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Sun Feb 22, 2004 7:50 am

Me and my girlfriend were together today and we were all over each other Big grin.. but then we started about sex. I said something on the lines of "I'm so happy I can tell you anything.." and she said.. "So am I.. I think that im ready".. I said "What?".. she said "I think im ready to have sex".. I said "Me too.. but shouldn't we wait until it's a better moment".. and we sort of agreed..and that was the end of it..

I know that I love her and that I want to have sex with her, im just really nervous.. any help..or advice?

Thanks in advance..

Regards,

Milo
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 7:56 am

Why do all you youngsters think that the geeks on this forum can give you advice in those matter!  Nuts

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I said "What?"
Haha.. Classic!

If I may ask, how old are you and Samantha (I assume)? There's a bit of a difference if you are asking at 16, as compared to 20..
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 8:36 am

Given your right wing views, shouldn't you wait til marriage? You filthy teenage hooligan.
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:04 am

 Big grin

Trust me man, if you're nervous about the prospect of having sex you are not ready. Sure you can have sex but you won't feel right about it. But most people try and have sex as young as they can because they don't want to feel left behind (obviously peer pressure to lose your virginity is quite high.. I guess). There will come a point where you are not nervous at all and you feel comfortable with doing just about anything, trust me.

And its so much better if you are comfortable with it, as far as i'm concerned having sex when you are nervous is barely worth it in comparison.

Although, if she's fine i'd hit it anyway  Big grin
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:13 am

777236er, don't turn this into a political argument.
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:16 am

Go for it son, sling one up her!

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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:27 am

"I'm so happy I can tell you anything.." and she said.. "So am I...
****

and they called it.... puppy love... how cute !!. Do any of you remember what this was like ? not to be all jaded, and full of baggage... sheessh.... joys of marriage

J
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:48 am

We are both 15.. it was one of those situations.. I had asked before and she said she wasn't ready.. then today I said.. im glad you said no to me.. and she said I think im ready.. I got all excited but then I realised it wasn't the best time.. as my parents had just got back in!

I don't feel nervous.. just.. a little "odd" on how much my "sexual" life has changed.. very very quickly!

Regards,

Milo
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:54 am

15?

You must be nuts. Get your driver's license first, then worry about sex. Jeez.
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:59 am

Really?

LOL


Regards,

Milo
 
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When I saw this thread I was close to make a "signed by SAS23" post, but I am sure that every moderator had send me to hell than Big grin.

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lol Patrick there are millions of possibilities to what you could have said, and they all would've got your ass banned Big grin
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 10:21 am

P.s, what are you doing, planning a frickin' time and date or something?

For your first time it'd be much better if it just happened rather than you planned to do it, as you will be more relaxed and less apprehensive, or excitable (in a none sexual way). You want your first time to be memorable, don't write when in your fucking diary, just go with the flow when its time (and you'll know when, the situation WILL arise at the perfect time, if you spend lots of time together).

 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 10:23 am

Milo,
Just some advice I give my teenage daughter:
Use a condom (sounds unromantic, I know!) to be sure you get no souvenir left for both of you!

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Sun Feb 22, 2004 3:17 pm

Wrap it before you tap it.

Secondly...don't expect it to last very long the first time...you're better off telling her this before hand. Also try to "self improve" yourself before you go in there...that way you will last a little longer then you originally would have.

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Sun Feb 22, 2004 3:22 pm

For your first time, put a condom on before you begin because you have absolutely no idea about how long you will actually last in actual sex. And, oh yeah, if this is her first time, don't start jackhammering away--be gentle. It hurts most girls the first time they have sex.
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 3:24 pm

Dude, it doesnt have to be perfect its sex and not a space shuttle launch if you both agree then why the hell not. Just remember.. if its not on, ITS NOT ON.

cheers
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 3:42 pm

For the first time, I would recommend

1) Find someplace you will not be stressed out. It really sucks when your folks are due back in an hour, but then again could come in at any time. Get a hotel room if you can, someplace where you can take your time and not have to worry about someone barging in.

