runway23
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Experiences With Flatmates

Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:55 pm

So I am currently looking for a flat and was thinking about what type of people I could run into.

What have your experiences been, any wierdos or future best-friends, wives,etc...?

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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:56 pm

My future wife is my ex-flatmate from when I was living in Montreal.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Tue Jul 26, 2005 11:48 pm

Quoting Runway23 (Thread starter):

I've got too much experience in this field. You need somebody who is fun, but not too noisy. Somebody who can be calm, but not a geek. Somebody who's not stingy and ends up nicking all your shopping. Somebody who's clean, but not in an obsessive way. Somebody who will give you your privacy but also respect when you want company.

It would probably also help if they can cook, and if they're good-looking for the casual shag every now and then. Make sure though that you don't end up falling in love and marrying them like UTA  Wink

Don't forget you will be sharing a LOT of things. Bills, food, the bathroom, the TV, and many more things. Make sure this is a compatible person otherwise if you are anything like me, you'll end up suffering like I did during uni. LOL Big grin
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 12:02 am

I have had several roommates during my lifetime and they have run the gamut of human experience. Some became dear friends while others turned out to be complete psychopaths.

Although I think the process of finding a suitable roommate is largely a crap shoot, I think there are a couple of things to keep in mind.

First, look for maturity. You can find a fun-loving person who still has the capacity to respect your privacy and wash his/her share of the dishes.

Second, make your expectations (i.e., boundaries) known from the get-go. If you want a new best friend out of a roommate situation, you need to state as much. If you want someone who respects your privacy, your need for quiet time, your sense of orderliness, then you need to let potential roomy know it. If you like to party 24X7, then you need to be up front about it.
 
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 1:02 am

There is a reason why I live by myself.

Living with roomates/housemates is largely a crapshoot, like MBMBOS said. I've had roomies that were/became close friends, those that I only saw on the way to the bathroom, and those that I passionately hated.

In general I consider myself to be fairly flexible and easy going with most people. So it was largely the personality of the roomate that really impacted the relationship, I think. Of course I had a few that were generally oblivious and lacked good social skills. Finding somebody that is a bit more mature and posses some social skills would be a plus.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 1:27 am

My advice, get second job and pay for a one bedroom so you can live by yourself. It's nice to have your own space.

I've had a couple good roomates, and some that eat all my food. Most of them have been pretty good people, we just weren't compatible roomate wise. Try to avoid living with your best friends, you'll end up hating them by the time you move out. Basically, you'll want to find someone that will respect you and your property (including your food), will clean up after themselves, and has a legit way of paying the rent. I've had a roomate where our personalities don't clash at all, but as long as you can find some common ground, you should be good to go. He actually turned out to be one of the better roomates I've ever had.
 
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 2:02 am

Despite the fact that we annoy the crap outta each other (over petty things), I currently have what many might consider "the perfect roomate".

Pays his every share of the bills on-time, every-time; and he's never home. What could be better?  Smile



My previous three roomates, on the other hand, weren't exactly to that level. Two were okay. One was busted making some kinda (snortable) crap in our apt in 2001.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 2:11 am

I live in a four-room flat, and the most annoying ones are our landlords... for the time being. One of my "flatties" is about as tidy as I have become, but she has lived here for way too much time to care about the little things. The second is moving out the day after tomorrow, she's doing an internship. Wasn't that much into socialising with the rest of us; in fact disturbing her was kind of a kamikaze mission each time she was studying for an exam. My third flatmate isn't exactly a slob, but the dishes he uses could use some better cleaning. There's only so much you can do without dynamite (or soaking them in water for an hour) if the plates have been on the "counter" for almost a week.

All in all, I think I could have ended up far worse, none of them are particularly noisy or dirty, they don't cook any weird stuff that could leave the flat smelling like a skunk for days and they're good company most of the time. However I have to admit that people must screw up very badly to make me angry.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 2:19 am

I didn't have any roomates that were making meth or coke in my apartments, but let me tell you about my last roomate. Let's call him Alex (because that is his name).

Now Alex seemed like a nice enough guy. Fairly quiet, reasonably mature, studious kid. But whenever he was in the apartment he was in his room. He ate in his in room, studied in his room, watched TV in his room, slept in his room, he even had a mini-fridge in there too (and I found this extra perplexing because he had the small bedroom, a tiny 10x9' box, I had the big bedroom which was almost twice as big). Literally the only time I saw him was when he was going to the john, when he came or went when I was not in my room, or around campus. He was fairly clean, quiet and curteous. But I felt like I was living with a stranger. And that was a weird feeling, left me a bit ill at ease. I think I talked to a few of his friends that were over somewhat often more than I talked to him.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 2:23 am

Just hope you don't get someone who always turns the power-hungry air conditioner down to 70 degrees, even though it will never cool the apartment down that much in Florida during the summer when its 105 outside.

And someone who wakes you up at 3:30am on a weeknight asking to buy any alcohol you have.

My experiences make me learn towards the opinion of it's better live either alone in a sociable area or with good trustworthy friends.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 5:18 am

When I first went to Uni, my flat was sharing with a bunch of guys who did a degree in: wait for it.... Golf Management!

They never got any work to do, were always noisy, liked shit music, and were all trendies who didn't get on with me and my other decent flatmate. They preceeded to have people round at all hours, basically hold the flat hostage, we hardly ever left our rooms except to cook...

Anyway, eventually, they moved out, and I was with the other flat mate, who is alright, so alls well that ends well.

Dunno what my advice would be, but be warned, it can get ugly.
 
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 5:42 am

For those experienced a.netters/j.photoers... This one takes-the-cake (I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried)...
About 10-ish years ago I got an apartment in JAX whilst I finished my last year at university... My roommate was Scotty's (scottysair, etc) brother.

I have since learned how to translate such written delicacies:
"Weather down from a landed 727 because fling don't when I did thanks."

Lesson: Ask who your flatmate is related to & do all possible to live alone.

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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:01 am

Quoting VSMike (Reply 11):
Scotty's (scottysair, etc) brother

Im suprised you didnt shoot yourself

That had to be an interesting experiance lol.
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:21 am

Quoting KCMike (Reply 12):
Im suprised you didnt shoot yourself

Nearly...
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:23 am

Quoting KCMike (Reply 12):
That had to be an interesting experiance lol

Many, many, many...!
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:25 am

Quoting VSMike (Reply 11):
"Weather down from a landed 727 because fling don't when I did thanks."

Can you translate that please  Wink
 
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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:29 am

Quoting Runway23 (Reply 15):
Can you translate that please

Sure:
"Where am I? It is raining outside. A 727 just passed overhead. I shouldn't throw my excrement, like I've done before. Thank you very much."

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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 3:13 pm

At the light of these replies, it would be better for you to (attempt to) find a Rhaatette and move in with her  Silly

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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 3:39 pm

This website might help your quest for your flat. Although it is designed for New Zealand students, it should be universal enough.

http://www.varsity.co.nz/flatting/

The advice about mince is the best advice you will probably get apart from learning about pleasuring the other sex  Wink.

Cheers

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RE: Experiences With Flatmates

Wed Jul 27, 2005 4:28 pm

1. Live by yourself...room mates are crap.

2. Live by yourself

3. Live by yourself

4. Never ever find/get a French girl as one of your flatmates......you'll go mad...really.

5. Oh yeah...live by yourself.

Quoting UTA_flyinghigh (Reply 17):
you to (attempt to) find a Rhaatette and move in with her

Good advice...find one who is not French though.
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