A few weeks ago I asked for advice concerning my teenage daughter, who has run away from home in Sacramento, Ca., after a fight with her mother.
Here is an update:
About a week ago, I finally got into contact with her after spending several days calling the police and her school. She spent two weeks in some undisclosed location she wouldn't speak about, but then, through a friend, turned to a Mexican woman (this friend's niece), who is a social worker working with criminal teenagers. Since then she has been staying with this lady, who has convinced her to go back to school.
She still refuses to return to her mother and clearly states that if forced to return, she would run away again. On the other hand she wants to stay in Ca, where her friends live. I also agree that at her stage a change back to the German school system (and different curriculum) would just impede her progress. After springbreak she is supposed to work on an intensive programme made up of homestudy and tution by a teacher to catch up on what she has missed.
The missing persons report is still filed, but at the moment not active while the Child Protective Services evaluate the case, since her current residence is known to the police and she is not hiding anymore.
Her mother, who believes in absolute obidience, if necessary enforced with a stick, is furious because I refuse to back her notion that Jessica should return to her. She also realised that, once Jessica is not living with her anymore, the child support I pay every month will go to the caretaker of Jessica instead of her and she might have problems with her mortgage payments (Tough sh*t!).
She will also loose a lot of face within the Filipino community in Sacramento if Jessica is being taken out of her care.
Currently the CPS and police are checking out the background of the woman Jessica is staying with (she is in her early 20s and Jessica sees her as something like an older sister), and if it agrees with what I've been told by her and Jessica, I wouldn't have a problem in giving my consent that Jessica will stay there permanetly. She seems to genuinely care about Jessica and she seems to be able to handle her (she already made her quit smoking).
She is still in love with the guy with the criminal history (gangbanger, drug dealer, car thief), but apparently they had a fight a few weeks ago and as a result he doesn't contact her anymore. I'm actually quite happy about this development, though I wouldn't tell it to her face. I hope this love will fizzle out soon and maybe she'll find somebody more appropiate.
[Edited 2006-04-15 01:13:57]