jake056
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"Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sat Apr 23, 2005 12:53 pm

Just had it happen to me today, after 17 years, by someone working there 7. Extremely weird feeling. I was always raised in the " we all work together" generation.

This was intentionally fanning the flames of a small problem to make me look bad and him look good. And yes, none of us are perfect at work and really this was not a life-altering problem.

I know the problem existed, but how my colleague dealt with it was done solely to undermine me and advance himself. And he succeded.

Like I said, weird feeling.
 
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sat Apr 23, 2005 1:50 pm

Care to be a little more vague???

What exactly did this person, or people, do to "stab" you in the back? If you are gonna be this vague, don't be suprised you had 28 views without a single reply.....
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sat Apr 23, 2005 2:29 pm



More details Jake,

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jake056
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sat Apr 23, 2005 2:40 pm

Sorry, today is not a good time to go into details. When this happens to you, you will understand.
 
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sat Apr 23, 2005 3:39 pm

Your best option to solve this problem would be this - if you can correct it, do it as best as you can. That way, it will look like your colleague was making mountains out of molehills. If you can't fix it, try and find a way to work around it as best as possible, or devise a complete solution and present it to your boss. After that, work your ass off...its ultimately far more satisfying than stabbing back, and the only person its really going to damage is your "colleague"...past performance comes into play a lot in these situations - if you work as though you are the most valuable employee, the employer will sooner or later think you are the most valuable employee, and complaints about you will fall on deaf ears.
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sat Apr 23, 2005 5:56 pm

Welcome to the real world of office politics. After any amount of time working in a job, you begin to notice who the colleagues are and who are the "politicians". Back when I worked for a tourist railroad in crew management, I had to deal with this on a regular basis. Part of my job was assigning trainmen to the various trains and recommending qualified trainmen for promotion to conductor. I also had to recommend conductors for promotion from local service to excursion service. We had one individual who was a "politician" from the get go and determined to make excursion conductor. He insisted that he was the best passenger train conductor in the organization and adapted a bit of an aire towards the other conductors. The group consensus (which happened to be correct) was that he was not the best conductor. His numerous failures to observe personal and occupational safety rules that did not suit him only deepened my concern. Needless to say, he never ran a passenger excursion as conductor and later decided to become an engineer. However, his personality and practices did not change and he has since been barred from the railroad after an altercation with his conductor. The conductor made a decision (which he was legally and professionally qualified to make) that the engineer in question didn't agree with. He committed an act of insubordination against not only his conductor, but managing officers of the road and attempted to draw the conductor into a physical altercation. He also has tried to do end runarounds me in my official capacity and occasionally to cast a bad reflection on me. Needless to say that never worked. My reputation was secured by my strong work ethic, honed skills and knowledge. In my decade there, I worked in all sorts of jobs in addition to my primary position as conductor. Thus I learned all I could about how a railroad runs and proved myself a loyal company man. In my time there, I never had a substantiated complaint against me while others did on occasion. What is most important was that I earned the respect and trust of my colleagues and superiors.
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sun Apr 24, 2005 12:55 pm

Quoting Jake056 (Thread starter):
This was intentionally fanning the flames of a small problem to make me look bad and him look good. And yes, none of us are perfect at work and really this was not a life-altering problem.

What I find funny is that how people have the gaul to do it knowing that they will be working with you all the time. I have only been backstabbed once, and it was NOT a good feeling. But I am not the one to forgive or forget and maybe I stooped to his level, but I nailed the bastard for something else six months down the line. I am also of the opinion that if you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours...so this politics took me a little getting used to.

All I can say is, calm down, and let it pass. But don't forget what the he did to you and make sure you get him for it.

Edit: and to all those bunny posters and others, one look at your age profile is enough. Get a real job, start playing workplace politics and you'll know what he is talking about.

cheers

[Edited 2005-04-24 05:58:45]
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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Sun Apr 24, 2005 1:19 pm

As I mentioned in another thread . . . it's all tactics and strategy. Learn the "Operational Art of War" and you'll eliminate about 99% of these problems.

I know, I know - first question I usually hear is "Gee what has that got to do with working in Corporate America". To which my reply is - it will apply anywhere, any time, any job. Just mold the scenario to the job at hand.

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RE: "Stabbed" In The Back At Work

Mon Apr 25, 2005 3:50 am

I have been stabbed many times. Now, thankfully, I speak in a vague enough manner that people think I'm talking about one thing when I truly mean another, so when managment says; 'did you say this about that' I say, NO, I said THIS ABOUT the OTHER thing.

The thing you need to know is that unless your having sex with them (regularly and for more then 6 months), they can, and if it benefits them, will be your enemy.

Make sure any negative comments you say about anything are so far from the workplace no one can blame you for slamming the company.
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