klm672
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The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:26 am

This is pretty common i guess. I new movie store opened up next door to my work (a grocery store) and i went in the movie store to open an account and the attendent is pretty cute. Luckly working right next to her I can see her often and am able to see when she works (ok so it sounds like i am "stalking" already, but i am not) Working with the public I know there is a fine line between being friendly and being labeled a stalker-it has happened at my store although it was more of the guy being 40 and the girl being 24 and the guy being 35 or so and the girls being 16-20. I know the girl and I are the same age because when i opened the account she took my driver's license and she's like "Are you under 18?" I'm like "no, I'll be 20 in June." She's like "oh.. yeah we're born in the same year, duh!" Ok so she's not the brightist girl out there, but I'll give it to her it was 9:30 at night. I was wondering what are some good ideas to get to know this girl and not come off as a creep or stalker?

[Edited 2006-04-22 22:49:10]
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:56 am

Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter):
I was wondering what are some good ideas to get to know this girl and not come off as a creep or stalker?

Talking to her would most likely help.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 6:19 am

Obviously, but even being to talkative and not knowing what to say come off wrong, I am just nevous because I've seen it so many times.
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 6:51 am

Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter):
ok so it sounds like i am "stalking" already, but i am not

That's what all stalkers say.  biggrin 

Quoting KLM672 (Reply 2):
being to talkative and not knowing what to say come off wrong, I

Well, obviuosly don't talk about the holocaust, Star Trek, or your latest Calculus exam. Just be yourself and be friendly. The worst she can say is no. As much as hearing that suck there are more fish in the sea just waiting to be caught.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 6:54 am

Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter):
Ok so she's not the brightist girl out there,

Neither are you, since you cannot spell the word brightest.

Do you want me to come over there and just ask her out for you? I have no problem in doing that.

Every one of your threads about these girls would be solved if you did not find them on myspace.com or if you actually talked to them in REAL LIFE.
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 8:00 am

Ask her if she believes in casual sex on the first date. Big grinD
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 8:44 am

Ask her out, what's the worst she can say?

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 9:18 am

Buy her a snowglobe, ask her what her next flight is...and then track it!

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 9:29 am

Ask her for a movie reccommendation. Ask her what she like in movies. Get a conversation going. Ask her what the last movie she saw was. Then ask her out to for dinner and a movie some night.

A leads to B, which leads to C. Not hard really once you get over the nervous nellies and grow a set of cojones.
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 10:18 am

It's a pretty good setup, but if you're nervous enough to ask strangers for help you might want to take things a little slow.

Ask her for some movie recommendations when the store isn't too busy and see if you can get a conversation going. After you've chatted about movies a couple times and branched out into other topics, why not ask her to join you for lunch? Once you've had a chance to chat over lunch ask her on a date. This doesn't all have to occur on the same day and in your case it probably shouldn't.

If you want to know how to avoid looking like a creep, just be relaxed about it and don't act like it's a do-or-die thing that you can't handle losing. Maybe this girl isn't the one or maybe you're just not quite ready to be Mr. Smooth yet. No problem. Just remember that every girl is, at the very least, a chance to practice for the next. The only reason you're on here asking questions is because you haven't been talking to enough girls. Eventually this will become secondhand knowledge to you and you'll be able to work on your own without any hesitation.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 1:36 pm

You should rent some sappy love story (like Elizabethtown) and when you hand it to her, just sorta look away and be like "I wish I had someone to watch it with, but since my girlfriend just left me, I'll just watch it alone, oh well." Trust me, it works.  Wink
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 2:33 pm

This is how I met my wife, I worked at a video store, she worked at the sandwich shop down the street. I would go there on my breaks to buy dinner. That was my cover story anyway and not the real reason I was going there. We would just make friendly conversation, which developed into flirting, at which point it became easy.
Stop in to rent movies after work and try to strike up a conversation. As others have said, a good way to start this would be to ask her what movies she recommends. You could also ask her to look up movies you can't find in the store and talk while you guys are walking to find it and away from the counter. Pick the movies wisely, just go with old comedies or something. Once you've done that a few times, you could ask her if she can help you find a movie that some actor was in but you can't remember the name of the movie. Our store had a reference book for this thing, so I would often have to look this sort of thing up. All perfectly suitable reasons to talk to her. Ask her for her name after she helps you the first time, thank her by name, and refer to her by her name from that point on.
It's probably pretty likely she'll stop in to where you work at some point, so be sure to lend a helping hand. Get to know her just a little bit and ask her to go do something. There's really no need to be nervous about it, unless you really are stalking her but I wouldn't call any of these things out of line. Be polite and confident- and you don't have to put pressure on yourself to think of exactly the right things to say. Talk and go with the flow, like talking to one of your buddies.

