aa61hvy
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Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 12:55 pm

Alright I'll give the brief scoop.

I dated a girl during high school and part of college. She dumped me the night before my 20th birthday (the night before 3 major tests) on the phone. We dated for two and half years.

I am currently dating a chick who I've been with for almost 2 years (2 years exactly in one week). She strongly dislikes my ex girlfriend, for screwing me over..Her words "she dumped you, she lost"

Now my ex girlfriend has been texting me and actually just called me 5 minutes ago about meeting up. She goes to school a few hours from here, but does not come to DFW much. I don't know if I should meet up with her. We broke up 2 and 1/2 years ago. I am not bitter towards her now. But I don't know if I should meet up with her. The convo I just had with her was real awkward.
Exact conversation: (M:her R: me)
M: hey whats up
R: nothin just chillin
M: I was just letting you know I'll be in Dallas on Sunday, if you want to meet up.
R: Oh for real? I don't know what I'm doing Sunday, I don't plan that far ahead.
M: Oh. I mean no pressure, whatever.
R: No worries, I'll be in Dallas for a long time, so there is no rush.
M: Okay well that's fine, I'll guess I'll talk to you later.
R: Alright, later.
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Now keep in mind, I'm a little drunk right now.
Do I have a desire to see her? Sure, I want to rub it in her face that I'm doing fine. I always feel like we get into a competition every time we talk. Do I think some feelings may be kicked up to the surface that I still have for her when I see her? Sure. Do I owe it to her to see her? Should I see her? Should I tell my current girlfriend if I do see her?

I told me Ex the day she dumped me-'You will regret this, and you will realize you made a mistake.' Was I right?

The breakup was messy-very messy-KROC can attest to this as he heard most of it (thanks again brother).

So what do you guys think I should do? I'm clueless right now.
Thanks guys!

If you guys need more info ask away I'm not shy.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:02 pm

Ryan man, I would not even go near that, that's asking for trouble, you got a great thing going with Jac, this other girl could harm something that is good. I would just ignore her and move along with out her.
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:08 pm

Quoting AC777LR (Reply 1):
Ryan man, I would not even go near that, that's asking for trouble

I 2nd that!

X-GFs are nothing but trouble! Trust me.. i learned the hard way.
 
aa61hvy
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:12 pm

The best advice I have ever heard was: 'Ex girlfriends are called Ex for a reason, they aint your girl anymore so leave em alone.' That was from my former trainer at the gym.

I'm thinking that applies here.
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:39 pm

Yup. I flew 2500 miles, albiet I was able to N/R all but 900 miles of it, and I was only out $35, for an ex. Sure I suppose you can say I payed $35 to get laid...Stupid...I know...  banghead 

But once I got back on that A320 in RDU headed to MSP to come back home, I realized why we broke up. Don't do it, you'll regret it, and if your current GF hates her, and you keep it from her the fact that you met up (even if it's just for lunch and/or coffee or whatnot), she'll never trust you again. Better to just leave well enough alone...
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:46 pm

GQ-I think you are right man. Every time I talk to her, I think why did I just do that. Could be a possible hook up-lord knows it was good- but it was screw things up so bad in my life and thats the last thing I need right now.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 2:52 pm

Ryan, Unless you know for a fact you aren't going to marry your current girlfriend, don't do it. You are too old for this shit.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:11 pm

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 5):
Every time I talk to her, I think why did I just do that.

Looks like you just answered your own question my friend. Wait until you're sober, you don't have the beer goggles on, and you're not thinking with your dick (well, not as much anyway).
 
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:42 pm

Nay, i'm afraid.

Been there, done that, not good.

Stay well clear man, trust me  Smile



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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:42 pm

With no current girlfriend in the picture, I would have said go for it just to see how you feel. In the midst of a 2 year relationship, however, don't do it.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:46 pm

i don't know man. I'm going through a smiliar thing right now. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 2 months ago and she wants to keep contact with me. But I'm not too fond of it tbh.
I mean it's up to you, but make sure you don't hurt your current gf with it, cause that's not worth it.
I would sort your feelings first and be sure what you really wand and what you really think of her.

