tbar220
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Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 4:01 pm

How long did you wait before you asked your girlfriend or "significant other" to marry you while you were dating?
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sebolino
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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 5:47 pm

Hmmmm ...
I'm with her for 12 years, we have 2 kids, and still not married ...  Big grin
 
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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 6:17 pm

She's been waiting 11 years (Monday) for me to ask her! It went the other way around (she asked me) and we had been together for 5 years (on and off) before she did!

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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 9:23 pm

Not yet married but will be on July 19. My fiancee and I dated for 4 years before I propose.
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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 10:41 pm

Which one? My first wife and I were young (too young) and we didn't wait that long at all. My current wife (married 15 years this July) I dated for about a year before I asked her, and waited another year after that to actually get married.
 
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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 11:46 pm

It was a little over two years for me and my girl. Best decision I ever made. And BTW, be ready for major league horizontal action the evening you do pop the question!
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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jun 27, 2003 11:51 pm

5 yrs , look for good a location, it sticks ...
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RE: Question For You Married People

Sat Jun 28, 2003 12:11 am

Even though I'm divorced, I knew my ex-wife for a year and a half or so before we got married. May not have been the worst decision I have ever made, but I can't share Stretch's enthusiasm.  Big grin
 
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RE: Question For You Married People

Sat Jun 28, 2003 5:07 am

We dated 9 months before I proposed to her (Woldenberg Park on the riverfront for the locals). We've been married a little over 9 years, and have two great daughters (4 1/2 and almost 2)!!!

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RE: Question For You Married People

Sat Jun 28, 2003 8:11 am

4 years, 362 days (Seriously).....now the 'fianceeship' is lasting about 1.5 years.

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RE: Question For You Married People

Sat Jun 28, 2003 8:56 am

We celebrated our 5 year aniversary this past February.....out of those 5 years this next August will be our 3rd aniversary of living toghether...........not married and with no kids.....and no plans for neither in the short medium term.

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RE: Question For You Married People

Mon Jun 30, 2003 4:57 am

11 months...
She was a single mother, her son called me "papi"...
So... I asked her "would you like to be my wife...?"
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RE: Question For You Married People

Mon Jun 30, 2003 8:18 am

We went together 5 months and she asked me! They said it would never last. 46 years,3 kids, and 10 grandchildren later we are still together. I guess it doesn't matter how long you date you just have to be lucky and get the right one!
 
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RE: Question For You Married People

Mon Jun 30, 2003 11:16 am

3yrs.
2yrs engaged
5 yrs married with 2 kids. 2 cars, and a mortgage....
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RE: Question For You Married People

Mon Jun 30, 2003 11:20 am

B747ca- "5 years married with 2 kids. 2 cars, and a mortgage...
it seems like you would say and a partridge in a pear tree after that sentence!  Smile/happy/getting dizzy
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RE: Question For You Married People

Mon Jun 30, 2003 8:19 pm

1 year, decided to live together,
3 years after, she was p1ssed off I haven't asked her, so I did...
9 months before the wedding, she thought she can go and do some last minute male shopping before the wedding! 1yr after fianceeship... I threw her out of my house! *literally*

Guess she didn't know me well enough !

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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 12:02 am

We dated 10 months before I proposed, and then got married 10 months later. We've been married 8 years tomorrow with a 1-year-old boy.
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 2:06 am

Thanks for the responses guys. I guess I can put this all here because the lady doesn't even know this website exists, so I can ask for your advice about this here. Well, here goes.

Ok, we've been together since last November, but I honestly felt I've hit a true gem. I've actually known her since I was 12 years old, and we've always been friends. One part of me wants to go ahead with this, but another part of me is saying "Are you sure this is a good idea?" I'm only 20 and still in school. In August, I'll be going back to school in IL and she'll be in CA. Lastly, as much as I want it, its quite an unnerving thought, if that's a good word for it.

