jake056
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Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sat Oct 22, 2005 3:33 pm

Not to be a downer, but I think it is time i give the beer bottle the final salute.

Does anyone have any tips to make this happen? AA seems too religious for me, but short of that I'm open to anything.

Much thanks.
 
ScarletHarlot
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sat Oct 22, 2005 3:37 pm

Good for you for realizing that it's time to give up the beer. My parents were (are) alcoholics and it's not a pleasant thing. I monitor my own drinking to make sure I'm not displaying any signs of dependence.

I don't have any tips for you, but I wanted to wish you good luck.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sat Oct 22, 2005 4:06 pm

I have no tips either, though I agree that AA on the godly side, but good luck!
You might want to check with your employer to see if they have a program available as a benefit.
As it is Friday evening, I hope no bad event brought this decision about.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sat Oct 22, 2005 4:13 pm

Yeah, good luck. I'm basically a social drinker, and I enjoy a drink with meals. I gave it up once when I decided to go on a health binge, but I think I went back after six months. As I didnt drink heaps, it wasnt an issue.

Depending on your level of dependency, you may need some professional help, although not necessarily AA. I think its important to not simply replace booze with something else. If you are really serious, and think you have a fair chance of doing it unaided, just use your will power. The hardest times will be social occasions, or meals (or whenever you found drinking most enjoyable, or it had become basically a habit.) Make sure you have something to keep you occupied, and enlist the help of family and friends. It doesn't have to be a huge drama. "I'm cutting out booze, folks, so keep me talking and don't tempt me, eh?" should work.
Of course, if its a major issue, or the easier options don't work, seek some help. There's no point in trying if you aren't serious, so do whatever you need to make it work for you.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sat Oct 22, 2005 9:06 pm

Well having gone through some similar doubts and whatnot, you first need to decide if your drinking is a problem. And I don't necessarily mean whether it's causing strife in your relationships with people or anything. If YOU think your drinking is a problem, then it is a problem. Likewise, if others have approached you about it, then there's likely a problem there.

There's an alternative to AA called Smart Recovery. It's completely non-religious. It also isn't only for drinkers, so there are people who are attempting to stay off various drugs and other addictions. Here's the website:

http://www.smartrecovery.org/

I've been to a few meetings, and found them very helpful. It's basically a round-table discussion. Each person talks (if they so choose) but other people are free to give input or advice at any time. Much better than the few AA meetings to which I've been. However, no one can argue against AA's success rate. And from what I understand, not all AA meetings stress the religious aspect. I get the feeling that a lot of the time, it's left up to you.

Best of luck to you, and please let me know if you have any further questions.

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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sun Oct 23, 2005 7:11 pm

Good Luck. Its a big thing!!!

Giving up initially is all will power and self discipline more than anything else.
 
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Sun Oct 23, 2005 7:51 pm

Good luck mate hope you get there!

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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 24, 2005 1:18 am

Hi Jake,
Congratulations on your decision. I'm not sure what your situation is, nor how severe this has impacted you, but a decision like yours is almost never an easy one to execute. People give up alcohol for different reasons, and peoples' experiences are varied.

If you're looking for support cessation techniques, and want to avoid AA, I'd suggest calling your local public health department. Most PHDs have countless resources at their disposal that can assist you.

If your situation is more severe, and your drinking has impacted your work, family, friends, health, etc. You may want to speak to your doctor about getting yourself some more formal, structured or even supervised support.

All the best man. Power to you.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 24, 2005 3:59 am

Quoting Jake056 (Thread starter):
Does anyone have any tips to make this happen?

Switch to whiskey.

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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 24, 2005 11:10 am

I quit 12 years ago. Did some AA until I got tired of the whining, but most importantly I filled my time with other things, mostly martial arts. Went on a small health binge. Just had to keep busy when I'd normally be sitting in a bar. Had to change most of my social life because interestingly, all my friends were drunks and they were often trying to tempt me. I truly believe they did not want me to succeed.
I have a masters in alcoholism and I wish you luck. Feel free to ask for help.
 
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 24, 2005 11:15 am

I usually have a drink once a day or once every couple of days... It is usually enough to gimme a buzz. I figure one is enough.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Tue Oct 25, 2005 12:57 am

Quoting ZKSUJ (Reply 5):
Giving up initially is all will power and self discipline more than anything else.

Even the strongest people battle with this, however, and that's where AA's success revolves around--faith, some source of inner strength, a support network, etc.

One day at a time- Jake, one day at a time. I hope you find the help you need and can be successful.
 
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Tue Oct 25, 2005 1:24 am

Find a hobby you can do when you would otherwise be drinking.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 31, 2005 3:20 pm

Immerse yourself in something you really like. Learn a language, spend a day at the public library, ... Whatever you do; good luck!  Smile

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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 31, 2005 3:55 pm

Good choice, I totally support you. It's so overrated, everyone here in college talks about it. I can never walk to class without hearing, "Oh man, I got so messed up last night" or "Yeah I'm getting wasted later." Usually these are the kids who skip classes and do poorly on exams.
 
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Mon Oct 31, 2005 11:11 pm

Good choice.Tough one to make.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Tue Nov 01, 2005 1:12 am

Have kids.... great way not to want to drink in the evening in case they have you up all night.

And with the clocks going back their early morning wake up was even earlier.
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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Tue Nov 01, 2005 1:16 am

Sorry, my personal opinion is one that you are mentally retarded. Sabena332 will also agree albeit probably delete this very post.  Wink

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RE: Stopping Drinking. Wow, I Said It

Tue Nov 01, 2005 1:31 am

Quoting Jake056 (Thread starter):
Does anyone have any tips to make this happen? AA seems too religious for me, but short of that I'm open to anything.

Very bold move, and very commendable.

Having a very close family member who recently went into Rehab and cleaned themself up from addiction to alcohol gives me some insight into this.

You don't mention whether or not it is a problem other than a health choice (which is fine as well), however, in the case of my relative, it was their choice to decide to get help.

Not that rehab is a place you would need to go, but AA is definitely a good choice. Yes, does revolve around religion, but if you take the religion out of it, and replace it with a higher power, even someone who has passed away that you were dearly close to, and use that versus using a "god" figure, etc, it can help. My relative was NOT a religious person, and is finding the AA meetings to be helpful.

Other helpful tips --

--> Identify why you need/want to drink. Do you drink at certain times of the day?

--> Take up a hobby that changes your lifestyle. I.E, reading, exercising, or even taking educational courses to help shore-up your education, while getting you away from the "normal" day to day experiences that you find yourself drinking in.

The biggest single factor is you need help and support from your family and friends. Discussing with them your wishes, will definitely help. There's nothing more frustrating than trying to quit a bad habit (smoking, drinking etc) and having your friends light up cigarettes around you, etc. Not that you expect people to become 'clean' around you, but discussing your intent with them will allow them to make better choices on when and where to do their own bad habits around you.

I wish you luck. The family member I am speaking of in my experience has done tremendously well, and actually surprised all of us in my family immensely. I wish you luck.

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