[Edited 2006-04-23 07:36:23]
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 2:44 pm

Dude, one word for you: RELAX!

You obviously don't have the skill to just bust out and ask her, so take it slowly. Rent movies, make small talk, you'll find out more about her that you could possibly use to your advantage in this wooing process.

As for which movies to rent, don't go with anything too lame, i.e.: shit like Street Fighter, Van Damme movies, chick flicks (this will totally give away your intentions, no sane heterosexual male willingly watches these movies.)
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 3:10 pm

Quoting Senorcarnival (Reply 12):
As for which movies to rent, don't go with anything too lame, i.e.: shit like Street Fighter, Van Damme movies, chick flicks (this will totally give away your intentions, no sane heterosexual male willingly watches these movies.)

I have composed a list of following movies that will probably work for you:

What women want, Sleepless in Seattle, Maid in Manhattan, You've got mail, 13 going on 30, Ghost, Elizabethtown, Uptown Girls, Kate and Leopold and Runaway Bride.
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 3:18 pm

Quoting Frontiercpt (Reply 10):
You should rent some sappy love story (like Elizabethtown) and when you hand it to her, just sorta look away and be like "I wish I had someone to watch it with, but since my girlfriend just left me, I'll just watch it alone, oh well." Trust me, it works.

HUH?

If you're gonna do this, you oughta save the time and effort, and just tell her you've go no balls. And any potential relationship would definitely involve HER wearing the pants...

Quoting LOT767-300ER (Reply 13):
What women want, Sleepless in Seattle, Maid in Manhattan, You've got mail, 13 going on 30, Ghost, Elizabethtown, Uptown Girls, Kate and Leopold and Runaway Bride.

The way I see it... all of these type of movies are date movies... not movies you should use to define yourself to someone who doesn't know you. Rent these movies for one of your dates when your goal is to be doing anything BUT watching the movie by the ending of it.  Wink

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 3:31 pm

Quoting Frontiercpt (Reply 10):
You should rent some sappy love story (like Elizabethtown) and when you hand it to her, just sorta look away and be like "I wish I had someone to watch it with, but since my girlfriend just left me, I'll just watch it alone, oh well." Trust me, it works.

What a Tool. You obviously are pussywhipped in a relationship (assuming you have gotten pussy, which by this post seems very VERY unlikely)

I had this same situation play out last summer. A kindve hot girl worked at a gas station I would always stop at on my way home. I had the balls and just straight asked her the second or third time I was in there if she wanted to do something, and she said yeah. I had a good time w/ her a couple times, got what I wanted out of it, and then I cut ties. But go for it man, don't be like 90% of the people on here, just go for it.

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 3:38 pm

Quoting Copaair737 (Reply 15):
What a Tool. You obviously are pussywhipped in a relationship (assuming you have gotten pussy, which by this post seems very VERY unlikely)

Read his profile, (no offense, Frontiercpt) I don't think he cares for the poontang.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:39 pm

Quoting DeltaGator (Reply 3):
Well, obviuosly don't talk about the holocaust, Star Trek, or your latest Calculus exam.

Are you kidding? That's how I met my wife! She was visiting my roommate's girlfriend in our apartment in college and saw my hollusion poster of the Enterprise and asked if it was from the Original series or TNG. It was love at first mind meld!  couple 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Sun Apr 23, 2006 10:59 pm

Quoting Copaair737 (Reply 15):
assuming you have gotten pussy, which by this post seems very VERY unlikely)

Well, since I'm gay.....I'm not exactly on a pussy hunt right now.
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Mon Apr 24, 2006 1:19 am

Quoting UH60FtRucker (Reply 14):

The way I see it... all of these type of movies are date movies... not movies you should use to define yourself to someone who doesn't know you. Rent these movies for one of your dates when your goal is to be doing anything BUT watching the movie by the ending of it. Wink

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Just go with old comedies, stuff you'd actually watch. The plus side of this is that you aren't wasting your money.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:32 am

Quoting Frontiercpt (Reply 18):

Well, since I'm gay.....I'm not exactly on a pussy hunt right now.

