This is quite disturbing for me too - I am actually supporting the choice of suicide for some people, but what is more disturbing for me is that I am not too sure she really wanted it. Judging from her posts in alt.suicide.holiday , she very likely specially given so much info about her so someone would save her. Also, there is fact of 4 unsuccesful suicide attempts previously (and as that blog I given a link to before indicates, this is probably true). It seems she attempted to drug herself up, but done so in her own room (I believe doing it somewhere far from people would've been much more likely to succeed, if she wanted this), she attempted to jump from Golden Gate bridge but wasn't able to... Probably she attempted suicides each time just to get attention?.. Her posts, e.g. that one with poem she was going to leave were quite different from these of other suicidal people - she thought about how many people will miss her and this poem generally was sad. Also, she told about her "rituals" before suicide, involving burning candles around path to a tree, making drinks at night, etc. - everything so that probably she wanted somone who cared to notice this all and stop her... Perhaps each attempt was a way to check if somebody still cares? This is just my opinion however, and I am not a psychologist, so this is the link to her latest posts listing so everyone could judge by themselves:
The one on top is her final message written in evening of 2004/03/11 in which she says goodbye to the NG
. There were no posts by her in any newsgroups nor updates to any of her sites after that.
But, since what has happened has happened, probably it would be better just to forget it now... Although it's not easy.
The main thing about discution with family and kids about suicide is that in probably 99,5% of cases they won't understand you (unless you have, e.g. worst case of permanent disease). They would attempt to help you and to save you. That is why almost nobody of suiciders talks about that with people closest to them. And the only way everything could be told to the family is suicide letter probably, unfortunately...
Commiting suicides in front of cameras is quite dumb... The only case in which I could somewhat (but only somewhat) understand it would be if e.g. politician claims responsibility for corruption and other such things he done bad in past and as such commits suicide in front of his people. It would be like a more extreme form of resignation. But even this would happen only in certain, if any, cultures...