CcrlR
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My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 11:25 am

I have some unfortunate news for some of the ones I know on here my mother has passed away. Sorry for waiting until now because I was making arrangements.

My mother died about three days ago (October 19th) and it was very painful for me since I was very close to her. She was sick with Lymphoma and at first, she was doing good when she was admitted for a swollen left leg(that's when the doctors told me it was lymphoma) but things took a turn for the worse and she was in the Intensive Care Unit when she got really sick. When they gave her the chemotherapy(sorry about the spelling) she was having breathing problems and the doctors put her in sedation so the stuff could work but her blood pressure was dropping and her breathing got worse. So when I got a chance to talk to the doctors, that's when they told me that she had a slim chance of surviving and I had to prepare for the worse but she is not suffering anymore now.  crying 

So for the past week and a half, I was keeping in touch with the doctors and my other family members letting them know how she was doing but now I have been making arrangements with my aunt and other relatives for the funeral and burial. It's going to be a very tough time but she wanted me to still go on and finish college. So, I just wanted to let you all know and I was wondering if this has happened to anyone and how did they deal with it?

I know the next couple of months will be a little rough but I still have the memories of being with her and how she liked my hobby and fascination with airplanes. In conclusion I just wanted to let you know if you have any stories about experiencing a death of a loved one, and the grieving afterwards then just post them here.

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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 11:36 am

Hi Carl,
From my family to yours, you have our sincerest condolences. All the best.
Regards,
Richard
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atrude777
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 11:40 am

So sad to hear. Seems like everyone is loosing there mother these days. Sad

Best wishes to your family and especially you in this death. She is proud of you and now will be with you as you are flying among the skies. Smile

God Bless
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 12:11 pm

My condolences to you and your family.
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Kovi17
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 12:11 pm

I will be praying for you and your family, best wishes bro and keep your head up, you will be ok in time!
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 12:17 pm

I'm sorry to hear the bad news. My prayers go out to you and your family!

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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 12:21 pm

I'm deeply sorry to hear of your mother's death. My condolences to you and your family and you and your family shall be in my prayers.

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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 12:32 pm

I'm sorry to hear the bad news. My prayers go out to you and your family!
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 1:14 pm

I am so sorry to hear of this. I wish you the best of luck during this difficult time. But I believe that she is there, watching over you, and that if you keep your heart and mind open, you will be able to feel her presence... my sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Best,

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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 1:16 pm

The last thing any parent wants, especially a mother, is their child to be sad or unhappy. Your mother would be distressed to see you so unhappy. Think of the things she has done that make you smile. Think of how she is a part of you and the others around you. You are a living testament of her life and she lives on through you. What you accomplish in your life is her reward for raising a good son. Make her proud, be strong.

Celebrate her life. Be thankful for her. She lives in you for the rest of your life.
She must have been special as she has touched someone who never knew her.
My thoughts are with you Carl.
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TNboy
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 1:39 pm

Your mother must be very proud of the way you have handled things.

Grieving is very personal, and affects people differently. Sometimes we feel guilty because we really dont feel as heartbroken as we think we should. Usually this is for a couple of reasons - one because we have so many things that we have to do, that it keeps us occupied; two, because our defence systems kick in to protect us and shield us emotionally. Sometimes we unconsciously push back our grief until we think we are better able to handle it. But if you don't feel that you have grieved properly yet - this is quite normal. You will come to terms with everything in your own time.

And we don't HAVE to feel sad. We can feel a great loss and loneliness, and yet still have the most wonderful memories; and know that we have work to do, so that we know they will be proud of us.

Whatever you are feeling - it is what is right for you now. Don't fight your emotions, just take things as they come.

My condolences to you and your family in your loss; but please remember to celebrate a wonderful life.

Regards
Bill
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 2:50 pm

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I lost my dad to cancer nearly ten years ago now. It was very hard. My heart aches for you.

Know that it will get easier to bear, and part of her will always be with you. Also, if you have any strange dreams about her, they will eventually resolve...and maybe even with a peaceful message for you. That is what happened after my dad died, and has also happened to several of my friends when their loved ones died.

Big hugs for you and your family.
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 4:49 pm

Hi Carl,

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I remember seeing her when Jonathan and I came to Chicago a few years ago. I know it's very tough to lose someone that you really loved and that has been taken care of you all your life. My father has brain cancer and is currently going on chemo again with a stronger dosage then before, so it's going to be hard for him when I'm away at work since he lives by himself. I know how the pain can be. I'll pray for you, man.

My deepest sympathy.

Kevin
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 9:56 pm

My thoughts are with you. Like others said, find peace and comfort in the knowledge that you filled her life with love, and vice- versa.
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 10:15 pm

I don't know you but I can imagine your pain. Please accept my condolences and consolation. No one can really say anything that will take away the grief, but sometimes a little empathy can make it easier to bear.

I lost my father 15 years ago, and it was too soon as he was only 59. While the pain is still there, I temper it with memories of the things that made our relationship great. I feel incredibly lucky to have had such a father, and with that feeling he stays with me in my heart and soul.