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:48 pm

Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Now keep in mind, I'm a little drunk right now.

Well then drink some more and go see her.  Wink
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:51 pm

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Well then drink some more and go see her

How typical of you Alex  Wink



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Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:58 pm

If you are happy Currently with your Partner.Don't Screw it up.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 6:56 pm

I presume your current girlfriend will kill you before you even manage to meet up if she finds out.
 
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 7:02 pm

Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Do I have a desire to see her? Sure, I want to rub it in her face that I'm doing fine.

The most effective way to show her that you're doing fine is to show her that you don't see much purpose in getting together anymore.

If you've really moved on, then move on.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 7:10 pm

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Now keep in mind, I'm a little drunk right now.

Well then drink some more and go see her.

Classic Alex!  Wink

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 8:00 pm

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Well then drink some more and go see her.

So that is why you sleep with such ugly women...
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 9:05 pm

What are you guys on about?  Silly

I highly doubt she wants to see you because she wants to start a new relationship- but because she wants to talk about what happened. Nothing more, nothing less- this isn't an attempt to win you back (if it was, she would've tried sooner, not two years into the future), but probably an attempt to "kiss and make up" and win you back as a FRIEND- nothing more.

I say go see her. Make it clear from the beginning that you have a girlfriend (in fact, tell her before you even go see her- if she then tells you not to come, you certainly know what she was trying to do...). If she tries to make any "approaches", leave. But seriously, man- isn't what you have going with your current girlfriend strong enough to keep you from having feelings for this girl again? If not, I say your relationship is doomed  Wink Sorry.

Oh, and do tell your current girlfriend- if she learns that you went to see your ex from someone else, you'll be in deep shit, because THAT, my friend, is VERY suspicious Big grin

And while you're at it, ask your girlfriend what she thinks. You COULD also take her along (unless you think she's gonna go nuts and kick the living daylights out of your ex that is). If she's really, really, REALLY against it (not in a "I hope you know what you're doing" way, but "IF YOU DO THIS, I'LL FRIGGIN LEAVE YOU!" way), don't... and explain to your ex that your girlfriend would be uncomfortable with you going.

Do you owe it to her? Not really. She dumped you. But if she just wants to talk to you, maybe explain why, how and so on, I think it'd be a good idea.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 9:30 pm

Quoting Jap (Reply 18):
ask your girlfriend what she thinks

His current GF already said she doesn't like the ex because of what she's done to him, so why would she be cool with lettting him see her just to catch up on old times? I see warning lights, and I'd say just avoid a fight and avoid any ruffled feathers and just don't go. It would probably be better on the current relationship. It might be pretty interesting to bring his current gf with...assuming she's open to the idea. Then he can just sit back and watch the fur fly...  bigthumbsup 
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 10:03 pm

I say you grow a pair and decide for yourself. Did you ever consider that the reason she dumped you may be because you make decisions based on the input of strangers on an internet message board?
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 11:25 pm

The fact that you have to ask means its a bad idea...
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Fri Jun 30, 2006 11:28 pm

Quoting Pope (Reply 20):
I say you grow a pair and decide for yourself. Did you ever consider that the reason she dumped you may be because you make decisions based on the input of strangers on an internet message board?

No she dumped be because I was 1,000 miles away for over a year...And guess what? Now I'm 3 miles away from her.

Everyone else-thanks. I may talk to her on AIM for now and attempt to figure out her motives. But for now I don't plan on meeting with her.

[Edited 2006-06-30 16:29:13]
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 11:43 pm

The quesiton on everyone's mind (already, maybe just mine) is...

When you broke up, did you have break-up sex?
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Fri Jun 30, 2006 11:58 pm

Quoting IFEMaster (Reply 23):
When you broke up, did you have break-up sex?