Any advice?
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 2:21 am

Long distance relationships are VERY hard, but are very doable. The fact you have known her for so long, and have been at least friends works well into your favor. As for being only 20, and still in school, you need to make sure that finishing school is your top priority, no matter what you and her decide. Unnerving thought......welcome to the world of a serious relationship going to the top level. Do yourself a favor, and try and talk to your girl about this as well. At least hint around and get her to talk about such things and try and guage her stance on things as well. That might help you out in deciding what is right for you.
 
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 2:41 am

Hi Tbar
If she's up for it, go for it man.
I'm so sick of hearing people say "too young, too young", as though you have to be like 40 before you can get married. Isa yif you're rellay sure you want this, and she'll want it too, then the younger the better. It just gives you more time to spend together, and if you have kids, then they'll have younger, healthier parents for a longer time. And you will have the principal source of anxiety for men in our age group taken care of for good.  Smile
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 3:00 am

One caveat - if you haven't got the "party" out of you by 20, then don't get married. I was about 22 when I first got married, my wife was 20. It was too young. I wouldn't recommend getting married until you are more established in life - financially (oh how important this is) and emotionally. Getting married at 20, having kids, and getting divorced at 25 only means that your kids will be able to shuttle back and forth between a young couple and stepparents. A marriage takes two people...and getting married at 20 may take care of the principal source of anxiety for men in your age group, but ask anyone in their 30's and 40's how stressful things like "alimony" and "child support" compare.
 
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Tue Jul 01, 2003 3:25 am

Goingboeing brings up a good point. I was married at 18 my wife at 19. I was set, she didn't have the "party" out. At 26 I finally divorced her. Something there you really need to be sure about.

But like Leloup....I do not buy for one second "too young this...to young that".
 
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 6:31 am

I am in a long distance relationship during the school year. I am in Ohio and my gf is in DFW. It can work. You need a lot of trust, and a lot of phone calls. If you love her enough and she loves you enough it can work. I did it for 1 year already, and it went by suprsingly fast. Don't listen to the doubters.
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tbar220
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 11:21 am

Yea, we already did the long distance relationship for some five months, so we know what that's like. Also, I'm not really a big "partier" myself, if I'm on the same wavelength as you guys. The hardest thing for me to figure out, how do I bring this up with her, how can I hint at it? I want to gauge what she thinks about it without being too obvious. Any ideas?

As for school, I would definitely finish school first and get a job before I were to get married.

Thanks for all the responses.
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 12:01 pm

Mandala499-excellent! I am so gald you kiclked her to the curb! No one should stand for that crap! Rock on.

Boeing757/767- congrats and happy anniversary!

Tbar, good idea to finish school. But definitely sow your wild oats before you latch onto the one. Otherwise, you'll be unhappy with your BMW everytime you see a new Mercedes leave the lot. Get my drift?
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RE: Question For You Married People

Tue Jul 01, 2003 5:01 pm

Maybe I should write in the "beware of the arse licking woman" thread ! Hehehehe

But yes, finish school ! Sometimes, relationships can go sour once both of you finish school and start working! She couldn't hack it, cheated, and got herself a boot in her face!

If you want to marry her, finish school first ! *that's a nice incentive to finish your education quickly!*

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tbar220
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RE: Question For You Married People

Thu Jul 03, 2003 6:24 pm

I definitely intend to finish school before I get married, but is it still appropriate for me to ask her?

And also, how can I bring it up with her without being too direct, so that I can gauge her thoughts on it?
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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jul 04, 2003 6:51 pm

I knew my wife since we were about 5 years old. We started dating when we were both about 16 and maintained a very long distance relationship for years and years after that. I proposed about 2 years ago. 3 months later we were married. Best decision I ever made.

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RE: Question For You Married People

Fri Jul 04, 2003 7:07 pm

I knew my wife 5 years before we got married. Plenty of time to decide in my opinion.

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