, This very topic is doing the heavy rotation at our house at the moment. My wife likes to have her glasses of wine in the evening. While she isn't polishing off a bottle a night, she is certainly having 2-4 glasses every single night, and like you said, she isnt sloshed, but well buzzed.
She does not see it as a problem, I see it as a major problem. Thing is, drinking doesn't make you clever, and I find that once she has a few in her, I have no interest in talking to her any more, I find that the quality of the conversation drops, she has that dull blank drunk look on her face, therefore not looking overly attractive to me either.
I would not define it as alcoholism, but it has put me off drinking now. If this happened once in a while, she coiuld get as sloshed as she likes, it isn't my business, but every night gets a little tired.
I have a few friends in similar positions, although usually it is the guy drinking, and not the woman