to go straight...but that won't help!
Oh well...
take care
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:20 am

anybody have any idea of what SA-JET is talking about?
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:24 am

Janne, its 00h30 down here, right now I don't even know what I'm talking about!  Smile
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:33 am

SA-JET. Right on baby. I'm hitting the sack myself.
Barcode, if you really are what you say (a girl that is), give some response
to this shit (shit=an intellectual conversation between educated people).

 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:41 am

Barcode -gosh darnit!

Everytime I see a picture of you, you look like a different person, and this time you've gone one stop further, and changed colour too!!!
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:45 am

*is very perplexed* - I've always been a pasty looking individual of British origin.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 7:49 am

No chance of me converting. Although I did watch Dirty Dancing the other day and found myself admiring Patrick Swayze's muscles - does this make me bi ? Naaaaahhh. Surely not.

And what is " BJD " ?

Half of this probably comes from the fact I live with a smug gay couple. They've been together two years and now spend every night watching movies, munching popcorn and talking about their working day. How very lovey-dovey. Whereas there is me and my drunken encounters, snogs in darkened nightclubs and one night dates that remain just that - one night.

I'm quite sure if I converted to the other side I would experience no problem picking up a geeky looking bloke into Star Trek ... there's enough of them to go around ...
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 9:15 am

Barcode, I feel your pain, trust me. I often ask myself the same question. And it's not like I never get hit on either. I just don't find guys I'm really into. If I like a guy he'll either be gay, taken, an ass, or all three! I just try to have fun and do my thing and not worry about it. It does get hard though when you are always the single one. It seems like everyone else has a boyfriend or girlfriend just about. They all think I'm a weirdo because I don't. Hahah, and y'all talking about going straight, I talk about wanting to be gay because men drive me crazy. I guess it's that we figure it's easier on the other side, but it never is. Also, a lot of people in relationships aren't really even that happy. Think of it this way: we are not willing to settle for second best. A lot of the people I know who are in relationships just are afraid of being alone or stayed with the first person they could find. Here's something somebody told me recently when I was bitching about my lack of a boyfriend and how come I'm always the single girl?

"it is random chance my friend, just like quantum particale movement, wholly random but for the aspect of the obsever changing the outcome of the event by simply willing it to happen"

guess he meant it's just up to fate. sometimes that really sucks though.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 11:51 am

Doomed? I'd say we're the luckiest group of men and women around. I love my freedom and have do desire for a long term relationship. Being single is bliss.
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Sun Sep 01, 2002 1:03 pm

Restless soul, enjoy your youth.

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Mon Sep 02, 2002 1:06 pm

Guys,

I just split with someone who was driving me insane with his hanger on friends (inlcuding the ex who has a set of keys to the house and turns up unnanounced).

It's equally as difficult to find someone in the 25-35 age bracket that isn't on anti - depressants, addicted to gambling / alcohol, isn't violent or affected by violence - who's the average boy next door type.

Gay guys have it bad. And anyone who thinks we're sex crazed party machines think again.

Single again.

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Tue Sep 03, 2002 4:51 pm

Mx5_Boy: My worst vice is I smoke. I don't drink, I don't hit, I don't even take aspirin! Wanna go to the zoo sometime?  Smile

Anyway......

I agree with Bicostal. You are free! Enjoy life! I just went to visit my nephews that live 250 miles away. I went alone. Do you think I could have done that with my 10 pair of shoes (I have to!) 2 BIG bags of clothes, hair care products, face scrub, jewelry, etc. AND someone else's stuff? Plus I got to visit what I wanted when I wanted and listened to my CDs the whole time!

But I could have made room for Billy Mays..... Big grin
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Tue Sep 03, 2002 6:04 pm

Let me explain my case...

I'm a straight 26 years-old man, and in my whole live I had only a girlfriend for a few moths, but if I was gay (I had my doubts, but no chance...) I could be with a different one every weekend if I wanted... yes, men like me, not women, what to do? I don't know... Sometimes when I'm in a Disco with my friends, I told them, "this place is full of gays" , but my friends don't see anyone, why? because all them are looking at me!. anyway I feel happy to be liked by someone, sorry I can't correspond...

Regards,

Miquel.

P.D. Sorry for my poor english! I supose I explained myself clearly enough.
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Tue Sep 03, 2002 6:10 pm

Mx5_Boy >
you've just described me.
25, no smoking, always sensible when drinking (hey, I've got to drive home afterwards !), not on antidepressants, non violent...
Only problem for you, I'm straight.
However, I'm beginning to be pissed off of my singleness.

Yep, Barcode, I totally agree with you, we seem doomed to remain single.
And this sentiment increased a few weeks ago at my bro's wedding when I became the last bachelor in the family. But I have faith in fate. 'She' is waiting for me somewhere, and we'll meet one day. After all, if you can hit on with Chakotay, why couldn't I find Seven ?
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Tue Sep 03, 2002 9:39 pm

The reason I think many of us (including me *sniff sniff*) are doomed to remain single is because we like a our own space too much (this would be me).

I must admit I have never been involved but I have been on the verge of a relationship. The only thing that stopped me is that the guy wanted a relationship that would last forever...and right now I'm not in the mood for 500-year long relationships.

I also know some single people whom are single because they are such perfectionists - they will not lower their standards or expections of someone who really does love them with all their heart and soul. Instead they want total dickheads who are disrespectful and who are players.

