It has been my experience to NEVER ask this kind of question, you end up spinning biases. You would be coercing others to think of you when they normally wouldn't, i.e. truly honest answers are hard to come by since you have influenced them by putting them on the spot. In real life encounters (non-internet), that isn't fair to you or them. If someone wants to tell you how they feel, they should have already fired out and told you. Good or bad, you should not have had to ask for it, know what I'm sayin? But If ya want answers, get someone else to ask the question without you being there, that way it is objective and possibly real (honest or discrete).
Doing it yourself can be admirable; although just coming up to them, firing out 20 questions with an infinite choice of answers and attention is called internet discussion.
I don't mean to drag you down, just that if I answered your question for example, I'd be ignorant.
Good luck with your quest and we'll see you in another forum.
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