mirrodie
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Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 1:05 am

Had an interesting conversation recently and was wondering what the opinions were here from the marriedor divorced folk.


Does sexual activity dimishing after marraige?

After kids??

If so, why? If not, why not?

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 1:10 am

Yes.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 1:23 am


Mirrodie
Yes after marriage, yes after kids. It does not happen with all couples, but a high percentage of couples. Sometimes it is the man and sometimes it is the woman.

Wait a minute, you are getting married soon, you are not getting cold feet are you? Don't worry, just take a picture of her vagina, this time next year, you may not see it again.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 2:53 am

Inevitably, as life's other pressures and worries intrude.

Old joke goes something like this:

Place a bean in a jar every time you "git busy" during the first year of marriage; thereafter, take a bean out each time. Legend is, you'll never empty the jar.

I don't think that one holds up for me, but I have been married for 20 years, too.

There is a lot more to marriage and relationships than sex... but it shouldn't disappear, either. Biggest challenge is maintaining the magic after kids arrive, less sleep, less privacy, and more.

Trips away from the kids are vital. Rewards of a well-balanced relationship are many.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 2:57 am

I am sure that Britney Spears is in a better position to answer that question.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 3:47 am

Midnight, didn't you write a book on the subject matter? LOL  Big thumbs up

funny i don;t have any expectations but its always interesting to hear perspectives.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 4:13 am

No, No, No -- I disagree..........the frequency may drop slightly but the intensity and length of time you are actually involved in the act increases..........= longer/better quality sex....and for some...just as often.........

Thats just my 2 cents!

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 5:43 am


One of the major reasons for divorce is sex, then money, pretty interesting.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 5:55 am

My divorce lawyer friends tell me that sex for money tends to really ice the deal!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 5:57 am

Actually, ours has increased, especially in the last 3 or 4 years. Now that our kids are a little older, we're trying to take more time for ourselves. Although during the holidays, we don't get much time for it because my wife works almost every day from two weeks before Thanksgiving untill a week after New Years.

But our cruise in 2 weeks will solve that.  Big thumbs up
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 6:10 am

Motion of the ocean...eh Alpha?

Where you folks headed?

My buddy's wife is preagnant...he hasn't had ANY in a long time...been putting his DSL connection to good use.  Smile

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 6:13 am

We're going Miami-Key West-Cozumel-Miami. Some R&R after the holidays is one of our traditions, usually on a cruise or just going somewhere warm.  Smile
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 10:57 am

Color me green with envy...have fun and stay safe.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 11:04 am

Alpha1:
But our cruise in 2 weeks will solve that.

Ah, a week of peace.  Smile




Mirrodie:
Congrats on getting married. You sound pretty serious about tieing the knot.



Vaporlock:
No, No, No -- I disagree..........the frequency may drop slightly but the intensity and length of time you are actually involved in the act increases..........= longer/better quality sex....and for some...just as often.........


you are a woman. Are you just saying that so guys will continue to get con-ed in to marrage?  Laugh out loud



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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 11:26 am

I'm never gonna get married, so help me.......

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 05, 2004 12:02 pm

My theory is, if you have a great level of communication, the sex (even though it's not to be viewed as the be-all and end-all in a marriage) will remain at a steady frequency. Reason I say this is, you're more apt to be intimate with a spouse when you're on good terms with each other. If you and your spouse are often on opposite sides of many issues, or if life's daily rigors get in the way and you and your spouse aren't able to effectively communicate as a means to deal with those issues, then, you're less likely to be intimate with that person. I believe it's important to find a partner with whom you are compatible on a mental and emotional level. Maturity plays a role in compatibility, too... Since many young 'uns (early 20s sort) are more akin to magpies. Therefore, communication isn't their strongest characteristic.
To me, this level of compatibility is required for proper and effective communication within a marriage. And since sex is a form of communication, the two go hand-in-hand.

Good luck!

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Tue Jan 06, 2004 8:36 am

Superfly, you beter believe I'm a woman........and what I said is exactly the way I feel.......I'm not trying to conn anyone into marriage!

As AWspicious said........sex is a form of communication.........the more you have in common the better the sex! Maturity definately makes a difference........and for some of us, believe it or not (females) we just enjoy all aspects of "SEX". Longer/Better quality sex = as often as possible!!  Big thumbs up

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Tue Jan 06, 2004 10:19 pm

I can tell you after just moving in with my boyfriend my sex drive has dropped. It makes ME mad too, but maybe it's just that when you have something right there you don't appreciate it as much. He also has a son that comes by on weekends and you can't even go in the bathroom for 2 minutes without him trying to come in. I learned this one the hard way when I was taking a shower and he just busted on in. I also have a VERY needy dog (the REAL Sophiemaltese).
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Tue Jan 06, 2004 10:33 pm

Maybe I should get married, that way I will have an actual excuse for not getting laid.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Tue Jan 06, 2004 11:56 pm

Hmm, my self-defense abilities are getting rusty. Maybe I should re-marry my ex.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Tue Jan 06, 2004 11:59 pm

Maybe you two, KROC and LHMark, should take this argument behind closed doors.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 12:06 am

 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 12:10 am

Alpha 1, seeing as you argue with about 80% of the members of this board, you shouldn't be throwing stones from your glass house.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 1:08 am

KROC, maybe you should be a little less uptight over a "signed" post.
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 1:35 am

Yeah, Alpha 1! Don't be so hard on Chuck Finley over there!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 2:25 am

Maybe you should follow your own advice Alpha 1.  Insane
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 3:53 am

After marriage, before marriage . . . it is all in the mind and about grabbing opportunity. I don't think it wanes after marriage. Actually, I know it doesn't wane after marriage.
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 4:07 am

Does it wane after marriage?

