I am currently in yet another crazy situation in my life and wonder if there's anything I can do. Let me first briefly describe the history of it:
Last October, I started work in Prague as a language teacher. One of my first classes started at the Prague Stock Exchange, and the door was opened for me by one of my students, who is an assistant to the General Director. She is 28 (I'm 24). Now when I saw her first, I didn't fall madly in love. But I noted that she looked like a nice, decent looking girl and was also impressed by the fact that she was wearing jeans, even though she works for the Stock Exchange - a traditonally conservative workplace. As I got to know her better during our lessons, I found that she is really my kind of person - liberal, friendly, cute etc. She is interested in psychology (she actually doesn't like her work and would like to study this, but is having trouble getting accepted to a psychology program), and I once asked to meet with her and talk about some of my family problems. She accepted, and when we spoke on later occasions, I started getting the feeling that she found me cute. At least her behavior seemed to indicate it. Then one day about early spring, she invited me into her office to show me something. We started talking and she expressed some concern about my health. She said like "you're skinny. I couldn't have anything with you" and grabbed my thin wrist in a very cute sort of way. Now I was wondering, what was the message she was sending: was she just saying this in the sense of "you know, girls don't like skinny guys", or was she thinking aloud - I.E. "I find this guy cute. I wish he weren't so skinny". At any rate, by this time, I was finding that I liked this girl. I decided I would do two things: 1) gain weight (at one point, I told her I was trying to do so) and 2) ask her for a date. I was getting ready to do so, when at one point, I found out from our conversation something horrendous: SHE ALREADY HAS A BOYFRIEND. D'OH
! Bad news, but hey, she's not married. I may not date her, but really she attracts me so much that I'd gladly stick around and just be friendly with her until such time as she breaks up with him, if that ever happens. At least unless some other opportunity arises and believe me, this girl really attracts me. She seems like a perfect soulmate. But here is the big problem at the moment: classes at the Stock Exchange have ended over the summer, may not re-start in the fall, and may not include her (she might get a better job etc). Now so far, I have been able to keep in touch over the summer. I went and just sat around near where she works one day. When she came out of work, I didn't look at her but waited to see if she would greet me. She did! And she suggested that we have lunch together! We did so but it wasn't a very "warm" experience. I think she might have been a bit down in the dumps that day. I also had a bit of e-mailing with her, but now have no direct reason to do so at present.
Now, as you can see, I am really attracted to this girl and would like to try to woo her, although the odds really seem stacked against me. Yeah, I know, there are other fish in the sea (especially in this country. Czech girls can be drop-dead gorgeous and very cute at the same time) but I'm just attracted to this one at present and would like to TRY. Is there anything I could do to increase my chances of 1)keeping the friendship (I have not been too sociable in the past so am not good at this) 2) getting her to fall in love?
Would it be a good idea to find some pretext and invite her for lunch again? To hang around at the restaurant and hope she'll come one day
Know any tricks...anyone?