gordonsmall
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Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:43 pm

I'm going to go against my better judgement here and try to have a serious discussion on this forum ........ knowing full well it's a pointless exercise.  Smile

Anyway, I was having a discussion in the pub last night with my mates about the direction our lives have taken. It was one of those philosophical bullshit sessions that we tend to have after a few (too many?) pints, where we normally bitch about how life was better when we were younger and without reponsibilities, but things were different last night on account of the fact that rather than bitching about the past we pondered about our present situation.

Basically we began to debate our happiness in relation to our lives at present and in the near future.

In our younger days, my friends and I, like most teenagers, had grand plans for how life was going to turn out. Just as the old and wise (or sad old gits as they're known here) had told us, things didn't happen the way we thought they would, we've all got to our goals in the end (or at least are still en-route to our goals) but in most cases we've gone about it in a round-the-houses fashion.

We're now all around 22-ish, we've all got great jobs that we enjoy, we've all got nice cars and we've all got nice houses that we actually own. We've all got more disposable income than we can hope to spend in an average month and generally can't think of anything significant (and attainable) that we want in life that we don't already have, save for a few misguided souls who have strange ideas about inflicting themselves with husbands/wives and children.

But last night none of us could honestly say that we were happy with our lives!

Amongst all that nice stuff I've already mentioned there were gaping holes in our lives that we can't fill. When we were 16 our social group filled the bar of our local pub, a few years later and a combination of car crashes, motorcycle accidents, drugs, drownings and murders has reduced us to the stage where we can barely scrape together enough of our 'school friends' to fill a corner table.

Many of us have lost parents/brothers/sisters and even partners in similar ways. But the vast majority of our woes stemmed from the fact that whilst we were happy with the main components of our lives, on the whole things just weren't as good as we thought they were going to be.

So, has your life turned out as expected? If so is it as good as you thought it was going to be?

Opinions invited from young and old, be they members of the a.net sad old gits club or not .....  Smile

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Gordon.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:46 pm

Quoting Gordonsmall (Thread starter):
'm going to go against my better judgement here and try to have a serious discussion on this forum ........ knowing full well it's a pointless exercise. Smile

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:52 pm

Quoting Gkirk (Reply 1):

Once again, the great thread hijacker of cyberspace manages to get me shouting profanity at the screen .....................  Silly
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:55 pm

Quoting Gordonsmall (Reply 2):
Once again, the great thread hijacker of cyberspace manages to get me shouting profanity at the screen ..................... Silly

Aye, just sitting here bored with a beer  Wink
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:56 pm

Quoting Gkirk (Reply 3):
Aye, just sitting here bored with a beer

So what else is new.

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:58 pm

Quoting Gkirk (Reply 3):
Aye, just sitting here bored with a beer

You could always get a job kirkie .......... I hear pimps are in short supply in Dumfries these days. It has certain perks, and you could argue that you wouldn't have to declare your income to the tax-man on the basis that you'd be incriminating yourself!  Smile
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Mon Oct 17, 2005 11:58 pm

I AM happy with my life. Although not completely happy.

My life has not developed the way I wanted it to at all. Due to severe bullying throughout my school and kindergarten life, I came down with a depression which sent me in hospital for a year and has totally ruined everything for me- I may not ever be able to work full time, get an education or anything else. But I'll certainly be battling for it (I would never be able to forgive myself if anyone ever had to support me like that).

But I'm more than happy at the moment. Despite the fact that everything hasn't turned out the way I wanted it to, I guess I can't really complain- I don't want to either.

I have the most wonderful boyfriend on Earth, I'm surrounded by my family most of the time, and I have so many beloved animals I take care of. I love my life and I don't want to switch with anyone ever- I've learned so much  Smile
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:07 am

Quoting Gordonsmall (Reply 5):
I hear pimps are in short supply in Dumfries these days

Hey! Why pick on my home town???
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:11 am

Quoting Andz (Reply 7):
Hey! Why pick on my home town???

