Fun, another hot button issue for me!
Duke - good for you! There are so many 'traditions' that are unequal and degrading. I do not see why you should not take your wife's name if you want to. Whatever works for you and your future wife. And it is very cool that you are man enough to consider it.
And for the record, I don't even care for women who are "hyphenators" much.
Thanks, dahling, I'm not that fond of you either.
As for the name thing - my wife and I had the discussion before we got married and we almost broke up about it. She didn't want to take my name. I made it clear that my offer to marry was expressly contingent on her acceptance of my family name. Issue solved - happily married almost 8 years thank you.
It was also important to my husband that I take his name. However, I had my own name for 23 years. I am part of that family and I accomplished things under that name. I was not about to give that up. At the same time, I understood how important it was to my husband. Therefore, I unoffically hyphenated. Officially, my maiden name is my middle name. I either use both, like Hillary Rodham Clinton, or hyphenate. I tend to hyphenate because my maiden name is also a first name and it causes some confusion.
If this solution had not been acceptable to my husband we would not have gotten married. If he had not been able to understand why it was important to me he would not have been my choice of a husband.
TWFirst - the more I read your posts, the more I like you. Here's a Respect coming your way!