2) As others mentioned, use a condom.

3) Very important - as she's the one who might feel any pain or discomfort, let HER control the operation for the first time. I.e. Let her be on top so that she can control the pace of things. You can have other forms of fun later.

Good luck

P.S. If your first time turns out to be embarassing, fumbled, or otherwise just bloody awful, don't feel too bad - it's usually the case, especially when both of you are new at it, but it gets (a lot) better with a little practice.
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 6:49 pm

Dont listen to EGGDs advice. His first time was with a goat  Big grin
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 8:57 pm

Oh come on Graham,

Having it with a goat is much better than having it with a sheep!
 
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:02 pm

Pe@rson had it with sheep the first time too..

15?

You must be nuts. Get your driver's license first, then worry about sex. Jeez.

Well it's legal at 16, 15 isn't far off!

Just do it if it feels right... enjoy it too  Big thumbs up

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Dan
Never tried it with a sheep or a goat, just women  Smile

Josh, is that true?  Laugh out loud

EGFFbmi
Just think of it as playing snooker, pot the pink and avoid potting the brown Big grin  Laugh out loud
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Just think of it as playing snooker, pot the pink and avoid potting the brown
That'd make a great signature  Laugh out loud

Yes, it's true. I'm not sure if he still does it with sheep though...

I hope his girlfriend doesn't look at the forums  Big grin I'm joking James  Laugh out loud

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 Laugh out loud
Yes, never thought of that as a signature  Big grin
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Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:38 pm

If you want my advice you should wait until it's legal - been there, done that and it's not pleasant if it all goes wrong.

But if you're dead set on popping your cherry then for fuck sake use a condom, and try and get her to go on the pill as well - abortions are a hard thing to come to terms with, especially when YOU don't have any say in it.

As someone said above, don't expect to go for much more than a few minutes your first few times, and if it comes to the crunch and you shrivel up button-mushroom style, don't worry about it - get her to give you a good long hand-job first - you never know, she might even like it too.  Smile/happy/getting dizzy

Other than that it's just like Ice Skating (think Torvill and Dean) - Stay close together, avoid the wet patches and try to finish at the same time.  Smile/happy/getting dizzy

Regards,
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Unfortunatly most people in New Cumnock (and Sanquar) pop their cherry before they reach the age of 13 hence the high teenage pregnancy rate.
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ia gree what tih some said. Just don't plan it in advance, let it happen. I mean, I enjoyed my first time as well, and it had not been planned. Just enjoy it...
 
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You know, cherrys are quite tasty on ice cream.
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You know, cherrys are quite tasty on ice cream.

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Mon Feb 23, 2004 12:21 am

But if you're dead set on popping your cherry then for fuck sake use a condom,

lol what the hell, EGFFbmi is male not female  Nuts,

I can understand how you could make the mistake though  Big grin
 
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 12:44 am

Watch it EGGD!

Regards,

Milo
 
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 2:42 am

I think your girlfriend would just LOVE how you have put her "sex" life and yours up here for everyone to see.

That being said, it is a good idea to let her control the pace. At least the first time. Also, as a lot have said, use a condom. Other then that, you both will know when the "right" time is, so when it finally comes (no pun intended), savor the moment. You only get your first time once.

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Mon Feb 23, 2004 3:06 am

Another thing:
Don´t shoot your mouth off to anybody afterwards Remember: A gentleman enjoys and shuts up!

Only idiots with little dicks go bragging about their sexual exploits

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Mon Feb 23, 2004 3:11 am

Yeah, and it might screw up your relationship if you do.

.. and how come just about every derogatory term is sexually related? It makes trying to construct a sentence without any puns virtually impossible!
 
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 3:17 am

15? Jesus Christ man, lay off! The last thing you should be worried about (or even "ready for") at this point is sex. Why do people have to rush things so much?
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so, 766UA, what is de ideal age in your opinion?
 
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EDDG,

I wondered about it as well, esp. in English, why are your insults mostly sexualy oriented? In Germanmost insults refer to faeces.