You have no idea.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 6:55 am


Don't worry Mirrodie, your hands will increase in size by the time you are in your 40's. Wait a minute, perhaps Mrs. Mirrodie will be the one complaining!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 7:04 am

After two years of marriage and two children - I haven't found the flames of my relationship with my wife waning at all.

Maybe it's because we are both relatively young - but my wife and I feel more in love as time goes by.

I think it's because my wife and I have always had a good rapport, we work hard and contribute to the household - so perhaps without that element of financial struggle it makes it a bit easier. But we married for love, we felt a connection and that connections has lasted.

Although this is retrospective, before getting married to a person use some common sense and ask yourself - can I live my entire life with this person?

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 9:02 am

SophieMaltese;
Don't let the kid's age fool ya - He knows exactly what he's doing (heh heh heh).

BTW - Now we know why you've been absent ;-]

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 9:04 am

Qantas, "2" years of marriage is still young, you should hear the guys I work with, some have been married for 20 years, 30 years. I asked one guy about sex & he looked it up on Google.com.



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Wed Jan 07, 2004 9:30 am

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 12:44 pm

Right, KROC. I've never met a "signed" post that has bothered me yet. I guess you just can't handle the high heat, partner.  Smile

And Midnight Mike, that's actually pretty funny shit, man.  Laugh out loud
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Wed Jan 07, 2004 1:19 pm


Twelve years of marriage (I think) and three kids later I have to agree with Vapolock: frequency has decreased (a lot in my case) but the quality of "the sessions" has improved and continues to do so.

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Thu Jan 08, 2004 5:00 am


According to Dr Laura, she said the secret to marriage is a great sex life, in fact she commented than men require sex, biological need and the women must learn to live with this. She also says that what the hell is wrong with orgams!

Alpha, glad you like that video! I laughed my arse when I first saw it!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marriage?

Thu Jan 08, 2004 5:13 am

MidnightMike,

Hilarious, Loved Antarctica and New Zealand!

Seriously, I have been remarried now for almost a year. My previous marriage was two good years, unfortunately, I was married for 12!!!!!!!!

My new wife and I are trying to have a baby, so right now sex is a necessity  Big thumbs up we are doing the whole temperature taking thing as she has had some problems in the past!

Rgds,

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Thu Jan 08, 2004 12:13 pm


777fan
Oh boy, after sex, does she raise her legs over her head or do a headstand? At least I saw that on a comedy? Start recording your actions, you know what is going to happen when she gets the positive result!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Thu Jan 08, 2004 12:48 pm

Mike, that sounds like you saw that on a sitcom, cuz it sounds strangely familiar.  Big grin

Loved the cartoon, esp. Australia and England. WTF!

What is the deal with those Swedes?

funny site.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Thu Jan 08, 2004 11:18 pm


Mirrodie
Hey! The Swedes know how to have a good time! I loved the Aussie one, nice to place the beer on her back. Still excited to get married dude? Years later you will be back here saying, "Geez, they were right." Just kidding, you are marrying a great gal!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Thu Jan 08, 2004 11:22 pm

MidnightMike,

It is somewhat true! My wife does not go to that extent, but upon completion.........she does not get up right away! But we have been trying for about 7-8 months, she is taking her temperature, charting her results to know when the best "time" is. Works out pretty good for me!  Big thumbs up
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Fri Jan 09, 2004 12:17 am

LOL, dude, any gal that can spend a whole day in the Alteon Flight simulators (over 7 hours worth!) is an AWESOME one!!

http://www.airliners.net/discussions/trip_reports/read.main/36490/


She was in the right seat the entire time!

makes a great co-pilot, in all positions!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Fri Jan 09, 2004 12:28 am

Mirrodie,

Knew my wife was the one when she spent an entire weekend with me in Chicago for the Cub/Whitesox series, bought her a Cubs jersey and now she is a converted Cardinal fan.

Match made in heaven! Congrats to you!!!!!
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Fri Jan 09, 2004 10:13 am

I think it does, and mostly due to the fact that most women stop taking care of themselves after merriage and their husbands are grossed out by what their see, smell etc. Its been my observation, I could be wrong...
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Fri Jan 09, 2004 1:09 pm

Look at the same Playboy Centerfold every single day, day-after-day, year-after-year for 10 years and see if your interest in it doesn't wane. Marriage is the same way!

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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Sun Jan 11, 2004 4:31 pm

YKA, I've seen that happen, but I've also seen that happen with men too. My boyfriend used to be dieting and working out and now that he has me and I don't like SKINNY guys he thinks it's okay to eat a whole pizza and watch TV all night. Don't get me wrong, the dude isn't 300 pounds but it is interesting how some people try SOOOO hard and then get someone and then just say okay, now I've got a girl/guy I can let myself go.
 
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Sun Jan 11, 2004 8:48 pm

It depends on your bitch, if she's a hoe, its gonna go... Big grin

In all honestly, after the romance calms down, both of you need to work on it to keep it alive - no matter what - or the sexual lackivity is the least of your problems. Let's hope neither of you cheat on each other.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 12, 2004 11:34 pm


Sophiemaltese

So true, a lady friend of mine used to moan and groan about her hubby after they got married, 6 months into the marriage & all he wanted to do was drink & cuddle. The poor girl was going through a pack of "D" Cell batteries in a week.
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RE: Does It Wane After Marraige?

Mon Jan 12, 2004 11:50 pm

What is the deal with those Swedes?

The more the merrier?  Big thumbs up
Shared joy is double (triple) joy?  Smokin cool

At least I saw that on a comedy?
Big Lebowski?  Wink/being sarcastic



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