BTW...my darling SA-JET I understood every word you said! Big grin And don't you dare go straight because I'll come down there en ek sal vir jou 'n blerrie harde klap gee! Big grin

BJD is Bridget Jones's Diary...a book everyone should read if they think they are destined to remain single.

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Wed Sep 04, 2002 5:21 am

I have been single a long time, I have never really got into a serious relationship. Of course, I was doing things bass ackwards. When I was in college, when I should have been dating around, I got obsessed with finding the one and settling down with her, which really bit me in the butt a few times too many. I actually let the woman I should have gotten involved with slip by, all because I was obsessed with a girl a couldn't have. I had even made myself determined to get married no later than my 25th birthday. This cycle ended about two years ago, on my 25th birthday. By this time, something inside me just finally clicked. Soon there after, I became the way I should have been when I was 18, wanting to date around and have fun. I actually have enjoyed being single because I don't have the problems that come with being in a relationship. For years now, many of my friends came to me for relationship advice whenever they had problems, and I found it ironic that I could help these folks out with their love lifes, yet I couldn't get a handle on my own. I know about 4 folks that had been engaged but broke up, and that many that got married and are now divorced. I think the one thing that motivates me is that I don't want to end up like my parents, married for 9 years, then divorced. Divorce is an expensive consequence when you find out that your spouse is not "the one". I am the only member of my family that is single, and you know what, I LOVE IT! Although I am getting tired of my grandparents asking me when am I going to bring someone for dinner? Of course, in the past, I didn't want to bring around the girls I tended to date, which were strippers, a phase that I have passed. I have gone off a few time lately with a girl I used to work with, but I really didn't consider it a date, at least not in the romantic sense. We are all not doomed to being singletons our whole lives, it just takes time for some of us to finally find what we're looking for.
 
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Thu Sep 05, 2002 2:05 pm

mx5_boy, I have a few male gay friends and I can sympathize. It is hard for them to really find a decent person to have a relationship with. Yeah, it's easy to go have sex in the park, but if you want a mature emotionally fulfilling relationship it's not that easy.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 12:13 am

I'm not into one night stands, meeting people in clubs, or dating someone when they don't engage me on an intellectual/emotional level. So that pretty rules most people my age out. Guess I'll have to hold out for a bit longer, and make do with watching my Jodie Foster movie collection and admiring the poster on my bedroom wall ....

Well, I'm not into casual sex and I am pretty smart (1st class degree) whilst still being fairly young (25). However I'm married, but I'll keep you on my waiting list in case this marriage doesn't work out! Big grin
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 4:15 am

^ Well that makes me feel warm and fluffy inside :-]
 
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Fri Sep 06, 2002 7:39 am

I'm scared...I'm a nineteen year old college student, who has recently thought to himself that being single isnt all its cracked up to be. I havent had a girlfriend while in college yet, and had quite a few in high-school. Am I getting old?!? I've had the casual fling or two at college, its almost like its not as fulfilling as it used to be. But at the same time chugging beers and getting drunk with my pals is still fun (something that takes place less with a girlfriend), same with going to a nudy bar (something that never takes place with a girlfriend). Its just too weird, I'm 19, and yet I think I'm ready to jump into a long term relationship....ughh!
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Fri Sep 06, 2002 7:43 am

You're getting old.

SophieMaltese: Well, if you ever change sides ... ;-]

No, seriously ... you should be able to spot the gay guys by their impeccable dress sense, perfectly coiffed hair and mannerisms. Honestly, gay guys are often better turned out than straights - it's a little embarassing that my flatmates have more beauty products than me for instance ...

Perhaps MX5BOY can give you tips on this ... how to distinguish the straight dude from the poof ...

 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 8:57 am

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 8:58 am

Bah. What can a Superfly do that my vibrator can't ? Answers by e mail please. Wouldn't want to offend any other members here.
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 9:26 am

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 10:07 am

Barcode,

All those beauty products that gay guys use?

Well I for one am not quite as bad as you describe but I think many gay guys are seriously paranoid about being OLD & GAY.

The search for a non-demented, non-alcoholic, non-gambling, non-violent husband continues.....

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 10:12 am

Have you tried avoiding the clubs and going to events like ... uhmmmm ... dinner parties ? Perhaps we can try and appear respectable and try to find each other a suitable dating partner when I make it to the land down under ...

And yes: Gay guys are forever complaining about their weight, their abs ( or lack of 'em ), their hair - my flatmate spends 45 minutes to gel his hair most days ... and it looks no different without it .... totally bizarre ...

I don't think I'd make a very good gay guy ... I'd be perpetually neurotic ...
 
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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 10:40 am

Barcode,

45 minutes to do his hair? I would spend maybe a minute.

I rarely do the clubs, not my scene. Guess I am what you call non-scene type gay guy.

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Anyhow, my problem isn't a lack of dates or guys to go out with, more the quality!!

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RE: Why Is It Some Of Us Are Doomed To Remain Single?

Fri Sep 06, 2002 11:51 am

Mx5_boy,

I think we need to take Barcode for an arvo of sly groggin' when she hits Sin City with that other 'girlfriend' of ours from A.Net. We can hit the bright lights of Newtown then back to Stanmore and go to the local Pub where we can sly grog, gossip and watch the 747s fly overhead (the beer garden opens early October). It's a funky, very local pub that attracts its fair share of gay men and women. Though I doubt Barcode would be interested in the women as they tend to bus drivers, mechanics and generally blue collar (not that I am snobby).

What you reckon Barcode??????

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