Simple, it's very close to where I live and it's very very close to where GKirk lives. Also, I happen to know that there IS a shortage of pimps in Dumfries right now since the two biggest ones got banged up last week for 3 years each.

Hence, I suggest it to Kirkie that he takes up a short-term career as a pimp, in the town of Dumfries, on account of the fact that positions are available and it is a short communte for GKirk with good income prospects.  Smile
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:17 am

Gordon,

At 22-ish, you havent yet had a life. So, forget about wondering if it's going as you want, get on and bloody enjoy it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shit happens (bit like Gkirk) and sods law plays a major part in most normal people's lives and they rarely go in any guided direction. Remember, there is always some miserable bastard waiting to screw you up somewhere along the line!! Big grin

Ask the question in 30 years and THEN have a discussion about it Big grin

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:25 am

Quoting Skidmarks (Reply 9):

Andy,

Point taken, but the main thrust of my post was that I, like my friends, have now achieved what I set out to achieve when I left school, but haven't found it to be as satisfying as I imagined.

I've got everything I want in life with the exception of a pilots job which I am still in the process of getting, but I'm not happy with it. I seem to want more, but can't figure out what exactly it is that I want.

I'm sure there must be others in the same boat.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:33 am

Not at all. It's a living nightmare. I'm starting to believe that this IS Hell and we don't remember what life on Earth was like. If it weren't for my strong belief that killing yourself gets you a first class one-way ticket to Hell, I would have offed myself months ago.

It's Monday. What will go wrong this week? I'm guessing I'll be named in a wrongful death lawsuit. Either that or my parents will take a wrong turn in front of a Greyhound bus.

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 12:35 am

Poor Andy, so  old  he makes death look young  Wink
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:01 am

Quoting Gordonsmall (Thread starter):
So, has your life turned out as expected? If so is it as good as you thought it was going to be?

1. No, because when I was 17, I had no grand plans in mind as to what I wanted to do/achieve/experience in life. I've never made plans for where I need to be 5/10/20 years down the road. I pretty much have just gone along with the flow.

2. It's actually turned out much, much better than I anticipated. My "things I need to do before I die" list (not created until I was mid forties) is actually quite small.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:12 am

Quoting Gordonsmall (Thread starter):
So, has your life turned out as expected? If so is it as good as you thought it was going to be?



Quoting Halls120 (Reply 13):
I pretty much have just gone along with the flow.

I could not agree more. For me things usually went wrong when I defined my goals too narrowly thereby excluding many valuable options.

I think you need be sure about some basics such as: Do you want to pursue a career at all cost or is a good work-life balance more important to you, etc...

Do the things that you like to do because they are usually the ones that you are pretty good at as well. Life is too short to spend 8-12 hours per day in job that you hate.

Be aware of you strengths and weaknesses and chose options that allow you to capitalize on those strength and expand them.

Be patient, often its takes more time than you expected for things to fall into place.

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:50 am

Quoting Gordonsmall (Reply 10):
I seem to want more, but can't figure out what exactly it is that I want.

You hit the bull's eye here...

Most of my friends started college with great work expectations created by the society and the people they hang with. Therefore, they ended up looking for a career that could take them to a glamorous job at a Fortune 100 company without thinking what they really enjoy doing. Since landing a good job at a Fortune 100 company is not an easy task, people who achieve it at a young age, start wondering if there are other things they could do, because their real passion in life is not inside a building spending long ours in an office. I keep hearing them say: how bad could work be if you have to get paid for it!

I don't know about you, but in my case, I never expected to end up at a Fortune 100 company, since my real passion has always been to work for an airline in a set of positions I came out with while studying the operations of multiple carriers. I worked hard to get the credentials needed to land a job at an airline, but my studies ended up being good to work at a bank. My advice to you is to figure out what else you want to do in life (what do you have a passion for) and start adjusting your career to achieve it (create short, medium and long term goals and adjust them as time passes). I have been doing so and it has worked so far.

Anyway, good luck and remeber that it is better to get paid for doing your hobby than for doing a job!
 