Didn't see that one buddy. I was a tad drunk last night when I posted my last posts of the night. If I had looked....then I prolly wouldn't have posted the first part.

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Mon Apr 24, 2006 6:39 am

Quoting Copaair737 (Reply 20):

LOL, don't worry, I figured you were a tad off, no harm done  Wink

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Mon Apr 24, 2006 7:43 am

Start small talk and take it easy.
You need to be enjoying it and relaxed - if possible  Smile - because it shows on your face. Then it'll be much easyer.
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Quoting KLM672 (Reply 2):
I am just nevous because I've seen it so many times.

One day you'll see that there was no reason for being nervous.

And make sure she deserves you, i mean if she doesnt smile back and is super cold with you, then you dont want to keep trying because she'll make you feel like a jerk and you dont need that now. You need a girl that smiles back to whatever you say and makes you feel relaxed and good about yourself.

Well you seem to have already forgotten her perfectly understandable, from your description she doesnt sound like the woman of your life. But if you find her cute she's woth a shot.

Dont do like me, dont smoke too much pot and wait until you're 24 to start talking to women.

[Edited 2006-04-24 00:45:31]
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 7:35 am

Nah, haven't forgotten about her, just had a few days off. I work until 5:30PM tomorrow, i notice she does the night shift i'll either just miss her or she'll just be starting. Right now there are two people (her and some sort of shiftleader or trainer i'm assume since it just opened) so i hope she'll direct my question rather then the other women.
Thanks again for the tips!
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 7:47 am

Quoting UH60FtRucker (Reply 14):
The way I see it... all of these type of movies are date movies... not movies you should use to define yourself to someone who doesn't know you. Rent these movies for one of your dates when your goal is to be doing anything BUT watching the movie by the ending of it.



Quoting YeahitsK (Reply 19):
Quoting UH60FtRucker (Reply 14):

The way I see it... all of these type of movies are date movies... not movies you should use to define yourself to someone who doesn't know you. Rent these movies for one of your dates when your goal is to be doing anything BUT watching the movie by the ending of it. Wink



Just go with old comedies, stuff you'd actually watch. The plus side of this is that you aren't wasting your money.

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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 9:44 am

You know....not every problem has an equation to solve it. Casual conversation is the best idea, and if I were you, i'd start renting more movies.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 10:25 am

Try to make conversation....
When she talks back to you pay atention to what she is saying, 90% of the time she will say someting to fuel the conversation more like:

I cant stand such and such, thats the cue for you to make a coment and to ask WHY...keep it flowing and remember SHE WILL LEAD.

Look at her face, dont look at her body, smile and nod, but dont be like a dork or a fool babling.

If you do this and keep it relaxed and casual (having a good sense of humor is a very strong point), this works perfect...

If the work theme comes up say something like, mmmm I think we will never be on a movie date, because you seen em all, so how about (insert another activity here)?

I so easy to pick up girls, just listen to them and be cool...
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 11:25 am

Quoting LOT767-300ER (Reply 24):

You guys would not know sarcasm If It came up to you with a 12 inch dildo and smacked both of you in the face for the love of god.

Sarcasm happens to be one of those things that doesn't come across very well over an internet forum. Would it kill you to use a  Wink? Just looking out for our boy KLM, thought you were giving him some bad advice. Interesting weapon of choice for your sarcasm BTW.
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 10:43 pm

Lets hope she's single...but there is only one way to find that one out too.
Will check the store tonight, tomorrow I work until 7:30 so I'll wonder over there too.
thanks again

sorry for the double post, i pressed submit then saw my error and pressed edit.

[Edited 2006-04-25 15:52:33]
 
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RE: The Cute Girl At The Local Shop Scenario

Tue Apr 25, 2006 10:44 pm

Lets hope she's single...but there is only one way to find that one out too.
Will check the store tonight, tomorrow I work until 7:30 so I'll wonder over there too.
thanks again

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