April mentioned that you may have some dreams about your mother.....I had them about my father and so did some of my siblings. I think it was him making it easier for me to accept his loss......whether it was the influence on my subconscious he had from a lifetime of exposure working on my mind or his actual spirit spending a little more time...it helped. Let your memories and feelings help you through this.

Lean on your friends and family, and remember the good things as much as possible as we move into the holidays where it's going to be a little tough. It seems that you have some friends here who'll be ready to listen....
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 10:47 pm

Hi

Regards and condolences to you and your family at this time. A sad situation to be in.

All the best.

SUJ
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sat Oct 22, 2005 11:26 pm

CcrlR....my condolences and best wishes...
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CcrlR
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sun Oct 23, 2005 5:17 am

Quoting GOCAPS16 (Reply 12):
I remember seeing her when Jonathan and I came to Chicago a few years ago.

That was my aunt that I brought, but it's ok


Thanks to all of you that replied to my post and I will keep going on. I will be going through a whole lot but she wanted me to be happy.
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sun Oct 23, 2005 11:07 pm

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts!
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Sun Oct 23, 2005 11:17 pm

My sincere condolences. I know how you feel. I lost my mother when I was twelve.
Good advice, Kevin!

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Aleksandar
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Mon Oct 24, 2005 12:11 pm

I'm so sorry to hear that. My condolenses to you and your family.

After so many replies, there isn't much smart I could add. No matter how hard it is (and it hurts badly, I know), you must go on. It will take time for you to accept such a loss, especially because you're so young, but I hope your family and friends will be there for you. Also, there is this place and a bunch of airliner freaks, like myself, that will always be glad to do everything they can to make you feel better. If there's anything any of us can do for you, just say it. After so many hours every one of us spends here, we should also help a fellow A.netter.

I'm really sorry for your loss. May God bless the soul of your mother.

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Aleksandar
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Mon Oct 24, 2005 12:27 pm

Quoting CcrlR (Thread starter):
It's going to be a very tough time but she wanted me to still go on and finish college

Then you must keep on with your college andput all your energy into it. Make your mother really proud of you. Don't let anyone and anything to stand on your path to graduation. It will be hard now, but it is something you owe both to your mother and to yourself.
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duke
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Mon Oct 24, 2005 9:17 pm

My condolences, and I second what Aleksandar wrote. Hang in there.
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Mon Oct 24, 2005 10:46 pm

Thoughts and prayers are with you. The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society has a great outreach program and lots of wonderful people who have experienced the same thing. I hope you are doing as well as possible. Keep your head up and hang in tough there.

Texan
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Mon Oct 24, 2005 11:02 pm

God Bless.

I lost my father to multiple myeloma several years ago. All I can say is that there is no right way to cope with such a loss. I have two siblings and each of us had to deal with this in our own way. For me, I drew strength from my religious faith. It's one thing to go to mass every week and sit in a pew, it's another to really believe in life after death.

I'd never been a big reader of the bible, but I drew tremendous strength from certain passages. For the first time in my life they seemed to really have meaning to me.

But I know that religion isn't the answer for everyone. The one thing that does seem universal is that you have to let yourself experience the pain. Don't ignore it. Don't wish it away. If you do, it only hides beneath the surface.

Rely on your friends and family. You'll be amazed at how many people really want to help if you just let them.
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Tue Oct 25, 2005 12:45 am

Carl- My sympathies to you and your family. May you find some comfort and may God bless you through your struggle. I am coming to grips with the fact that my parents are getting older, having health issues, some rather serious, and I don't know how I'll handle it either. Hang in there- may the good memories you have and the thought that your Mom is watching approvingly buoy your spirits.
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Tue Oct 25, 2005 12:57 am

Quoting CcrlR (Thread starter):
she is not suffering anymore now

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First of all my condolences for the so early loss you suffered.
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Reminds me of my brother, who survived testicular cancer and spinal cancer, but 7 years later, after chemotheraphy etc, died at the age of 44 . crying} Such things are very bitter, but what can we do ? Generally spoken, do NOT mourn about what could have been, but always remember the good things, always remember her jokes, her pieces of advice.
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I myself survived cancer in 1988, since then have to go for check-ups twice per year, and as two lymphatic "channels" were cut during that surgery, two years ago had a lymphatic oedema and since then have to wear, most of the time, a rubber-stocking on the lower part of my right leg. All a bit of sh..., but you can GO ON ...
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my best wishes to you and your family, to overcome
 
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Tue Oct 25, 2005 4:20 am

I am sorry for your loss. I feel real bad, may she rest in peace.

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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Tue Oct 25, 2005 7:57 am

my condolences to you and all your family

time heals the pain but there just is never enough to fully lose the pain
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Tue Oct 25, 2005 9:02 am

May she rest in peace and may you and your family find the strength to get by during this diffucult time.
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CcrlR
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RE: My Mother Has Passed Away From Lymphoma

Wed Oct 26, 2005 10:11 am

Thanks a lot for posting and your your good words. I checked out the website from texan and I am going to be ok but just as I said it will be a painful time afterwards, and I will make it through As for me I have to go back and get ready for the funeral. I talked to some of her co-workers at this school she worked and they knew for all the good stuff she did as well as the nice stuff she did with this church orginization she is with.
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