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:53 am

Well, not really. I never really expected anything, as far as I was concerned 'future' was something intangible and I was never really connected to it. I just went on living through my teens without any real direction, just doing what everyone else was doing. Although there was a little bit of direction considering I wanted to be a pilot and so the things that I did were with that in mind. I honestly wouldn't have expected that by 19 I would be at University not only working towards a degree but whilst building towards my frozen ATPL as well.

I definitely would never have imagined myself at such a rubbish university!  Wink. On the whole though, i'm working towards what i've always wanted to achieve and at the moment i'm definitely on track. Just give me a couple of years and then i'll report back!
 
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:55 am

Turned out the way I expected? Oh dear god no. Has most of what I aspired to come my way? That would be closer to the mark, but even that has changed over time, in terms of what I've pursued. I've pretty much come to the conclusion that people will attempt to make things work for what they feel is worth aspiring to one way or the other, and either make compromises or find a way around road blocks to it.

Stay flexible, adapt, and look at life as an adventure. That'll give you the leeway to make the changes you will have to make as forces outside your control clash with your own grand scheme of things. Life will toss a wrench into the works every now and then, and you can decide to move on the best you can. If you do that, you can look back on your life and say no regrets. I wish someone had clued me in on how this all worked earlier, instead of having to learn it trial-by-fire in some cases.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 1:58 am

I don't think anyone can definitively say what they want their life to be with any sense of reality when they're still in high school . . . . most of the goals I set for myself early on in life I've met or exceeded. Life isn't a destination, rather a journey and the scenery always changes.

Thus far however, I've managed to work in the two fields that always interested me . . . military and law enforcement. As I've reached each goal I make new ones. Current goals are to retire again by the time I reach age 55, that's when my daughter will be done with college (should she decide to go) and I can finally relax. Work for fun if I desire, but not to pay tuition . . . and see some parts of this country that I haven't as yet . . . we'll see how that goes.

Pretty much satisfied with things. Knowing one cannot change the past eliminates the need to dwell on the past but sharpens the senses when regarding the future.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 2:00 am

Quoting AsstChiefMark (Reply 11):
Not at all. It's a living nightmare. I'm starting to believe that this IS Hell and we don't remember what life on Earth was like. If it weren't for my strong belief that killing yourself gets you a first class one-way ticket to Hell, I would have offed myself months ago.

It's Monday. What will go wrong this week? I'm guessing I'll be named in a wrongful death lawsuit. Either that or my parents will take a wrong turn in front of a Greyhound bus.

Mark

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 2:13 am

I wanted to be an airline pilot....not gonna happen

I wanted to be a chef.....could still happen, but unlikely

I wanted to be ATC.....not gonna happen because NAVCAN didn't like that i passed the test on the first time. Some dickheads received slightly higher marks but only after thier 2nd and 3rd time taking it.(ya i'm bitter)

But, am i happy, oh ya !! Life has been very good to me thus far.

I expected to be happy.  rotfl  <---- see....being happy

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 2:32 am

Quoting AsstChiefMark (Reply 11):
Not at all. It's a living nightmare.

Damn Mark, I'm sorry to hear that things are so awful for you.

My life has not turned out at all like I thought it would, but you know what, that's part of the fun...seeing what life will bring next.

I was never supposed to live in the US. I used to insist that I would NEVER live here! And now I've been here for ten years.

I was supposed to be a high-powered executive at some insurance company but I'm nowhere near that...and I've realized that I don't really want that anyway. I would have had no work/life balance at all.

I certainly was never supposed to be married at 23 to a Portuguese-Canadian man! I had 27 in mind as my marrying age and I expected I'd get married to some tall British guy and live in London.

I also never expected to get neck-deep into curling. I have never been an athlete but I am considered a good curler and people respect me for that and my work at the club. This was a real surprise.

I love surprises, so I have fun with these curve balls that life throws at me. They haven't all been good - I did expect to still have my dad around, for example - but that's life and overall it is good.