No as she was in DFW and I was in DAY...I did go on a pot/beer binge drinking and smoking every night for two weeks. I felt like a rock star  Wink

I talked to my current girlfriend. She doesn't mind if I meet with my ex. She isn't thrilled about the idea, but she understands my curiousity.

I just send a text to my ex telling her to give me some more heads up when she is coming so I can make time for her. She tried to brush me off by saying 'I may be back in August, but I don't know. I'll let you know.' She'll be back in August and she will call me...I got the upper hand (Sienfeld?)
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:01 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 22):
I may talk to her on AIM for now and attempt to figure out her motives. But for now I don't plan on meeting with her.

Don't even do that, Ryan. It'll get the mind thinking, analyzing and justifying.

Its not worth it, regardless of motives. You have been fine for the past 2.5 years without having any contact with her, why suddently is it imperative that you communicate with her again?

For your sake, for your heart and mind's sake and for your current girlfriends sake, avoid all contact with her (regardless of curiousity).

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:41 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Hey, brother. PM me her details. I'll take one for the team, this time. I'll take her out, wine her, dine her, dance her, bed her...whatever it takes to make sure that you are the last thing on her mind.

BAB
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Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:44 am

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 26):
Hey, brother. PM me her details. I'll take one for the team, this time. I'll take her out, wine her, dine her, dance her, bed her...whatever it takes to make sure that you are the last thing on her mind.

Sorry bro she doesn't date smug, trash, wanna-be tough guys...So you guys aren't compatible
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Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:48 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 27):
Go big or go home

I guess she dumped you when she read your signature. Go home was her only option.

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:52 am

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 28):
guess she dumped you when she read your signature. Go home was her only option.

Yeah I guess so...?

Still waiting for you to meet me and JCS
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:58 am

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 26):
I'll take one for the team, this time. I'll take her out, wine her, dine her, dance her, bed her...whatever it takes to make sure that you are the last thing on her mind.

I was wondering who was going to offer to fall on the sword for AA61hvy.....and BAB didn't disappoint  wink  .....

Quoting Diamond (Reply 15):
The most effective way to show her that you're doing fine is to show her that you don't see much purpose in getting together anymore.

If you've really moved on, then move on.

Well said, Diamond.....

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 1:06 am

Quoting Diamond (Reply 15):
The most effective way to show her that you're doing fine is to show her that you don't see much purpose in getting together anymore.

If you've really moved on, then move on.

Well at the time, the break up was so sudden. It was not on my terms and I was not ready for it. So she always has a peice of me, and part of me will always love her. My current girlfriend knows that and understands. So it's hard to fully move on.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 1:45 am

Quoting CO7e7 (Reply 2):

women are nothing but trouble none-stop
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 1:47 am

Just meet her and see what happens - you don't have to do anything but listen.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 1:56 am

Quoting Diamond (Reply 15):
The most effective way to show her that you're doing fine is to show her that you don't see much purpose in getting together anymore.

If you've really moved on, then move on.

Well said!

Quoting Jap (Reply 18):
What are you guys on about?

I highly doubt she wants to see you because she wants to start a new relationship- but because she wants to talk about what happened. Nothing more, nothing less

Please she wants to see what she gave up and see if she should hit it yet again. Pure evil if you ask me.

Quoting Kaddyuk (Reply 21):
The fact that you have to ask means its a bad idea...

Again well said.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 3:19 am

Go meet her but tell your girlfriend you're going. Its most likely she wants to put the past behind you and become friends. She probably feels guilty. If she suggests trying again, make it clear that you are happy with your current girlfriend but that you would like to be friends.

YAY go meet her just tell your girlfriend and don't do anytrhing that you might regret later. And don't drink anyhting


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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 3:32 am

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 28):
I guess she dumped you when she read your signature. Go home was her only option.

 
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 3:52 am

Stay away from this woman, she's looking for trouble.

