Had the same problem with my first wife, a 5' tall Filipina. Normaly she was nice enough, but sometimes if things didn´t go her way she would develop a nasty temper, throwing dishes around, slapping me or on one occasion attacking me with a Bolo, the Philippino version of a machete. I´m much taller and stronger than her, and I had to grab her a bit rough to disarm her. I didn´t strike even she told me I should do it to prove that I´m a real man. I thought "bingo, I hit you, you´ll run first to a doctor to get a statement about the injuries and then you´ll run to the cops and I´ll go to jail!" I was really angry and to prevent myself from doing anything I might regret later I usualy left the house and took a long walk to cool down. She might have seen it as a weakness, me not acting the tough Macho.
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