My plans now are to move up to Vancouver in the next few years and possibly add a kid to our lives. We'll see how that works out!
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 3:29 am

In a word, no. I am single at 26 and have moved permanently from Toronto to Prague. What have you.
 
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 4:59 am

I'm quite happy with the way my life has turned out.

Never expected to be living in the US with my own house, car and pool, even though my dream since my first visit here in 1979 was to someday move here!
Always expected to be living in an apartment/townhouse though.

Financially, life keeps dealing me blows but I still have enough spare for vacations, so life isn't all that bad.

The only thing that's not worked out is where I am living. Since 1989 I had wanted to live in Virginia, but the wife over-ruled me, so I am stuck in New Jersey.
 
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 10:04 am

I think this is one of the more important topics that anyone has ever brought up in this forum, as I believe that it applies to all of us. I thank Gordonsmall for a truly great topic.

For many years I tried to measure my life by material things, and though I had moments of pleasure, the happiness was always fleeting, and more accurately defined as pleasure.

Do you remember as a child that there was a toy that you just had to have? You thought that you would be happy if you could ever have it. Perhaps you might have even thrown a fit until it was in your hands. Where was that toy a week later? Under a bush outside, or under the bed forgotten? Replaced by some other toy? Do you even remember what happened to it?

Teenagers might need Abercrombie & Fitch or Nike Airs to make them happy. Later it might be a certain car, a trophy spouse, sexual conquests, a powerful job, a fat bank account, the perfect house, a big diamond, celebrity status, etc. Once something material is obtained, the value immediately begins to erode. Those who seem to Ôhave it madeÕ are no happier than those who have little. They may actually be less happy.

Money, possessions, power, and fame all provide a narcotic effect, but one that wears off rather quickly. We assume we need more in order to get greater pleasure. You chase the gold ring, but once in hand it seems like a cheap trinket. You start looking for a bigger gold ring somewhere, thinking the happiness it brings should be greater.

Maybe we believed they would impress others because we were had been impressed with them; that the value we placed on them would be imparted to us.

However, material things are ultimately void of any lasting value. They can all be swept away in a moment, as many of the folks along the coast recently experienced. Things of this world are impermanent, and just cannot provide permanent fulfillment.

Yet I think we always want a fulfillment that is permanent. We want something that will remain if all is swept away - something we can cling to when we are breathing our last breath.

For me it was my Christian faith - a relationship with God. No one can take this away from me, not even those who wish to deny God's presence. I did not find this faith until I was 43 yrs old, but feel quite fortunate to have found it at all.

Christian teachings hold that we are separated from God, but that He wants to have a personal relationship with each of us. Furthermore, all men are able to sense this gap, though we struggle with properly identifying what is going on. This hole in our life is meant for God, and absolutely nothing else will suffice.

Since faith became such an important part of my life, the material things are of much less importance, and I no longer measure my life by them. The important things are the personal relationships I have Ð with God first, my family and friends second, but also to all others with whom I come in contact.

It is a fantastic faith of opposites. The more I submit to God, the stronger I become. I give more away, the richer I feel. The less my life is about me, the fuller I am. The less I try to control my life, the straighter my life becomes.

IÕm not a pilot, but a friend who is tells of a time he was flying in gusty conditions, trying to correct for every dip of the wing and nose. He was fighting as hard he could to keep from losing control of the plane, and was getting hammered in the process. He couldnÕt keep the plane steady, and didnÕt know what else to do. His uncle, a veteran pilot who was in the right seat, suggested that he remove his hands from the yoke.

This would have been the very last thing on earth my friend would have done on his own accord. Yet when he let go, the plane stopped bouncing around and the ride actually became smooth. By doing less he accomplished more than he had tried to do on his own.

It was a very important lesson.

I know some will want flame me for evangelizing here, but this is what it is all about, folks.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 10:22 am

Life has not turned out the way that I expected, yet I still feel satisfied in a way, because I know that there's more to come.

