First of all, once again, "Christian" has become a dirty word. Can we please look past Christianity and it's worst examples and have a bit of common sense.
Yes, there are a lot of Christians with bad attitudes, bigoted viewpoints, weird ideas etc. In fact show me a religion where their aren't. I'm as daft and bad as the next guy, that's why I need Jesus. Yes it's a crutch, but what's a better crutch? Everyone has one!
I've heard it quoted that the worst thing about church is that it's full of people. People get things wrong. Every Christian is (or should me) on a journey, 'cause we don't know all the answers, we don't think that WE
are right about everything, we just believe that GOD is.
Yes, Jesus, would be hanging out in San Francisco, Brighton, Soho etc because He passionately loves everybody enough to put aside his own divinity and share the experience of man in the body of a 30 year old Palestinian Jew.
It's clear that He regarded the old Testament (torah) as the word of God and quoted from it regularly. In fact He said that He didn't come to discard the law, he came to fulfill it. In other words, the law still stands, but as we can't meet the standard, He does it for us and, if you like, represents us to God as clean, regardless of race, age, political viewpoint, sexuality, if we choose to follow Him. Then the rest is up to Him. Because we were created with free will and God regards our love as the greatest treasure in the universe, if we give it to Him voluntarily, not because He forced it.
Jesus message, simply boils down to, whether we accept His offer of reconciliation to God or not, after our ancestors told God to get stuffed because we're big enough and ugly enough to look after ourselves (hence the mess we're in).
The heaven / hell issue is simply do you want to be with God or not. As we're designed to be in communion with God (why we worship something even if we claim not to) Hell is the worst thing a human could go to. God isn't cruel by sending people to Hell, it's up to us what road we walk down, it's our choice, our responsibility, as is the state of our society. We made our bed etc.
The issue with sexuality is that God designed us to be a certain way and instructed us on the best way to live, because whether you believe it or not God talks a lot of common sense. Even down to things like cleaning mildew of tents in the old testament, teaching on hygiene to stop germs (which were unknown until the 18th Century) and basically how to survive as a species 3000 years ago. But we've got the same types of bodies and emotions and spirits that they had then. It's not a question of being better or worse than the next guy, it's whether you believe knows what he's talking about or not.
With regard to marriage God considers it to be the joining of a male and female as one, spiritually. Jesus did quote the passage from Genesis where it says, He created them Male & Female etc.It's the way (if you believe it) that we were designed. I don't believe that God condemns for the sake of it, He's (I believe) a very passionate defender of mankind who comes to us even when we've rejected Him for thousands of years. He just wants what's best for us, but it seems we often know better!
Apologies if this is preachy, I just wanted to lay my cards on the table because I'm getting annoyed at the misconceptions about Christianity that keeping coming up.