AR385
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Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Sun Apr 09, 2006 3:32 pm

My father passed away 1 year ago. My mother and him were together for 35 years. I finally convinced my mother to start going out again, and today she went to a daughter's best friend wedding. She was sitting in a table with her friends, when this couple sat. The guy, ended up next to my mother, and he starts chatting her up, and then, "feeling her up" to the point my mother had to leave. Now I feel like an idiot. I've been telling her to go out more etc. and when she starts, she has this experience.

My mother is a distinguished, elegant 64 year old widow. She does not deserve this type of crap from a 42 year old piece of sh...

I feel like getting together with my brother and teaching this guy a lesson. We know him after all.

Is this reasonable? Have you been in similar situations? Should I go and teach this ass...how to behave? I'm really angry now.
 
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Sun Apr 09, 2006 3:39 pm

Don't bother with the whole, "teach him a lesson" violence thing. If there's one thing that will distress your mother further it would be if you and your brothers open yourself up to getting in trouble or hurt, as a result of her situation.

This is clearly a situation that would embarass him a lot. Why not just publically shame him by telling the story to a few mutual friends?
 
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Sun Apr 09, 2006 10:35 pm

Quoting KiwiinOz (Reply 1):
Why not just publically shame him by telling the story to a few mutual friends?

good answer! I like this idea

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AR385
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Mon Apr 10, 2006 3:45 am

Quoting KiwiinOz (Reply 1):
Don't bother with the whole, "teach him a lesson" violence thing. If there's one thing that will distress your mother further it would be if you and your brothers open yourself up to getting in trouble or hurt, as a result of her situation.

Of course you are right. You are suggesting the sensible thing to do. Still, the first time you are told the story, there's something visceral inside your brain that kicks in (and it has nothing to do with any macho ideas) when a close person to you is bothered, especially in such circumstances by such a bum.

In this case the situation is more complex, as I feel responsible for insisting so much on her to go out. What could go wrong at you daughter's best friend wedding right? Well, an ass.. seating next to you.
 
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Mon Apr 10, 2006 3:53 am

Quoting AR385 (Reply 3):
In this case the situation is more complex, as I feel responsible for insisting so much on her to go out. What could go wrong at you daughter's best friend wedding right? Well, an ass.. seating next to you.

This type of behavior can happen anywhere today.

Quoting KiwiinOz (Reply 1):
This is clearly a situation that would embarass him a lot. Why not just publically shame him by telling the story to a few mutual friends?

Do the above, and by the time the story gets around, he really will look like an ass.
 
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Mon Apr 10, 2006 3:56 am

Quoting AR385 (Reply 3):
In this case the situation is more complex, as I feel responsible for insisting so much on her to go out.

it is not your fault ... you were absolutely right to try to get your mother to go out and socialise ... don't let one total wanker stop you from trying again either ... your mother (and the 'name & shame' idea is brilliant ...but just think first about whether it is going to eventually end up getting back to your mother and upsetting her even more . )
 
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Mon Apr 10, 2006 6:32 am

Quoting Kiwiandrew (Reply 5):

Agree

I would at least scare the piss out of him. Damn fool!
 
AR385
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Tue Apr 11, 2006 1:39 pm

I have started the telling other people thing today. I hope it works. The two things I hate more in the world are abuse to women and abuse to animals. Probably that's why my reaction in the beginning was so strong. I guess cooler heads are the ones that need to prevail these days. Anyway, thanks for the advice.
 
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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Tue Apr 11, 2006 2:04 pm

That's unfortunate that this should happen on her first social event like this. After you've done shaming the guy, make sure you don't forget your mother and encourage her to go out again. There are lowlifes out there but thankfully they're the minority.

If she's nervous about going out offer to escort her (either discretely or indiscretely) - this will give her the confidence that you're there watching her back.

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RE: Your Seatmates In A Wedding

Tue Apr 11, 2006 3:03 pm

Quoting AR385 (Thread starter):
I feel like getting together with my brother and teaching this guy a lesson.

Teach him a lesson.But see that your mom does not know.
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