Jan
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I rushed into losing my virginity at 17 and I wished I had waited. the first time is not all its cracked up to be. Enjoy your youth while you can, there'll be plenty of chances when you are older. Think of your GCSE's first if you are 15, just don't do it yet.
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Enjoy your youth while you can, there'll be plenty of chances when you are older

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Well it depends, but at 15 you know the relationship is really quite temporary, so why rush it? I think the ideal "time" would be when you're with someone you know you truly love and can be with for a long time. Sex shouldn't be something you just "do." There should be something special in it. Starting at 15 and moving from person to person, as is the trend these days, just kind of ruins it for ya.
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From what i've heard off other people, 15 is quite old to lose your virginity nowadays. So many people on the internet say they've had sex at 13, 14, 15 etc that its almost strange to be a virgin by the time its legal for you to have sex*.

I was lucky, I didn't rush mine and I had the best time.. I couldn't hoped for a better time to do it. Its just a shame very few people have such a good time on their first time because of inexperience/nervousness/whatever and rush it, hurt their partner and then brag to their friends about it.



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Exactly, they say they have done it but have they really? Yeah, probably in their sleep or with their hand.
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Yeah, if you have to question it, don't do it. It'll be much better when you just go with the flow and are comfortable. You're not comfortable with it now for a reason, ya know. Just wait, you'll be glad you did- especially when this girl ditches you for someone else.
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 3:46 am

You know '6UA you're right. I, from reading what you said here, "rushed". Well, I was 17 when I first had sex (I'm still 17). But we had sex and 2 months later the relationship was over, and you feel like you've lost something of you in it... I had this strange feeling for some time.... now I'm with another one, but I still haven't rushed to have sex, I'm jsut waiting for the right moment. I wish I had done so back then....
 
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EGFFbmi,

You know what man, it sounds like your going to do it no matter what. I just wanna give you some adive from a teen to teen basis.
-Before you whack her, wrap your pecker
-make it special man, first time is always a charm
-Have a fair bit of foreplay...if it's her first she may not be too stretched out for the job
-deffinetly let her be on top
-Try a variety of "motions" while in the heat of battle, you'll know you've found the right spot once she starts to close her eyes in enjoyment.
-MAKE SURE PARENTS AREN'T HOME OR COMMING HOME ANY TIME SOON!

Party on dude
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 9:38 am

A lot of good advice..

Also, a lot say it will go quick, this may not be true. There are a lot of first times where it goes really slow and takes a long time to get off if even at all cause both parties are so nervous. I had one friend where she rode him and rode him and rode him and finally it was just getting plain sore and he had to pee. Later on he found someone he really did care aobut and when they did it, it was very natural. Just take your time. For the young ones out there, you will also find that as you get older most people lie about the age they lost their virginity. Sure, it seems like EVERYONE is doing it now but when you get to be a full fledged real adult (like 25 and above) you'll learn a lot of peeps lost it at 19, 20 , 21, 22 etc...long story short, I look back on my teen years and laugh. I guess I too was all caught up in the peer pressure but its all rather silly...
 
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 11:14 am

"When cherries are red, they're ready for plucking. When girls are sixteen, they're ready for...."
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 11:33 am

Im 22 and not ashamed to say im waitin for the right women and the right time.


There is so much peer pressure i think to get it over and done with as soon as poss.


Look at my sister. she had a baby at 18, and is now split from the father, and my sisters friend pays her more to look after 2 cats then the father does looking after his own son.
Where does the time go???
 
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Mon Feb 23, 2004 11:42 am

"Look at my sister. she had a baby at 18, and is now split from the father, and my sisters friend pays her more to look after 2 cats then the father does looking after his own son."

A better sentence could not be dreamed up. I'm frankly tired of 18-20 year old girls complaining about how poor they are because they are "single mothers" and "struggle" to get by. If they had kept their knees together they would not be in this position, or that previous one.

And for the horny boys out there consider this. Eighteen years of paying for a child borne by a woman you don't love.
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