If you can't stay away, bring your current girlfriend with you so you can:

a. Rub it in that you have a girl and a life.

b. Not piss off the current girl.
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Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:40 am

Quoting DL021 (Reply 37):
If you can't stay away, bring your current girlfriend with you so you can:

a. Rub it in that you have a girl and a life.

b. Not piss off the current girl.

c. Threesome
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:47 am

If you want to get into a dangerous situation jay. Otherwise nay believe me.
 
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sat Jul 01, 2006 5:03 am

There is ALWAYS an ulterior motive when an ex wants to see you, it is never for the reason you would like to believe.

There are always exceptions, but when an ex is involved, they are very rare.
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Sat Jul 01, 2006 5:06 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 38):
Quoting DL021 (Reply 37):
If you can't stay away, bring your current girlfriend with you so you can:

a. Rub it in that you have a girl and a life.

b. Not piss off the current girl.

c. Threesome

And yet you continue to think with the wrong "head"!
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Sat Jul 01, 2006 5:15 am

Quoting Luv2fly (Reply 41):
And yet you continue to think with the wrong "head"!

I'm just playing...Bringing my current girlfriend to meet my ex would be like putting a stick of dynamite in a fireplace...My ex knows I have a GF but thats it. My current GF knows most of my past relationship. My current GF does not care for the way my ex treated me. And when she gets the chance she will vocalize her problems to my ex...Not something I want to be involved with.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Sun Jul 02, 2006 4:53 am

Quoting LSPA (Reply 10):
I would sort your feelings first and be sure what you really wand and what you really think of her.

I am of the opinion that it is good that you are courteous with her, but the buck stops there. Going to see her has the potential to get you in a very uncomfortable position, no pun intended.

You also need to think what is going on with your current relationship, that a phone call from ex, makes you make time to go see her.

Quoting Jap (Reply 18):
highly doubt she wants to see you because she wants to start a new relationship- but because she wants to talk about what happened. Nothing more, nothing less- this isn't an attempt to win you back (if it was, she would've tried sooner, not two years into the future), but probably an attempt to "kiss and make up" and win you back as a FRIEND- nothing more.

Whatever, friendship is earned, you don't dump someone the way this girl dumped him and 2.5 years later call to see if you can meet, to see if you can be friends. I'm not saying this an attempt to kiss and make up but it is an attempt to get her shoe in the door, because for her, the last 2.5 years have probably been shitty and she wants back what she decided to let go. Why want to talk about what happened 2.5 years ago? If she really had any good feelings toward him, she would do the right thing and stay away.

Quoting Jap (Reply 18):
I say go see her

I say stay away

Quoting Jap (Reply 18):
And while you're at it, ask your girlfriend what she thinks. You COULD also take her along (unless you think she's gonna go nuts and kick the living daylights out of your ex that is). If she's really, really, REALLY against it (not in a "I hope you know what you're doing" way, but "IF YOU DO THIS, I'LL FRIGGIN LEAVE YOU!" way), don't... and explain to your ex that your girlfriend would be uncomfortable with you going.

You'll get in trouble if your current girlfriend knows how much pain the other one made you go through and you go see her. She will feel confused, devalued and that her relationship is at risk.

Quoting Pope (Reply 20):
I say you grow a pair and decide for yourself. Did you ever consider that the reason she dumped you may be because you make decisions based on the input of strangers on an internet message board?

Read again. This is the N-O-N A-V-I-A-T-I-O-N F-O-R-U-M Accordin to the rules this forum is about anything really. If he feels he can get good advice here, then he's free to ask. If you don't like it, read the title of his thread and move on. I have gotten good advice here, and made good friends.

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 22):
I may talk to her on AIM for now and attempt to figure out her motives.

You are not a detective from CSI or one of the Hardy boys. You are not in highschool anymore. You don't need to figure out her motives. You need to ignore her and stay away, out of respect for yourself, first, and for respect for your current relationship. Try to remember how she made you feel 2,5 years ago, what you went through, and I bet you'll feel less and less inclined to see her.

