I just had a strange coincidence happen to me, but the more I think about it, maybe it's fate, perhaps things really DO
happen for a reason.
Anyhow...here goes, starting from the beginning.
For about three years now, I have been riding on a commuter bus between my home near PAE
to my job in downtown Seattle. Starting in about July or August 2003, probably the most beautiful woman I've ever met started riding the bus, having apparently bought a home in the area. I noticed her right away and am still in amazement at how gorgeous she is. About 5'5" I'd say, short blonde hair, blue eyes, a little chunky, and an amazing smile. Exactly the type of girl I always fall for, I definitely have a preference for blondes. She dresses very well, and gives off a sense of sophistication and intelligence and class...again, the kind of gal that I'm drawn to.
As with just about every other straight guy here on a-net, it was difficult if not nearly impossible for me to get up the courage to approach and talk to her. I saw her every day, she sat across from me on the bus, but even at 30, I still struggled with it, based on my many bad past experiences with women.
By the time January 2004 rolled around, after some 5-6 months had passed, and getting some inspiration by having watched "Average Joe-Hawaii", I finally decided that even if I made a total fool of myself, I would talk to this girl. So, one morning when she was looking particuluarly terrific, I finally said..."you look terrific today!". She smiled and said thank you, and we had a pleasant 5 minute conversation on a variety of things, which went well, and I didn't choke up or say anything stupid. I learned this gal's name was "Julie". I realize this is stupid to do in the first conversation, but I also asked if she was married, and to that she smiled back, and said no, but that she was "seeing someone." Great, I thought...classic response, but not a surprise, given what she's like.
Over the next few weeks, 'Julie' and I exchanged smiles and small talk on the bus. Since I was doing pretty well, and hadn't made an idiot of myself yet, I decided to play dumb and conveniently forget she had told me she was seeing someone at the time. After we got off the bus one day, I asked her if she wanted to meet up for coffee and chat, and get to know one another, since it was hard to do so on a bus. She seemed nervous and reminded me again that she was seeing someone. I felt stupid all day long. The next day, I apologized for putting her on the spot and for making her feel uncomfortable, and kindly said I hope things worked out for her. The next several times we saw one another, it seemed awkward and I didn't say much more to her after that. About a month later, she stopped riding the bus altogether, and I figured I had freaked her out, or maybe she moved, or got another job. Anyhow, she was gone, and knew I wouldn't see her again....
...or so I thought at the time.
Fast forward to this past Wednesday, March 30th. Since I'm trying to get into the MBA program at Seattle University, I have to take a business calculus class first and pass it. The class started on Weds., and I got there with about 10 minutes to spare, and most people were already in the room. I went to the back, found a chair, and as I was taking off my coat I noticed someone out of the corner of my eye. I sat down and the first thing that came to my mind was that this gal on the other side of the classroom was Julie. Wasn't sure, thought to myself, "no way...couldn't be." Well, I happened to glance around the room a few times and she was doing the same, and that confirmed it. It was "Julie"!!! About half way through the class, we had a break, and when I came back she had already sat down and we smiled at one another and exchanged pleasantries for a few seconds, but did not talk after class got out.
So what do you think? Coincidence that I would see her again? Or is it another chance to forget what happened in the past and maybe start over in a different way? I have no idea if she is still seeing that same person (I assume it's a guy, but never established that 100%) or maybe single so she could concentrate on school, or seeing someone new.
What should I do? My thinking is continue to be cordial and respectful, but not rush things by any means.
Has anyone had something like this happen to them, or a coincidence or chance meeting like that? Share your story!
And the winner for best actress is....REESE WITHERSPOON for 'Walk the Line'!!!!!!!!