We are so tied to our occupations for self-definition that when I think "at such-and-such an age, what did I think I would be like as an adult" I automatically think of the different occupations I wanted to hold. Early on, I thought I might be in the military, a detective or on the police force. Later on I thought I might be a lawyer. Finally, around 12 years old, I started settling on being a medical doctor. It wasn't until I was about 16 years old that I considered music teaching as a calling.

Even after I started college as a music education major, I expected to graduate and become a marching band/symphonic band director. After only a year, even though I was excelling at my classwork and making great strides in musicianship, I realized that I needed to go back to scientific studies to keep from going insane. I was constantly overanalyzing music and struggling to feel genuine when I wrote my assigned pieces. I could crank out a "good piece" very quickly; I could analyze a Bach concerto in minutes; but it wasn't enough to keep my mind busy. I wouldn't say it was too easy -- it just didn't provide the right type of challenge.

After finishing college with nearly all of the pre-med courses completed, I was accepted to Boston University School of Public Health with the option of applying to the School of Medicine upon completion of two semesters of organic chemistry. I decided I needed to take a year off for financial and mental health reasons. I liked my new job (which I've now been at for nine years) so much that I decided not to go back to school. I also failed my second semester of organic chemistry. I wasn't going to med school after all.

I've been through a lot in the last eight years. I toyed with the idea of going to Library Science school and becoming a librarian. My parents even offered to give me a full ride for that. I got as far as filling out the applications and writing an essay, but I couldn't bring myself to write a check for the application fee. It didn't feel right. I couldn't do that to myself or to my parents. I couldn't spend money on something that just wasn't right.

I started taking classes again - this time, medical terminology. I thought I'd get a certificate and start working part-time in a medical office. That didn't work out - I aced the class, but found out that it's darn near impossible to get a medical office job here in Cleveland because the market is saturated. Meanwhile, my professor saw that I was well above the level of the class and he encouraged me to take Anatomy & Physiology. It was at that point that I decided to take the pre-nursing courses.

What can I say? Aside from occupation, two other things define my life: my spirituality and my family. Both contributed to my intellect. Even though I am physically far away from my family (something I always expected to happen, because they were rarely in my dreams of the future) I remain fiercely loyal to them and I keep in close contact with my parents. I came to believe in Christ on my own, after years of family upbringing in the church during which I played along without knowing true faith.

It's because of my belief in Christ, and that God has a plan for all of us, that I am able to write this today. Despite serious medical problems, I am still alive. Despite severe depression and thoughts that I would die early, I am still alive. Despite lack of any plans beyond the age of 30, I am still alive. I believe that's because God has more work for me to do, and that until that work is done, I will still be alive. So I continue to do volunteer work, continue at this job, and continue to take classes, hoping and at the same time believing that I am on track to be where God wants me at the time He wills.


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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 11:10 am

I don't think I can even remember being 22! I'm sure I was having fun, but knowing there was more to life than I was experiencing.
Gordonsmall, you seem to have established a fairly good foundation to move forward from, because a bit of success and security at an early age never hurts. It is only natural that you feel there is more to life - because there is!! Just don't expect to find it all at once, - it takes time.
Just when I was probably most settled and established in my life, I was told I would probably never walk again. That was a bummer, not just for me, but for my wife, let me tell you. It changed a few plans. However, what do doctors and specialists know? Within a year I was walking normally, but in fairly constant pain. Then, eight years ago, I was told I would be in a wheelchair within 5 years. So what happened? I am now a karate instructor, have never been fitter, or more mobile and agile. I have a full and active life, but it is nothing like I thought it would be way back when. Life very rarely takes us where we plan on going.
The important thing is to develop the kind of attitude which will let you make the most of whatever circumstances you find yourself in. Right now you seem to have the potential to make whatever plans you want, so go for it.
But if you find that life gets in your way and changes your directions, make sure you look for the positives. And always remember that life is as much about giving as it is about receiving. Dream your dreams, and enjoy your realities. It doesn't matter if they aren't always the same thing.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 11:10 am

Depends on when in my life you asked me what I expected. In my school years I was devoted to getting into the Air Force Academy, and I would've told you I was going to go in the military then become an airline pilot. I was accepted at both USAFA and Annapolis, but decided that being gay and being in the military wasn't a route I wanted to take. So instead I went to college and then went to work in the travel industry, ending up with AA. If you'd asked me then I would've told you I would never leave the airlines, but ten years later I did. If you'd asked me five years ago if I was going to just pack up and move to Maui to start my own business I would've laughed you out of the room.