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 31):
So it's hard to fully move on.

If after 2.5 years you still find it hard to move on, but are in another relationship, then you have issues. Remember that there are people around you involved in this situation that you can really hurt. Try to find out what you want, how do you feel now, what kind of future are you looking at.

My ex-fiancee dumped me, over the phone, the night before one very difficult exam on grad school. Then, she married a guy twice her and my age four months later. I will not dwelve into what I went through, suffice it to say that it was not a good 8 months.

After two years, she divorced, the husband pulled some legal maneuvers and and left her without a dime. Then she started to call me. "Can we go have a coffee?", "Would you come to dinner one night?, my parents really missed you" "Can you help me with my resume?" and on and on. It took a while to realize that I was being manipulated. When I realized, I asked her politely to get on with her life, and to keep me out of it.
 
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Mon Jul 03, 2006 1:32 pm

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 31):
So she always has a peice of me, and part of me will always love her. My current girlfriend knows that and understands.

Your girlfried may tell you she understands but she is NOT happy about this! I can assure you she does NOT understand why you would want to jeopardize your current relationship by meeting up with the old girl.

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 42):
My current GF does not care for the way my ex treated me.

Well of course she doesn't! And of course she's only heard YOUR side of the story too. And of course, she sees the other woman as a threat.

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 42):
I'm just playing...

Well stop it. Nothing good can come from this.

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 31):
So it's hard to fully move on.

Try!

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 42):
Not something I want to be involved with.

Ah, the moment of clarity.

Ryan, you need to make a decision here. Let the old girl go completely or figure out what's wrong with your current girl that you're so tempted to let the old girl back in. Your new girl is probably feeling pretty insecure at the moment ... If you're really in love with the current girl, you could turn this situation into your favour by saying something like "Why would I want to see her since I have you? She's nothing compared to you...."

I have a feeling you will go and see your ex ... and I think you are going to be sorry for doing so. Let us know what happens.

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Tue Jul 04, 2006 12:37 am

Just invite her to your home, meet her together with your wonderfull new girlfriend and make sure she feels shit for breaking up with you on the phone.
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Tue Jul 04, 2006 9:22 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
So what do you guys think I should do? I'm clueless right now.
Thanks guys!

She had her chance, she blew it. Kick her butt to the curb, dude. She burned you once, what's stopping her from doing it again?
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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Tue Jul 04, 2006 10:20 am

Quoting Kaddyuk (Reply 21):
The fact that you have to ask means its a bad idea...

For once, I have to agree with Kevin  eek   Wink



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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Tue Jul 04, 2006 2:18 pm

Quoting Canuckpaxguy (Reply 44):
Your girlfried may tell you she understands but she is NOT happy about this! I can assure you she does NOT understand why you would want to jeopardize your current relationship by meeting up with the old girl.



Quoting Canuckpaxguy (Reply 44):
I have a feeling you will go and see your ex ... and I think you are going to be sorry for doing so.

Ryan.....here's a news tip from a female. You are looking for big trouble...as Canuckpaxguy has noted in the quotes above....and believe me he is right. We all have feelings for one reason or another for any person we've been in a serious relationship with but we all move on.

She dumped you like a piece of garbage....she did not for one second give a dam how you'd feel...or how much she would hurt you. Sounds like she is one ungrateful female.....she pushed you to the curb.

If I was your current g/f....I'd dump you on your arse so fast...any guy that can't move on and get over a so called x g/f after what she did to you needs to take a long hard look at what he really wants and if your current g/f is smart she'd move on for the simple reason that she sure isn't #1.

Sorry but that's an opinion from a female point of view.

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RE: Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?

Tue Jul 04, 2006 9:49 pm

AA61Heavy

If you are very happy with your current GF, then no, I would tell the ex that I am with someone I am happy with and commited to, so thanks, but no thanks. There is no point in stirring the pot with your current GF.

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