lnglive1011yyz
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Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 8:53 am

Well..

It's time folks. I'm 28 years old, and I'm looking at purchasing a condo apartment for the first time..

Yes, I've been living at home until now.

I'm finding mixed feelings on leaving, obvious joy, happiness, and a sense of pride, but at the same time, I'm also sad and feeling a bit 'sick to my stomach' so to speak..

My question to all you out there who have taken the 'plunge' outta the 'nest' so to speak is, can you give advise on how to quell the nervousness, etc?

Thanks!

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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 8:56 am

Just vote Conservative and your life will be perfect.  Yeah sure
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 9:02 am

Quoting Lnglive1011yyz (Thread starter):
My question to all you out there who have taken the 'plunge' outta the 'nest' so to speak is, can you give advise on how to quell the nervousness, etc?

Leave ten years ago when you were still indestructible!!

Mate, what can I say? You must have the best parents in the world, I couldn't wait to get away from my parents and as a parent my kids can't wait to get away from me, I have unreasonable expectations of them (like hygiene and financial independence).

Provided you have a broad range of vices (sex, drugs, rock & roll, pornography etc) you will soon wonder why you didn't leave earlier, there is nothing so good as the freedom you get from living on your own.

Trouble is, then you move in a boyf/girlf after a few years, have kids/pets and end up back where you started but with the boot on the other foot.

Enjoy it while it lasts!!!!  Smile
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 11:54 am

Wow, you sure have been enjoying the benefits of home for quite a while haven;t you??

I moved out when I was 17 (I am now going on 22). I would never go back to live with my parents for any length of time (longer than a holiday). Don't get me wrong, my parents are awesome people- just wouldn't want to live under their roof. Seriously, don't be nervous about being out there on your own (especially at 28). I am sure you won't find it scary at all once the time comes, the weirdness wears off after like 3 days.

Go for it!
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 12:33 pm

Hey Mike, i was 28 when i left the home. I was going out wit h my "future" wife when we decided to buy a house together. We bought one in the same town whre my parents lived...Whitby, you know that place  Wink

I remember having mixed feelings. Sad, happy...a sort of freedom. It was easy to adjust as i was a 2 minute drive from my parents and a good meal.

What i rememmber very well is how my dad took me aside and told me that my mom was sadened by my departure. She was all happy and brave everytime i saw her but apparently see was sad that her "little" boy was not always there. Ya i know iwas 28 but i can sort of see it being tough watching my own little girls getting older and knowing that they will leave home. It's difficult to explain.

Any idea of where you may be buying, renting? My wife is a whiz with www.mls.ca  Wink

Well, your obviously very close to your parents, as was i, just keep the contact and enjoy everything that comes with being a home owner including paying house taxes and the like.  smile 
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 12:36 pm

Thanks to everyone for all their great comments  Smile I appreciate it  Smile

Quoting YooYoo (Reply 4):
Any idea of where you may be buying, renting? My wife is a whiz with www.mls.ca

Lol. Yeah, I've found a good property, the thing is, I haven't done enough investigation. I need to find out more stuff such as how much other units int he condo are going for, etc. I dont' want to make a snap-judgement, so I'm going to look into it further..

Is your wife a real-estate agent?

LOL

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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 12:42 pm

Quoting Lnglive1011yyz (Reply 5):
Is your wife a real-estate agent?

No sorry.

If i may.... be weary of the Plowman team. They are not true to their word. Very disappointed with them.

Staying in the area?
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 12:59 pm

You will be fine, good luck.
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 1:49 pm

About 10 years too late I think . . .

Walk out and don't look back . . .

Check your package and drive forward . . .
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 8:56 pm

At 28 it is certainly about time to move out in my oppinion. But as mentioned previously, that's some parents you have there, not forcing you out of the house.

Personally I moved out at 21, half a year ago. Too busy to miss home, but I can't wait to get an appartment near my hometown again.

Still not living on my own though, currently sharing an appartment with a girl, so no chance to relax about how the place looks.  Smile'

Tidy tidy tidy...

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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 9:13 pm

Quoting Lnglive1011yyz (Thread starter):
Yes, I've been living at home until now.

Well, duh. All of us live at home, except for the wonderful world of travelling salesmen and long-distance truckers, who might live in hotels and vehicles.

Quoting Lnglive1011yyz (Thread starter):
My question to all you out there who have taken the 'plunge' outta the 'nest' so to speak is, can you give advise on how to quell the nervousness, etc?

My response was to get drunk on a regular basis, have sex in the living room, do drugs, and generally act like a complete fool for a couple of years. Of course, I was a university student, so that behaviour might be considered normal. I grew out of all that by the time I was 21, (except for the sex in the living room bit - the kids took care of that later). At 28, I don't know what you would do. Try getting drunk and see where you go from there Big grin
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RE: Leaving The Nest (home) For The First Time..

Thu Feb 23, 2006 10:37 pm

Quoting YooYoo (Reply 6):
No sorry.

If i may.... be weary of the Plowman team. They are not true to their word. Very disappointed with them.

Staying in the area?

Thanks for the advice -- I'm doing the negotiating myself (it's a power-of-sale, i'm negotiating with the real-estate agent whos working for the bank).

Quoting ANCFlyer (Reply 8):
About 10 years too late I think . . .

Walk out and don't look back . . .

Check your package and drive forward . . .

LOL thanks  Smile

Quoting Thom@s (Reply 9):
At 28 it is certainly about time to move out in my oppinion. But as mentioned previously, that's some parents you have there, not forcing you out of the house.

Well, it wasn't just about me staying there and/or them forcing me out -- I am also helping them with the mortgage as well. Our lives are changing rapidly (some personal stuff in the family) and they may not need me any further for help, so it was time.

I've been very fortunate and I've had great support from my family. yes ,it is time to go!

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