EZYAirbus
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Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:33 am

My girlfriend lives in Belfast, I live in Hemel Hempstead, now there are 268 miles between us, she cant get a transfer to LTNn as cabin crew at easyJet, but I can get a job on the ramp at BFS, she has asked me if I will go live with her in BFS, this means leaving all my friends and family behind. I love her to bits but just not sure if im ready to make the move.

Would you go?

Glenn
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KiwiNanday
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:34 am

It depends on how much I love her... With your MSN name, I'd say GO FOR IT!
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alcregular
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:36 am

It would depend on how long I had been going out with that person. If it was under a year, I wouldn't, but if it was over a year, I would think about it. I had a bad enough time moving in with my ex -b/f here, nevermind relocating to somewhere new.
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Christa
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:37 am

Follow your heart.. and your pocket!

Property is cheaper in Northern Ireland!

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KiwiNanday
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:39 am

And think of it this way, Glenn. Its not as bad as two people in love who live 4372 miles apart!
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VonRichtofen
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:46 am

Thanks for pointing that out Jake.. But thanks to recent happenings, that wont be for much longer as im moving out to be with her pretty soon!
Follow your heart.. Someone always told me that Distance is not an obstacle, just a minor inconvinience. I took that advice and I couldnt be happier..
Glenn.. If its going that well, then one of you will have to relocate.. Just weigh out the pros and cons. And most of all, Best of Luck.

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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:46 am

It all depends on how much you love her and how attached you are to your life now. The big danger is if you're not happy after the move, you're likely going to start resenting having moved, and eventually you'll transfer that resentment to her. If you were contemplating moving away from your hometown and friends at some point, then I'd say go for it, it can be a big adventure for the two of you starting fresh on your own and building a life together. Just go into it with open eyes.
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 6:02 am

Friends and family are a short flight away and will always be there. If you truly care about your girlfriend, she might just become your best friend for the rest of your life. That is some thing you can't pass up.
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partn

Sat Aug 20, 2005 7:56 am

Just go.....................

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baylorairbear
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 7:59 am

Get your ass to BFS! What's the worse that can happen? You have a blast for a while, then move back. So get going. You should be gone before I even post this.

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BMIFlyer
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 8:23 am

Hey Glenn, I nearly moved 4075 miles to be with mine.

I say go for it buddy  Smile

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iakobos
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 8:37 am

Quoting BMIFlyer (Reply 10):
Hey Glenn, I nearly moved 4075 miles to be with mine

Just curious, by how much did you miss it/her ?
 
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 8:49 am

First of all, you are just moving to a different part of the UK, not a another country, so no issues that way.
If you really love her to the point that you may consider her becoming your wife, have a chance to secure decent employment there and can afford to live in a safe and good place there, then GO!!!!!
 
BMIFlyer
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 9:01 am

Quoting Iakobos (Reply 11):
Just curious, by how much did you miss it/her ?

Not much.


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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 9:16 am

Just move...

what's the worst thing that could happen?!

Just do it... you'll regret it if you don't..
 
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 1:52 pm

I would. If (s)he is worth the move to that person, then why wouldn't you? Simple as that.
 
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 2:43 pm

You Brits never cease to crack me up.

You make moving from London to Belfast sound like a big deal, you can go back to your friends for a weekend if you really can't live without them. It's only 268 miles as you say.

Just try it, London ain't that great anyway.
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 3:09 pm

I moved 1200 miles to be with mine.

If there was one decision I wish I could take back, it's that one.
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:28 pm

Quoting Pacificjourney (Reply 16):
You Brits never cease to crack me up.

You make moving from London to Belfast sound like a big deal, you can go back to your friends for a weekend if you really can't live without them. It's only 268 miles as you say.

There's a bit more to it than that, especially as it's both over the water and a place which hasn't had the easiest of times.

I'd agree with everyone else, it's no further than moving to somewhere like NCL and hardly going to be a massive problem getting back when needed. Belfast is booming now that the guns are put away for good (we pray) and is not an expensive location to live.

Go for it. Even if it doesn't work out it is an experience of living and working somewhere new. And the rest of Ireland awaits!
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:59 pm

Glenn,

When I met my wife, she lived in Maidstone and I was in the RAF at St.Athan - some way apart. But that didn't stop us. She was the one to move. I couldn't (the RAF wouldn't post me to West malling - something about it being closed!) We're still together 19 years later.

At least you wouldn't have to find a job as she did.

Go for it. Love conquers all - along with regular sex an' stuff Big grin

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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 7:35 pm

Glenn,

Like many people have already said, what have you got to lose? Even if the worst happened and things didn't work out, you could move back to Hemel and pick things up from there again. As far as I know you don't have any major ties to hold you back apart from that you'll miss you're friends and family, but how cheap and frequent are U2 flights to LTN from BFS, especially on staff travel rates?!

I made a similar choice myself a couple of years ago, left a very secure job with a company I had worked with for 13 years and moved 80 miles to unglamourous Hull to move in with my then other half. Even though things didn't work out and I moved back West again, I have never regretted for a second making that change. So much excitement, it's like a big adventure! Even when I moved back, I have been through so many new experiences and met so many fantastic people due to new work situations, that the repercussions of that decision just keep on happening to this day.

What's the worst that can happen?

If you are still unsure, maybe you could take a bit of time off work before deciding what to do and go over to Belfast for a week or two. You'll probably have a much better idea then.
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sat Aug 20, 2005 8:09 pm

If you loved her you wouldn't need to ask the question...Mrs Jafa moved from London to Norwich with 7 hours notice..we have been together 22 years!!!

Jobs come and jobs go but the love of a good woman (or man) should be regarded as the best thing in life.
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EZYAirbus
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sun Aug 21, 2005 1:44 am

Hey guys thanks for all the messages of support, ive spoken to her today, and on wednesday im going to Belfast for 3 days, we then gonna arrange for me to over for a week or 2, look for a job at BFS airport, she already got her own place so no need to worry about looking for one, and it is only an hours flying from home.

Thanks again

Glenn
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steve7e7
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sun Aug 21, 2005 2:21 am

I say go for it mate.

You obviously love the girl and you will always be thinking "what if?", if you don't move over and get the relationship cemented.

As Capital stated,you'll still be able to make the LHR meets and visit your folks with your staff travel concession,so what's stopping ya?

Do it!!
 
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sun Aug 21, 2005 7:04 am

Glenn

Go for it. What have you to lose? You are obviously happy or else you wouldn't have even contemplated the decision. And its only BFS.... hardly the other side of the world. And remember all your mates on here are only an email away too and your family only on the other end of a phone.

Good luck to you and Jayne.

Bev xx
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Sun Aug 21, 2005 11:48 am

Quoting EZYAirbus (Thread starter):
Would you go?

If you go, GET YOUR OWN PLACE - you should not completely give up your "independent" existence while you two are still in the BF/GF stage. You'll be close to your GF, but still have some "breathing space" of your own.
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RE: Would You Move 268 Miles To Be With Your Partner?

Tue Aug 23, 2005 2:27 am

Just go for it!

My wife moved 3000 miles to be with me, now I am 3000 miles away from my family and love every minute of it.

I went back home in March for the first time in 3 years and realized what a dump the place was, I'd just never realized it until I had been away for 3 years!

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