Now my only expectation is that things will change, and I look forward to those changes. I do know I'll be moving back to Seattle in six months, but beyond that, I don't know what I'll be doing or really care. I've proven to myself that I'm adaptable, I have skills from many different industries and I enjoy the ride.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 11:20 am

I graduate from college in May with a BA in Political Science and German. I never thought when I was in High School or even early on in college that I would be a Political Science and German major. Nor did I think I would have visited Europe 5 times by the time I was 23, join the Air National Guard, etc...

Right now I am stressing out about what job opportunities I will have once I graduate in May. Right now I don't have the desire to attend graduate school. I am not sure what one can do with a BA in Political Science. My German isn't good to teach or work as a translator.

My enlistment with the ANG is up in Feb '08 and I have seriously considered joining the Peace Corps once I am out of the military. Since that is years down the road my priorities might change, but it feels good to work towards something.

I guess like every other near graduate on the face of the earth I hope to find a good job after graduation. I don't care so much about money. I just want to enjoy what I do and feel motivated about going to work everyday.

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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 11:23 am

Has my life turned out the way I expected? No

Am I un-happy? No.


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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 6:00 pm

It has been a struggle to achieve my Goal.I plan it well,but the road is never as smooth as I Imagine.A lot of surprises,disapointments & sadness along the way.
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 7:05 pm

I don't think any one has a life that they planned, these thing don't happen. And besides, no matter what you have, people tend to always want more. Its human nature.
 
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Tue Oct 18, 2005 8:08 pm

Quoting ZKSUJ (Reply 31):
I don't think any one has a life that they planned, these thing don't happen.

I know in my case, and this is probably true for others, a lot of the things that have influenced my life have been beyond my control. For instance, being made redundant in 1990 had a huge impact on my way of life and necessitated a change of direction.

The world has changed. When I started working there were still jobs for life and nobody would have predicted the huge upheavals that have happened in the workplace in last 30-40 years. This alone has paid to some of the plans people of my age had.
 
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RE: Has Your Life Turned Out The Way You Expected?

Thu Oct 20, 2005 9:14 pm

Great topic.

I am a female in my late 30s, and my life has definitely turned out differently than I expected.

I had always wanted/assumed I'd be a mother. Not that I don't have any interest in working outside the home, but I have a very nurturing personality and thought that I would have been a great mom. And I always thought that if I were a mom, I would definitely be a full-time mom, and work part time after the kids were in school.

Also, my parents have been married over 50 years, and most of the elders in my family have been married about the same, so I was always brought up in an environment of marriage and family.

However, I am really the first of a generation of women who were not only expected to have a career, but pretty much discouraged from seeking full-time motherhood. As a result, college lead to working, which led to more working and moving up the career ladder. At the same time, our male counterparts, witnessing this "feminist revolution" bullshit have changed their attitudes about traditional family arrangements, making it very difficult for women in my position to find someone willing to commit to family life. (Except for the very religious, which I am not, not because there's anything wrong with it---I just don't personally connect with organized religion for some reason, although I wish I did at times.)

Now that I'm in my late 30s, with a successful career and a decent amount of freedom and disposable income, I can honestly say I AM happy. I have a long-term boyfriend who will soon become a fiance, but I honestly don't know if children will be in the picture---mainly because we have both lived on our own for so long (he's 42) that I think we have become almost spoiled with our lifestyle. We have a dog and that seems to be enough responsibility for both of us. However, we both do like children and enjoy spending time with his nephew who is precious, so who knows. It's likely that with my age it will be adoption vs. natural reproduction.

So, you never know how life will turn out. But that doesn't mean it's all bad if you don't achieve your dreams.

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